To complain about a GP calling me this?

[lolit]

He called me a good girl while examining me. Should I complain or am I overreacting?

@ttcat37 but I wouldn't see this as misogyny, if he called OP 'Babe' or similar I would but, woman/girl/lady I'm comfortable with all of those terms for referring to me by someone who doesn't know me well.

Same as I might use lads or boys interchangeably to thank someone or "good lad" with a non-patronising intention of someone doing what you ask in an uncomfortable scenario like staying still while having first aid or similar administered.

Just because you find it misogynistic doesn't mean the rest of us do.

GPs often say stuff in an effort to put people at ease. Its not meant to patronise or insult a patient.

If thats all youve got to worry about after a visit to the GP, consider yourself lucky.

@lolit , in what way we’re you actually harmed? This ridiculous culture of offence really boils my pee. If you complain I sincerely hope the practice laughs in your face. By the way get a new GP, preferably one who is so up their own arse they can’t be remotely human in their relationship with you. I hope you enjoy the robotic relationship you will have with them. 🙄

It’s definitely gross and would have made me feel uncomfortable. I think I would only complain had it been during an examination or something? Was it?

The complaint is he uses sexist and outdated language which impacts on your trust in his professionalism.

imagine a man being called a good little boy by a doctor!

Women can’t accept this kind of nonsense

I think a complaint is entirely appropriate. His language was patronising and upset you. I'm sure he didn't 'mean anything by it' as other posters have suggested, but that's not the point. He's woefully ignorant and needs to be educated.

I would put money on him never calling men 'good boy'.

How many times do you think the doctor has called an adult man ‘good boy’?

This is misogyny. Just because you can’t recognise it doesn’t make it not so.

Well that's a leap

How vulnerable are we talking, should there have been a chaperone, that type of examination?

If an intimate examination it might perhaps alter my view. If not then my previous comment stands. My dentist has said something similar I’m pretty sure. They’re just trying to have a bedside manner but sometimes don’t always get it right.

A lot of people are assuming he said it a condescending tone, so the response on this thread made me question why is it exactly it made me so uncomfortable and I realised it's because he didn't say it in a condescending tone, but in a sexual one tbh. It gives me the shivers just thinking about and I have decided to definitely report him. It's my duty to at least try to stop him from making another female patient uncomfortable.

this is why our society is fucked - people ridicule other for standing up for basic standards.

men get away with treating women like less intelligent individuals because we are programmed to take it.

out of interest if your boss called you a good girl how would you react? Or a subordinate? I would be horrified and would assume they were having some sort of mental break

If offended or annoyed, you should have said something at the time.
But, for the love of God, don't put in a complaint.

Yes

I mean, you've every right to complain but just expect a pithy response from the practice manager. I complained regarding a very traumatic 24 period when an elderly relative slowly passed away at home and the response from the GP to administer final meds (morphine) was shambolic at best and got the most half hearted fk you letter.

Get a sense of perspective. And as for it being a sexual tone, thats likely how you chose to interpret it. There's every chance he would say good lad to guy under 40 but that doesnt annoy the feminists.

I’m sorry that you’ve been so brainwashed by the patriarchy that you think that this is remotely acceptable to say.

So people who feel unable to deal with confrontation for whatever reason should just put up with being treated poorly?

OP should absolutely complain if she wants to.

I was made to feel very uncomfortable in a moment when I should have been put at ease (during an examination)

oh heavens no - don’t complain about a sexist GP. Let him get on with treating g women like either sexual objects or second class citizens!

don’t make a fuss, that poor man probably has a wife and kids at home to support. He has to put up with women in the workplace all day. With their nonsense! Women shouldn’t have been given the vote - that’s when all this madness started!

Do report him. Creepy af.

Yeah my dentist often says it to me, it’s just meant to reassure.

Some older people men and women call each other that all the time, it's how they talk.

He probably has a daughter or granddaughter and it slipped out as a commonly said phrase.

I’ve been called a good girl by nurses younger than me for having “good veins.” I’m 52 😂

If he calls their daughter and grandaughter that in the same tone as he called me, that's even more creepy...

I’m guessing this was during an intimate examination?