To sleep with a 25 year old

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I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

Ha ha! Nor do I.

Or if there are, I’ve never met him. 😀

I wouldn’t op. The age gap would be too much for me. You can get some very mature young men, and some very immature old men, so age isn’t everything by any means, but it would feel a bit wrong to me.

Especially if your village is like mine! The news would spread like wildfire!

Go for it. You're both adults, so why not.

All these "my son is that age, eww"

OP isn't fucking your son is she? And even if she was, it would be none of your business whatsoever, and absolutely nothing thing wrong with it, as two consenting adults.

It's not wrong , but is it right ? Imagine finding out your 25 year old daughter was sleeping with a 43 year old neighbour .

This is an insane take on 2 consenting ADULTS having sex.

how disrespectful to those women who have experienced something so horrific and you compare it to THIS?

Sounds like he's the predator if anyone is op had turned him down several times and he keeps trying it on again and again

He's been chasing me....

People out here acting like you’re Sam Taylor-Johnson lmao

God you men have it so hard don't you 🤣🤣🤣 this is actually ridiculous

Couldn't that be said of any man, regardless of age?

I say go for it, OP. I'm your age, have been pursued by younger men in the past and thoroughly enjoyed it. Married now, but if I wasn't and the opportunity presented itself I wouldn't give the age gap a thought. He's obviously not a young 25 year old either, but has his own place and business.

I would be worried he was only pursuing you for a bet with his friends. The fact that he’s living six doors away should be enough to put you off also. Surely there are other men out there.

If your a private person don't do it
I can't see it being kept quiet and that could affect life for you in a small village.

I'd be cautious because you're both living in the village. I know what these can be like for gossip and loyalties.

Not a 'no' but I'd keep it discrete for a while.

Amen.

God the other posters are such prudes - bloody go for it! Live your life and don’t care what other people think! Anyone who judges you for this isn’t worth knowing imo.!

Yeah I don't know why people are overthinking a bit of cock.. There's no power imbalance, he has his own home, business etc. He's hardly a vulnerable young shrinking violet is he. And for those worried OP will become embarrassed by gossip - there is nothing shameful in casual sex.

Go for it, both consenting adults!

Complex
How would you respect yourself more?
How is he likely to respect you more?
Think long term and being trustworthy neighbours.
You might enjoy not being exlovers.
Use your wisdom. What is most beneficial to him? Does it complicate him being available to meet a life partner his own age?
Will his eventual young wife like to live next door to you?
Could you genuinely be on the Flowershow committee with his mother?
If he were your son, would you warm to the older woman?

Your reputation is invaluable. You can't get it back if your name is smeared. I personally couldn't as I'd feel as though I were playing with fire.

I was horrified when my then 18yo spent the night with a 40yo he'd met at a club. He'd literally been in school uniform earlier that day.

But 25 seems old enough to make one's own sensible choices and there's less likelihood of a power imbalance.

I think op seems like someone who can v much own this situation, however it works out.
For the sake of equality, I've considered my reaction to one of the 25yo women in work and one of the 40 something men, honestly once they're single, I wouldn't think anything of it! I'm the same at heart as I was at 25, it doesn't seem that long ago. Experience and wisdom yes,huge growth but he's a fully fledged adult. Enjoy OP!!

It's a shag, really not that deep.

😂😂

This has got to be the most craziest reply 😂

What does “establishing yourself in the village” even mean? The OP’s sex life is absolutely nothing to do with other people in the village.

You sound like one of those fishwife busybody curtain twitchers. Like fuck should she make friends with this guys random mother.