To hate that DGD has her ears pierced

[OhSoYouAreFancy]

DGD is 3, she was born and until this summer raised abroad, DD got her ears pierced when she was weeks old, this is common practice there.
I hate it though, I think it looks so cheap and trashy!! DGD clearly couldn't consent and DD spends ridiculous amounts (of our money as we support her right now) on solid gold earrings for her.
I feel like when people realise they judge and think it looks downmarket and cheap.

AIBU to hate it?

You are wrong to use words like downmarket and cheap to describe something associated with your grandchild.

the issue of consent and body autonomy is all you need to justify a cringe every time you see the earrings.

what is done is done though so you are going to have to let it go.

No, she's judging the parents.

I don't care if it's cultural, I can't fathom how those parents inflict pain on their babies

& yes I think it looks tacky as hell putting jewellery on babies/toddlers. They're beautiful as they are. It just looks horrible.

personally I'd worry about them pulling ghem, catching on clothing.

@OhSoYouAreFancy Dd has come back here, separated from DGD's Dad, is not following his culture in other ways, why won't she remove the earrings & allow them to heal over & not have all the hassle as she goes through her schooling??

I'm with you OP.

There's obviously serious issues with morality and consent and hygiene and choking that are obviously the most important and worrying issues surrrounding piercing in children.

But all the aside, pierced ears on kids is just chavvy AF and looks horrendous until they are at least 14/15 minimum

Thank God my DD has no interest because it would be a resounding no.

I hate seeing babies with pierced ears, and while I personally wouldn’t pierce my daughters ears at 3 years old, I don’t think it looks so quite so bad at that age. You’re just going to have to accept the earrings are here to stay.

By the time your DD hits 14/15 the piercing of ears might be the least of your concern - think bellybutton, nose etc 😆oh the joys, I’m glad mine is past that age now.

You sound awfully judgemental. What business is it of yours?

Singled out for what? For wearing earrings? That's so absurd. Why would she be? This is all in your mind as you are so judgemental about this situation. In fact wearing gold earrings is much better, hygienic and safer than cheap ones. So on that front, the parents are right.

My mum had my ears pierced when I was between 1 and 2 years old. It hasn’t mattered for a long time. It’s not worth worrying about.

Help your daughter out with gift cards to food shops and petrol vouchures.

I was 2 when I had mine done. My mum waited until I was old enough to talk to about it, I was a bit of an old head on young shoulders by all accounts. I'm not cheap or trashy and I'm also not traumatised or anything else. If anything I'm glad I got it done then because I would probably have bottled it when I was older and I like earrings. They are removable so it's not comparable to tattoos, plastic surgery, GM etc.

So in short , There are bigger concerns but it looks bad is the main one.

I just don't see the need for very young children to wear jewellery. Earrings can be sore as well, I know I had problems myself with them getting red and sore when I was in my twenties but at least it was my choice to have them. I don't like the fact they're done at an age a child has zero input in to whether they want them or not.

YANBU, piercing children's ears without their consent is gross.

You don't have to give them money for solid gold earrings. Reduce the amount you give them if you have to support them.