Page 9 | To wish that 'hubby' was banned on MN?

merrymelodies · 2024-12-31T10:19:48+00:00

I see more and more posters are referring to their husbands as "hubby". I can't stand the abbreviation and wish it would disappear.🫥

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 31/12/2024 14:15

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2024 14:10

@SoNiceToComeHomeTo

Your definition of introvert really made me laugh. I’m one, and my definition is that I lack the stamina to keep talking and listening to people without craving regular breaks to read a good book, and I’m insufficiently relaxed to be in a crowd without getting exhausted. But maybe yours is more accurate!

Thanks but I think you've missed my point here though: this is not my definition of introvert at all. I'm also an introvert but I'm not an "introvert" in the performative sense of having to advertise it all the time.

There's a recently fashionable thing which seems to have exploded on here of people having to advertise to the world how much they hate other people which is deeply tedious and mildly offensive. Endless posts about how people want never to leave the house and intend to spend the rest of their lives with their husband and children and how they dread having to make polite conversation in the office etc. Buying mugs, t-shirts and other forms of merch advertising the fact that they find it "too peopley out there" etc. And congratulating themselves for being quirky and interesting. Its desperate, pathetic and deeply self-indulgent.

When challenged on it they will always say: "But I'm an introvert, you wouldn't understand. You extroverts have had it your way for so long, now it's our turn..." etc ad nauseam.

But you're not an introvert. You're a narcissistic twat who expects other people to be captivated by your lack of basic social skills. And no one is so just shut up about it.

Thanks I see what you mean. I haven’t experienced exactly that but I do have a friend who keeps saying she’s an introvert and not getting enough downtime, and I keep thinking’but you are single and work from home and have no dependants so who has arranged for you to be out every evening this week…’

Zae134 · 31/12/2024 14:16

Oh and can I add anyone who 'can't believe' it when other people live in a slightly different (but completely socially normal) way. I saw a post not long ago where the OP said they'd prefer a quiet weekend away with their family, rather than organising a big 40th birthday party. One commenter couldn't believe that anyone wouldn't want a nice party for their birthday.

Really, you couldn't believe it? This person hasn't said they're organising a ritual sacrifice, or planning to paint themselves blue and run through the town square, it's a completely believable weekend in the Cotswolds.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 31/12/2024 14:17

Yes please, along with "mama bear", "boobing/boobed", and "littles/littlies".

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2024 14:19

@SoNiceToComeHomeTo

Yeah exactly this: it's just taking a basic social trait which all of us experience to some degree and pathologising it while also claiming it makes the person more sensitive and deep.

I'm just really tired of people posting about it on here as if it was a striking and original new thought. I'll take a million "hubbies" over another post bellyaching about how hard it is to be an "introvert".

fitzwilliamdarcy · 31/12/2024 14:21

Also nibling, which appears to be a very new MN one. Makes me think you're wanting to eat your relatives. Hate it.

Sasskitty · 31/12/2024 14:39

SnoopySantaPaws · 31/12/2024 13:50

Really?

you could just google the word instead of looking like a muppet announcing you hate a word you don't know the meaning of.

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🙈🙈

weaselpatrol · 31/12/2024 14:41

SnoopySantaPaws · 31/12/2024 13:49

How on earth can someone asking for support make you feel sick?

you clearly weren't in the lines when they were handing out compassion, empathy or sympathy.

i hope you're not horrible enough to say that on a thread asking for one.

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I think it’s quite obvious that she is saying she dislikes the phrase, not the actual act of asking for help.

Judgejudysno1fan · 31/12/2024 14:58

Balloonhearts · 31/12/2024 12:53

See also 'Leccy' 'ducks in a row' and 'chrissie prezzies'

Chrissie prezzies 😫

sunbum · 31/12/2024 15:06

Has and one said 'folks' or, even worse, 'folx'. They're fucking people, people!

Also on FB, here is an absolutely valueless piece of shit that is getting in my way, please pay me some unobtainable amount of money for it 'Needs Gone' - well take it the the tip then!

pictoosh · 31/12/2024 15:09

Maybe some of you should stop worrying about other people's turns of phrase and have the intelligence and perspective to understand that there are more variables and influences than you'll ever be able to control...and that sneering at a stranger on a public internet forum for using a turn of phrase that you wouldn't makes you seem small and a bit of a bully. I dunno.

sunbum · 31/12/2024 15:10

Also agree about 'handhold', as well as 'blue lighting', and 'shaking and crying"

If you want or need support from MN forums about something, just post the details of the issue. No need to over-dramtise it and make yourself look pathetic to get it.

