Cancelled NYE plans - who is BU?

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Deliberately trying to be vague/neutral so I can sense check this without all the backstory.

Fairly new couple, X & Y have plans to spend NYE together at one of their homes. Both are very busy so they see each other around once or twice a month usually. X has developed a moderate cold so Y cancelled the plans. X is annoyed because Y is getting over a cold anyway and upset because they will be spending NYE alone. Y doesn’t want to risk catching another cold because they’ve already had a couple over the last month.

Who, if anyone, is BU?

A cold doesn’t ‘floor’ people who are otherwise well.

Y is being unreasonable, it's only a cold.

Y isn't that keen on X. If I were X I'd be rethinking the relationship. Presuming X and Y enjoy one another's company enough to want to see each other without snogging / shagging?

To each their own but personally, I'd find the cold excuse lame.

I don’t actually think either is being unreasonable to be honest.

Y is entitled to not want to get Ill again before work and X is entitled to be disappointed about it.

If they live close by drop off a care package and then both watch the same film on Netflix and FaceTime.

This it is as simple as that - about a month into our relationship he got a cold and I went round and nursed him (now 21 years later I leave him too it)

If everyone in the UK cancelled NYE plans due to colds, no one would be doing anything.

Do you think Y has had a better offer?

It's not a relationship. It's a FWB situationship

No one is unreasonable in the NYE 'drama' as they aren't in a relationship

Seeing each other twice a month? Canceling NYE plans over a cold? Is this even a relationship? Sounds like a serious lack of real interest and commitment.

X is BU. They have no right to impose their germs (no matter how mild) on another person if that person doesn't want to risk it.

Seeing someone once or twice a month isn't a relationship. And this would confirm that.

X & Y are not that into each other if it’s only a cold.

Ah so normally I would say a cold is just a cold - but we’ve had so many viral infections recently and we are so run down.

If it was just hanging out in a house with one other I might be inclined to give it a miss.

That said, I probably wouldn’t cancel plans for a cold unless I felt awful.

Sounds like a strange relationship tbh

Yeah I would say that this relationship is going nowhere - Y is not really into X. Possibly the feeling is mutual if the only reason X is upset is because they don't want to be on their own, rather than because they're not seeing Y specifically.

One person’s moderate cold is another person’s two days under the duvet cold. Speaking as someone who returns to work tomorrow I’m not thrilled that some idiot on Boxing Day decided to share their germs around a family event and now three of us (out of five) are feeling completely grim. I’m lucky that tomorrow I’m WFH so I can take my time and be flexible with my recovery. But I feel genuinely done in and if the shoe was on the other foot and I was X I would be cancelling plans myself so as not to pass this horrible infection on to anyone else.

I like the idea further up the thread of dropping off a care package if distance isn’t an issue and watching a movie online together via FaceTime or similar.

If I was X I'd be so turned off by Y right now. How pathetic.

Both are. But Y even more so.
Neither are clearly very much into the relationship and should probably leave each other to find someone better suited

Y..

I think X should probably call it a day with Y and get out and have some fun.

Y…there are so many colds around and y already had one

Y is being unreasonable and probably not that into X.

This 100%

Is X the stormy weather and Y the Hogmanay street parties in Edinburgh?

X needs to stop sulking, they'll be full of snot by the morn, and they've nay right to insist that Y gets blown over by their sneezes then has to spend a week oot of action themselves.