Cancelled NYE plans - who is BU?

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Deliberately trying to be vague/neutral so I can sense check this without all the backstory.

Fairly new couple, X & Y have plans to spend NYE together at one of their homes. Both are very busy so they see each other around once or twice a month usually. X has developed a moderate cold so Y cancelled the plans. X is annoyed because Y is getting over a cold anyway and upset because they will be spending NYE alone. Y doesn’t want to risk catching another cold because they’ve already had a couple over the last month.

Who, if anyone, is BU?

Sorry replied and just caught up.

Well done for working on your boundaries. Fair enough giving him 1 last chance but he's totally blown it. Good to ditch the deadweight before going in to the new year though.

Get well soon

He is useless! Can’t cope with a runny nose but leaves you on your own to deal with a termination? That is unforgivable. You deserve so much better than thaf.

Agree,
I had COVID twice (in 2022) but since then when I catch a cold it's so bad, chills, temperature bedbound etc

After OP’s further post it’s crap that some posters are still posting about memorable illnesses of yore!

And how badly you personally are affected by colds.

'Hi, this relationship isn't going to work for me over the long term. I want to start my new year on a strong footing so I'm calling this off. I wish you the very best in the future. No need for a response; I've made up my mind.'

Absolutely horrified that he abandoned you to endure a termination alone, to go get pissed with his mates. That’s fucking inhuman.

And he definitely got a ‘better’ offer to go out, rather than stay in with you.

I understand Y not wanting to get ill again, obviously they are very run down - but as X (given how you feel), “thanks and goodbye”, due to “incompatibility”.

Hope you can find ways to prioritise yourself and have a self caring NYE, whatever that looks like for you.

Who cares.

Have the cold but be together as planned. Honestly sounds so snowflake, if you want to be together you just do it! Lemsip, chill, will be doing the same alone anyway. 😔

A cold is just a cold. Usually a couple of paracetamol and some honey/lemon juice/hot water will root it out. I think there is more to this than meets the eye.

Who wants a bloomin cold? I'd cancel. NYE is overrated. 😂