To sleep with a 25 year old

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I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

If it was a bloke, I'm sure people wouldn't be encouraging it.

Oh grow up. We can all play that game. I was only 10 when my partner was 18...once you're both adults it's very different.

You're only as young as the man you feel!! As if this would even be a question a 41 year old man would ask. My friend has just turned 40 and she has an incredible 29 year old husband.

I guess the two questions are can you handle

• more casual sex
• or if you do become a committed couple, and he wants kids, what would happen? Would you rush to have a baby in your 40s with someone you haven't dated that long? Or would he leave you in five years for someone he'll have babies with?

It’s tricky and I can see why you’re hesitating but I reckon go for it - early 40s women can be at sexual peak and you sound amazing and - you’re hardly pressurising him. Don’t let your feelings for him derail the good place you’re now in tho!

He lives 6 doors down from you. It's awkward. Don't be that piece of meat.

I had an incredible
Holiday romance when I was 32 with a 21 year d

Or he could be that piece if meat?? Why again are people on here describing women like this?

They're actually nicer and more appreciative and sensitive than men the same age aren't they

This.

He’s an adult and can make his own decisions.

Seems like he’s decided he wants to pursue you… so go for it and let him!

It would definitely be more of a casual thing for me.
I would also make all of that clear from the start.

I just wouldn't trust him. Why is he going after a woman in her 40s? He can't be looking for a longterm thing. Apologies if I'm wrong but I'm not getting good vibes.

It also depends a lot on each person - my DP and I started dating when he was 26 and he looked/acted miles more grown than other men his age.

I’m assuming this guy isn’t giving OP a childish vibe otherwise she wouldn’t be entertaining it.

I like this! I hope my (so far imaginary) future husband talks about me like this in 20 years time sounds like you have a great marriage!

Who said I'm looking for long term . He liked the chemistry when we met and we chatted and got on. He can have any woman his age he wants I expect , I'm not stopping him. He's free to do what he pleases

I don't think there are

There’s no harm in having fun, but I fear things will conclude with you feeling upset or being made to feel awkward (because people will gossip). If things become awkward between you this will be exacerbated by the fact that you live so close to eachother. I just can’t see a happy outcome to this, other than a bit of fun in bed which, in my view, isn’t worth it, considering the possible complications

Can’t believe some of the things people are saying to you!!! How hideous! Because you are right, if it was gender roles reversed… no one would bat an eyelid
What is wrong with 2 consenting adults having fun! Go for it! Have fun

I don't think there are either 😂

Or they might be jealous

My son is 25. It's making me feel quite icky to think of him being intimate with a 43 year old. It feels predatory.

Why not? If you fancy each other, give it a go. Worst thing that can happen is you have some excellent sex and part friends. Best thing is that you can have some excellent sex for a longer time and part friends.

There comes a point in life that you have to not really care too much about gossip or what others think. People will gossip about whatever. Some in OP's case will gossip because they are jealous she has a great sex life.

OK. As long as you're OK with it purely being a physical thing, and using each other in that way. If you will be fine with him moving on to other women after this, then do what you want.

People are weird about this stuff on here. Properly weird. You are both adults, go and enjoy yourself (and him!)

@GoldsolesLugs lol this is ridiculous hyperbole