To sleep with a 25 year old

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I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

Hmmm...think this would be a bit too close to home for me and a bit too much of an age gap, but I wouldn't judge you if neither of those things bothered you.

I would 100% do it. Have fun

YANBU: definitely sex him
YABU: girly night

Op you sound awesome. You have your head screwed on and know not to expect too much. Have a bit of fun! You'll always be wondering what if otherwise.

As a side note it's very depressing to see all the 'grim/gross/desperate' misogyny from other women. It's possible to give an opinion without being so bloody rude. Me thinks there might be a few green eyed monsters on this thread.

Well you clearly don't rarely bump into each other as you've stated all those times you have bumped into each other. You're already sexting him so what is the true purpose of this thread?

Check if his dad is single and whether you fancy him first. Then crack on

We have not sexted each other once.
We have bumped into each other while out in pub in shop . What I meant is I have never bumped into him on my street

You said things heated up when you messaged.

His dad is 70 and married to his mother so 👎

It would be a no from me.
I wouldnt like it if the ages were the other way round and he was the older one.

*Honestlyhonay · Today 22:46

YANBU: definitely sex him
YABU: girly night**
Don't be daft. Girly night is a perfectly ok if you want to call it that. No need to police anyone's expressions

Not one message was sexting. We flirted as in he said I looked nice when he saw me at the shop. Heated up as in him saying just let me take you put give me a chance a couple cute gifts sent . No sexting. I don't do sexting if find it incredibly boring

That's going to be so embarrassing if/when it goes wrong.

However, so say a lot of men have ''granny fantasies''- this alone would be enough to put me off.

Norah Batty's wrinkled stockings and carpet slippers and hair in rollers!

So when you were 18, an adult, he was just being born? Ew.

I'm sure he's out of nappies now.

Go for it. Hopefully he won’t be crap in bed. When I was in my mid to late twenties I had a ONS with a teenager- think he was 19. It was very flattering (I was just out of a shitty marriage, two young kids etc) but crap sex. I can’t even recall the poor guy’s name… bless him.

Your lad sounds a bit more confident and mature although young… so hopefully he’ll be decent in bed and match your stamina!!!

Hopefully

Lets hope! {That can be a kink, especially with High Court Judges, who like to be ''babied'' } -although not many of those are in their twenties.

That doesn't make it less creepy.

I personally wouldn't do it, but it's not that bad.
It's not like he's a child.

He's 25, a fully fledged adult, no morally wrong about it. Go for it! I doubt you'll regret it and even if you do - so what? It happens.

Might be the best you've ever had...

Go for it. You are past your shit marriage now. You have lost weight and feel good and happy.
This is your reward.

Sounds like you have considered this and are aware of the potential pitfalls.

The aftermath is only as awkward as you make it, you are both grown adults. I’d you are feeling it, I would say go for it and have fun 😊

25 is very, very different from 19 as far as sexual experience goes, in most cases.

You can't even be sure a 19 year-old man isn't a virgin these days.

Age gap no problem, but 6 doors down is too close to home unfortunately.

I would go for it.

It will be a bit of fun, it's flattering to get attention and I'm sure will be good for the confidence!!