Breastfeeding comment

[PregnantAtLast]

I'm currently 2 months pregnant. Shared the good news with parents over Christmas, all lovely.

I told my mum I'd be breastfeeding when she asked. She said "Oh, will you be getting one of those shawls like your cousin had?"
(Basically to cover myself and the baby when I am feeding).

It made me feel really uncomfortable that she expects me to cover myself feeding my child in my own family home.

AIBU to push back on this and insist on feeding how I want to, or do I need to respect her wishes when I'm in her home?

I am so shocked in 2025 to see such thickos on one thread. Are you not all embarrassed about your viewpoints? Do you not want better for women?

I am sure the militant bfeeders on this thread are congratulating themselves on advocating for their baby and patting themselves on the back for making a stand on bfeeding.
You cannot force someone to change their views, no matter how right you are convinced you are, so the choice is either fall out or compromise.
No, you can't force them. But you can just ignore their ridiculousness, carry on breastfeeding as normal, that's just normal not militant in any way and if they want to continue to enforce their ridiculousness then they can. But any fall out is on them. They can choose to get over it or stay offended over nothing.

And why are people making out this is a generational issue? My parents and PIL are aged 72-79, when I was first breastfeeding they were 66-72. None of them batted and eyelid or thought it was the least odd. My mum thought it was really weird when I explained you can buy these big apron things now to hide under.

This is individual squeamishness. It's not a difference between generations.

@ShesNotACowShesAFox you are 100 percent correct, people can pretend all they like that it is nothing to do with the fact that they have been taught that boobs are there for pleasure all they want - what other reason would they have?

Totally agree @DappledThings

Why do breastfeeding threads always get so ridiculous?

Yep. It just so happens that out of all the body parts functioning as they should, it’s breasts that gross them outs. Nothing to do with sexism these people don’t even watch adverts 🤣🤣

I’m on the other side of the fence to most people. I have no issues with breast feeding what so ever, I just don’t understand why anyone would want sit in a room full of people whether you know them or not with their tits out.

Ive never seen anyone with their “tits out” on a room full of people.

A baby’s head normally covers a while breast. Let’s not behave like we are stupid teenage boys maybe?

Also why on earth would you “have issues with breastfeeding?”

Its like saying you have an issue with walking or having a snack.
Did you expect a medal for this?

Which is fine but entirely irrelevant given that we are talking about one woman with one part of breast briefly exposed while she feeds her baby. Which bears no relation to your "room full of people with their tits out". Did you confuse one woman breastfeeding with an evening at Stringfellows?

yanbu for being happy to breastfeed without a cover. Honestly with the baby's head in the way, no one can see all that much anyway. Wear a strappy vest and another top - vest goes down, top goes up, and it's just a small window which is covered by baby.

yabu for getting upset by her comment. It's harmless and you can just say no. It's not a big deal to go into another room to feed anyway - you'll probably want a bit of calm, and a private moment with the baby. Often when I was around family I fed in another room just for the quiet, especially at the start.

It the answer to your question @satsumaqueen is - to feed a baby. Thats probably why they want to breastfeed in a room full of people

I really worry that these people are raising children. Worse, if they’re raising girls.

I’m not uncomfortable with breastfeeding as I’ve already told you. I am defending people’s right to feel uncomfortable with it. Some people are uncomfortable with any sort of nudity. That’s fine. That’s their prerogative.

Whats not fine is trampling over your mother’s boundaries in her own home.

People have a right to feel uncomfortable about whatever they like. What they don’t have is a right to impose that discomfort (especially if it’s irrational and affects a child) on other people, when they could just get over it instead.

I have, I’ve seen someone with their tits out in Starbucks. And the babies head doesn’t always cover the whole breast if you got big boobs.

Again with the nudity comment @StormingNorman - unless you’re wearing a niqab parts of you are naked now. How is the skin of a breast any different to the skin of an arm? And do you think these people never go to the beach or swimming pool?

Who suggested the baby should go hungry? You didn’t answer the questions and I know how you like a question to be answered.

Both breasts completely topless?

BTW are you 13? Why are you using the word “tits”?

Again it’s SO interesting how the people offended by public breastfeeding have these elaborate stories. when those of us who are normal have never seen this.

Thickos 😂😂😂

Alright dullard, no need for name-calling.

I did answer your questions. You said “What gives you the right to impose your choice on other people”. The baby feeds and it isn’t their choice so they aren’t imposing anything.

If have the right because my baby needs fed and that’s more important than some misogynist thicko boo-booing about a “tit”

Ill ask you - if your child had a birthmark on their face and you took them to a relatives would you be totally understanding of the relative said “Take them out of here or cover their face, I’m uncomfortable, here’s my boundary and you have no right to cross it”?

Would that be ok or would that be rather ridiculous?

yep, thickos. Seriously there’s some serious lack of intelligence on this thread starting with the half wits who think being anti-BF is nothing to do with sexism 😂

Call me what you like I’m not a big cry baby offended by words and breastfeeding

Adverts for breasts?

There is individuality but, in general terms, I think the most supportive are those who have been through the breastfeeding journey as a family themselves, men as well as women. Those who haven’t done that, which includes many older people in the UK as well as many adolescents, students and others, tend to be be less familiar with and supportive of breastfeeding. Though older people have the benefit of a broader life experience which helps.

Personally, I found women of my mother’s generation to be a bit defensive when BF was brought up. They were upset to think that it was the recommended choice and that they didn’t know and did things differently with their children is the feeling I got. Some wanted to deny its benefits.

I know the breastfeeding threads always bring out the die hard breast feeders who hate anyone that suggests something other than being entirely comfortable with it, but whether anyone likes it or not, it’s okay for people to be uncomfortable with it.

Every single person on this thread will have something in life that makes them feel uncomfortable, and that’s to be respected whatever that is because you can’t help how you feel.

You do whatever you want in your own home, but if someone doesn’t want to you to expose yourself in their home (regardless of whether agree with it and regardless of whether it’s just for a split second), they are entitled to have their opinion. Just the same as you have the right to your opinion and the choice to not go round their if you don’t want to.

Time to start accepting ladies that not everyone has to okay with something because you are.