To sleep with a 25 year old

[Lolalovestheflowers]

I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

If there is no vulnerability on his part and you arnt using grooming techniques to seduce him being honest and up front with him about the viability of anything serious
fucking go for it why the hell not ??!!

Ha ha! The OP sounds like fun, so maybe I wish I was 😀.

But naa, she’s way too young for me. I couldn’t do it: the neighbours might talk, then I could never face the village vegetable club again. 😂

What a ridiculous thing to say. Clearly no-one in this scenario is forcing anyone else to do anything against their will/without consent 🙄🙄🙄

You are making assumptions. I think we are just really used to it being acceptable that older men want younger women and older women are not attractive to younger men but that’s not true.

My friend has a partner who is 15 years her junior. She is mid 69s now.

Macron and his wife are another example.

If the OP and the interested man are both fully aware and consenting then why not? It’s only icky if it’s coercive and exploitative. If she was shamelessly trying lure and coerce a younger man into bed then yuk. But he fancies her. He’s pursuing her.

I have ran a pub in a little village like yours maybe, OP. We had our regulars in, busy most afternoons. There was a lady, Becky in her 40ties and a group of young lads 26 to 28. One of them, Kallum has been pursuing Becky relentlessly and all the lads were egging them on. Becky was not sure because she had teenage sons, and the age difference and gossip. They slept together and Kallum spared no details to anyone who would listen, as well as immediately cutting contact with Becky. She was gossiped about and called a village bike, stopped coming to pub. You say you don't care what people say, so maybe that doesn't concern you, as long as you know that people will talk about you and judge you, but if it doesn't phase you, I can't see a problem

@RadioCountdown Macron is hardly the best example, he was underaged when they met.

But you would save on the fuel 😂

I'd be worried you were some kind of dare from his friends.

It's the neighbours thing that would put me off the most, and then the gossip from the neighbours...

Some of the responses on here are so funny 🤣 Who says you have to be the same age or similar in age to someone to shag them? 🤣

If the sexes were reversed I don't think there would be so many posters telling a 45 year old man to go and have a bit of fun.

Well skank again is a misogynistic word isn't it? Same as slut, whore, sket ... the list goes on. Names we only give to women mainly for enjoying a helathy sex life. My point is if anyone calls me misogynistic names I wouldn't want to get on with that type of person anyway as it would show low intelligence and narrow mindedness. I'd be happy to not talk to such neighbours.
He is single I am single were not hurting anybody here

As I said, it's up to you OP, you're not doing anything illegal. However, I doubt that you'll feel this way when people are gossiping about you.

I mean, in some states in America you can legally shag your relatives as long as you're all consenting adults, but that doesn't mean that other people aren't going to think it's gross.

Ha ha! But that depends. I’m in Norfolk. Where are you? 😀

I suppose I could consider facing a bleak future where I have to buy my own runner beans …

Thank you sir for setting us all straight 🙄

I wouldn’t, you’ve just moved to a new village and he lives a few doors away.

@Lolalovestheflowers I can only say from my own experience that you should definitely go for it, OP. I'm currently in a friends-with-benefits situation with a 33 year old. I am 55 myself. I posted about it on MN last year. I'm still seeing him. I don't regret it at all. Sex with him is the best I've ever had. We turn each other on massively. The only caveat is that I'm falling for him big time. I feel amazing when I'm with him. I hope it works out well for you with the younger man if you do go for it.

I'd say go for it

Go for it. As long as you are honest with him there are really no issues.

and please do report back. 😁

he’s within the ‘half your age plus 7’ rule. Age wise it’s all fine. But fast forward a few years when he and his wife and kids are your neighbours .. Will you feel ok then? If so go for it

He is young enough to be your son and you are old enough to be his mother. You know in your heart its icky and wrong which is why you have come on here.

Besides, he will have much more respect and admiration for you if you just decline his advances with some dignity rather than accepting his offers or being flattered by them it just screams desperate.

Women/men in their 40’s have no business with men/women in their 20’s, it all just seems very wrong.

Surely a man closer to your own age bracket would have so much more to offer you than a “lad” does.

She's mid-69s now? God I hope that's a typo 🤣

No he's not. OP is 42, half that is 21. Add 7 to 21 and you get 28 meaning OP can't date anyone below 28. Not sure who enforces this rule and what the penalties are for breaking it however...

No, but only because he's a close neighbour in an area you've just moved to. Give it a bit more time to get a feel for the place and the people, then decide.

@Lolalovestheflowers - interesting you said his dad is 70 - it seems to add up to his view that he doesn't see the age gap as a big deal. You are much younger than his parents.

Go for it but I'd try and see him for lunch / pub etc several times before having sex. Enjoy it but take it slower so you can see what he's really like before committing to anything more

Have fun!

You seem insecure and in need of the ego boost