To complain about a GP calling me this?

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He called me a good girl while examining me. Should I complain or am I overreacting?

This time last year my (female) GP said I was a good girl and offered me a sticker for bringing my cholesterol down. It was funny, not offensive.

Did you miss that the doctor (not vet) said ‘good girl’ (to an adult human, not a dog) in a sexual way? Whilst examining her?

Why do some women make excuses for men and try to rationalise their misogynistic behaviour?

No wonder people are leaving healthcare professions in droves. It wouldn't even occur to me to make a complaint about this.

hang on - catching up here. So am I right about this:

An older male GP, old enough to be your father, was giving you an intimate physical examination, and said to you 'good girl'?

??????

what the actual ...

It is not patronising. It is totally sexual. It is what guys say to women when the woman is being compliant sexually. It can be a turn-on between two perfectly happily consenting people in a sexual context. But for a male GP to say that to a female patient is super creepy, in my humble o.

I personally wouldn't complain, though, as there is a slim chance he didn't know it was bad, if he's pretty old/has led a closeted life.

But I so very much would not be going to him again.

She won’t say. She’s come on a forum to ask opinions on whether to make a complaint about a medical professional without giving the most important bit of context.

OP you said it was an examination and he smiled and said good girl in a sexual way?

I am assuming that it was maybe a smear or you were in a state of undress - you obviously feel uncomfortable and upset that you made a thread about it so you should report it to the practice manager.

Just to say that you can ask the Surgery to put a note on your file that you only want to see female practitioners in future ( or at least you can at my Surgery) or if they won’t do that always request a chaperone at any future appointments.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/calling-women-good-girl-workplace-26686881.amp

for those interested

A relative of mine in NHS management always welcomes complaints. Without them, it’s really difficult to sack crap or dangerous staff. If he’s been creepy to you, he’ll have been creepy to other patients and probably other staff as well.

… but this was a male GP. During an examination. Said in a sexual way. Surely you understand the difference?

OP - youre making vague statements and when repeatedly asked for context / clarification you’re just adding more layers of ambiguity

so my conclusion is that this “reaching” is exactly what you’re looking for.

either give necessary details or a. Wor you’re going to get a whole range of scenarios envisaged.

What do you want? Have him struck off? Admonished?

Eww that’s not ok.
That would really make me feel uneasy in that situation.
YANBU

For him to understand this is inappropriate and stop?

Well of course op claims it was said in a sexual way.

He's probably a partner i.e. owner so he's judge and jury. He's not going to change the habit of a lifetime is he.

And women cry rape all the time. And we should give pedophibes the benefit of the doubt? Because these accusations can impact on men - and we wouldn’t want that!

I honestly have no idea, and I find it really baffling.

So women should stay silent? Shouldn’t call out inappropriate behavior? Because no one will listen?

Exactly! Things don't change unless someone says something.

Why don’t you believe her? Are you the doctor?

Yes I was told off as a home carer for saying well done as patronising to a service user for them managing to eat full dinner in 2012. Why should a gp be let off a patronising remark.

She has been vague in the extreme, yet jumped on several suggestions other posters made.
I find the whole tale a bit dubious, tbh.

or his male colleague?

+1 to this. It smells kinda funny.

I want to stop him from making another woman uncomfortable