To complain about a GP calling me this?

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He called me a good girl while examining me. Should I complain or am I overreacting?

He will offer her some antidepressants

Nah. Move on.

Was it an intimate examination and so 100% not unreasonable to be repulsed.

anything else then he’s been inappropriate but not worth complaining about.

He was old enough to be my father. It made me extremely uncomfortable

I think a complaint is justified. He needs it brought home to him that this language is not acceptable.
Does he say “good boy” to men I wonder? Or offer a choc drop or bonio after?!
It is all the worse given it was said whilst you were in a vulnerable position ie being examined and because he is a health professional who should be aware that a patient’s dignity is extremely important.
I am a retired nurse and would say that a formal complaint is entirely justified.
If nobody complains he will continue to think is acceptable behaviour so in complaining you are helping all the other women he will go on to upset in the future.

To be my father*

Is there a way of passing on feedback that you were called ‘good girl’ but that’s pretty patronising? So you aren’t complaining per se because that seems OTT but you are calling it out.

Well I suppose if you are a 6' 9" navvy built like a brick shithouse then yeah, complain. If not just get over yourself.

I would find it an odd slightly creepy phrase to use, but I probably would just laugh at it with my mates / family, especially if I didn't object at the time and there was nothing else that was off. Often you can change doctors at the same surgery, or ask if there is a female doctor to see. Complaining is over the top. I once had a GP asking me to take my panties off, and I found that a bit of an odd term too, but put it down to me being slightly weird about the word "panties", preferring almost anything - knickers, pants, underwear etc. It was a female GP, but it wouldn't have mattered, still found the turn of phrase a bit off-putting.

OP ignoring the pertinent question of which body area doc was examining. I'm guessing it wasnt the old horses collar after all.

You should've complained to him at the time if it bothered you? 😳

I was in a vulnerable position and taken aback.

I'm sorry you felt uncomfortable as going to the doctors is often an unpleasant experience anyway. Could you maybe ask to see a different GP, perhaps a woman in future? Unfortunately complaints of this nature very rarely seem to go very far, and it might take up more time and emotional investment than it's worth.

Anyway, best wishes and hope you feel better soon.

Thank you, you have verbalised perfectly why I feel a complaint is warranted.

Interesting how the comments seem to be split by women who enable this misogyny and those who are appalled by it.

This. No, he shouldn’t have said it but when you’re talking to so many patients per day it’s easy to start messing your words up. I highly doubt he meant to say it!!

Ugh, that's absolutely gross and completely unacceptable. "Good girl" is a phrase form the dom/sub dynamic of the kink community. I bet he's into kink and secretly got off on saying that, knowing you probably wouldn't pick up on it. A thousand times yuck.

People must be so exhausted being so angry all the time. It may be viewed as patronising but for the most part it’s harmless. No wonder no one wants to work with the public anymore.

Well that escalated quickly.......

Gross??
Bit of an overreaction!

Is it harmless if it made me extremely uncomfortable as a young woman do be told that by an older man in a vulnerable moment?

Drs of old used to say this all the time. I think if it was an old gp I would let it go as I imagine it's probably just habit.

Bleurgh that makes me feel physically sick. Please complain so that it doesn't keep happening. To those saying it's a slip of the tongue - who do you reckon he's regularly saying good girl to?!

That has seriously creeped me out. 🤮

I'd phrase it as feedback that it's not appropriate for GP to use the term good girl and would prefer that term wasn't used in future.
If you were happy with level of care apart from that I would mention that as well