Cancelled NYE plans - who is BU?

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Deliberately trying to be vague/neutral so I can sense check this without all the backstory.

Fairly new couple, X & Y have plans to spend NYE together at one of their homes. Both are very busy so they see each other around once or twice a month usually. X has developed a moderate cold so Y cancelled the plans. X is annoyed because Y is getting over a cold anyway and upset because they will be spending NYE alone. Y doesn’t want to risk catching another cold because they’ve already had a couple over the last month.

Who, if anyone, is BU?

Both being a pair of wusses. It's not a relationship if they see each other so infrequently. It can't grow unless they make time for each other.n

Y is U if it’s really just a cold. Sounds like one or both are not that into the relationship

Y is BU - wo/man up, catching a cold is not the end of the world!

I would not want to see someone ill just before having to go back to work.

Do these people like each other much? See each other once a month and cancel NYE cos one of them has a cold? Doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me.

X is being unreasonable. I wouldn’t want another cold.

X can either make new plans with friends or stay home alone, like many people do.

I think unless either suffer from very bad ongoing health issues, a cold is a cold. It's not the end of the world. Think there are bigger issues going on here rather than the sniffles 🤧

Y is BU and over-anxious. They could pick up another cold from anywhere!

Y is not really that into X.

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Y has said no, and X should respect that.

It's just a cold, unless there's a backstory about severe immunocompromise.

I'm with Y.
I wouldn't deliberately line myself up to catch a cold.

Bleugh, being up close and personal with someone with a cold is not pleasant. It’s a matter of handing over mugs of Lensip from a safe distance and avoiding the pile of used tissues.

I would avoid catching a cold just as returning to work.

The OP is clearly X and is annoyed at Y for this

X is unreasonable. After a couple of colds a month no one is worth catching a third by choice. For what? NYE is a night like any other

Y is being ridiculous unless they have a serious health conditions where catching a moderate cold could cause severe illness.

Sounds like Y can take or leave X and if I was X, I'd probably decide to being the new year, freshly single.

It's just a cold, no need to cancel.

You both sound 12.

Y is not that into X.

Team X all the way. Y is being ridiculous.

People are obviously different about colds. I wouldn't want to see someone with a cold. I've had two awful ones this past month or so and I don't want another thank you.

But it may make a difference what we're doing and if we're in a confined space

Neither of them are unreasonable.

Just crack on with your plans, everyone has a cold at the moment 😆

Its understandable Y doesnt want to get ill again if they are still recovering. So I would say X is being unreasonable.

But really its difficult to say without knowing more about them.
Is the cold just a light snivel? Is it very bad? Is Y prone to getting sick/ill too quickly so wants to protect themselves, are they still feeling really under the weather themselves?

I know a few people who have been really unwell over the past few weeks and whatever is going around has really floored them so it makes sense they would want to avoid being around ill people if possible. Is that the case here?

I agree, Y is not that into X.

Any man I've ever dated, I'd have happily risked catching his cold just to have more 1-1 time with him. If you fancy someone, you're willing to catch their cold.

My dh and I have been married a while so we're not at the tearing clothes off phase any more but I'd still rather catch his cold than isolate from him in any way. I just wash my hands more when he's ill

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