If the thing genuinely involves any of thise things, you're probably better off with real friends or family, or the police.

SabreIsMyFave · 31/12/2024 15:11

shewillbefinestopworrying · 31/12/2024 13:30

Can I have a handhold makes me sick.

Oh I effing HATE this. 'DH is still out at 1am, handhold please.' 'DD isn't speaking to me after I badmouthed her tattoo, handhold please.' 'Off to the Highlands for New Year's Eve, and snow is predicted, handhold please..'

Fuck off ... Please.

I also hate posts that start with 'kindly OP,' and 'gently OP,' moreso because they are often followed by a fairly rude post that is attacking the poster!

SabreIsMyFave · 31/12/2024 15:11

pictoosh · 31/12/2024 15:09

Maybe some of you should stop worrying about other people's turns of phrase and have the intelligence and perspective to understand that there are more variables and influences than you'll ever be able to control...and that sneering at a stranger on a public internet forum for using a turn of phrase that you wouldn't makes you seem small and a bit of a bully. I dunno.

It's not that deep @pictoosh

CalishataFolkart · 31/12/2024 15:13

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2024 10:38

@Zae134

Ill take that a raise you the phrase: “feminism is about choice”. Almost always uttered as an OP rushes to embrace a lifestyle that’s deeply regressive. It makes me rage, this phrase.

Choice is an output of feminism. It isn’t its sole purpose. The Pankhursts didn’t get killed so you can spend your life reenacting Laura Ingalls Wilder, barefoot and pregnant. Yes you can do that if it’s what you want but it’s got Jack all to do with feminism.

Who are you claiming killed the Pankhursts?

”Magna Carta, did she die in vain?”

pictoosh · 31/12/2024 15:14

SabreIsMyFave · 31/12/2024 15:11

It's not that deep @pictoosh

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Well it is I'm afraid, because posters on here are regularly outright unpleasant and condescending to others who don't know the stupid mn gang rules.

SabreIsMyFave · 31/12/2024 15:15

pictoosh · 31/12/2024 15:14

Well it is I'm afraid, because posters on here are regularly outright unpleasant and condescending to others who don't know the stupid mn gang rules.

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Scared Homer Simpson GIF by reactionseditor

Ooooooooookaaaaay.

pictoosh · 31/12/2024 15:19

Thanks. That's much nicer.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 31/12/2024 15:35

Andoutcomethewolves · 31/12/2024 12:57

Vile to me is very middle class
Which i am not.

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Well, I already knew that MN was obsessed with class, but IMO this really does take the biscuit!

WhatALoadofpickledOnions · 31/12/2024 15:48

Sasskitty · 31/12/2024 13:04

💯 agree. Wish all the males on here would go away.

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Yes, me too. Isn't there a dad's net? Are women allowed nothing?

Enigma52 · 31/12/2024 15:55

sunbum · 31/12/2024 15:10

Also agree about 'handhold', as well as 'blue lighting', and 'shaking and crying"

If you want or need support from MN forums about something, just post the details of the issue. No need to over-dramtise it and make yourself look pathetic to get it.

If the thing genuinely involves any of thise things, you're probably better off with real friends or family, or the police.

Agree. " handhold" What even is that?

Melodyfair · 31/12/2024 16:02

WhatALoadofpickledOnions · 31/12/2024 15:48

Yes, me too. Isn't there a dad's net? Are women allowed nothing?

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Do you all wish all the non mums would go away as well? Many might have received some great advice from male posters and never know it. I’d be interested to know from mumsnet HQ if all the staff are female as well!

ThisIsSockward · 31/12/2024 16:05

It's not a word I use (well, possibly as a joke), but it doesn't bother me if someone else does. I might have a stronger opinion if I had to hear it spoken in all seriousness, every day.

How do you feel about 'hubster'? (It's probably already been addressed...)

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2024 16:08

@CalishataFolkart

Who are you claiming killed the Pankhursts?

It's an entirely fair cop! I tend not to let these subtleties get in the way of a good rant.

SabreIsMyFave · 31/12/2024 16:14

@ThisIsSockward

How do you feel about 'hubster'? (It's probably already been addressed...)

Or 'hubbington.' I call my DH this now and again. runs for cover..... 😂

(I never say it to anyone else/in front of anyone else btw!) 😆

WhatALoadofpickledOnions · 31/12/2024 16:16

Melodyfair · 31/12/2024 16:02

Do you all wish all the non mums would go away as well? Many might have received some great advice from male posters and never know it. I’d be interested to know from mumsnet HQ if all the staff are female as well!

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Who mentioned kids? gosh 😂 Hope you have great NYE!!