Should she replace it?

[Langarg]

My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

Really looking forward to hearing what happens here @Langarg

Just read your update

can you strategically pop around her house when she is out and husband is in and do a
“ hi bob I was passing and ( friend ) said I should swing by and grab the air wrap she borrowed” all bright and breezy

hopefully the gormless chap will lead you to the bedroom -and voila!

Agree she needs to replace it on her credit card, she was responsible for it and has either lost it or isn’t being honest

I can understand why you lent it in this circumstance so don’t give yourself too hard a time

I think you likely need to step back from this friend as she pushes the boundaries

Try Axioma for a quote. You might be pleasantly surprised compared to body shop prices.

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I’m just commenting for a later update…. What a CF…🤣

Ooooo that shoe thread sounds good, is it in classics or how do I search for it?

Me too, that "friend" needs to pay and then OP should never talk to her again. I can't believe that woman is such a CF.

She seems to think it's an extra wedding present!

I've lost many phones and unfortunately had a lot of my belongings stolen in a burglary. In every instance I was given a brand new version of the loss.

Get off chatGPT OPs friend, and make your 2025 resolution not to be such scum xx

Do not let her get away with this, the friendship is over anyway. Please keep us posted.

A very poor quality friend expect as others have said she's kept it. She'd make sure she didn't loose it if she valued your friendship and also couldn't afford to replace she's done you right up unfortunately. Go for the full new replacement value put in writing if she doesn't pay up in a reasonable time bang in a small claims application against her or register with judge judy/ Rider. Good luck, and I hope you get it replaced and sorted.

It’s not in hotels best interests to steal from brides, they tend to employ honest people due to exactly these type of scenarios
brides / guests leave stuff all the time in rooms
if it was left by the door it would have been seen immediately by reception

if I was you I’d be dying to see the wedding photos and how many people she really had … two witnesses my arse !

Oh my god obviously she needs to buy you a new one or pay you £500. What a little shit she is. Also I think she’s lied and kept it for herself using this fake excuse of losing it. The hotel would know if it was lost in her room. I’d tell her you’ll be forced to call the police if she doesn’t either pay you £500 or buy you a new one with proof of receipt (not some dodgy one off Facebook).

OK "babe"

Enjoy your four hour round trip x

OP only needs to be put in the same position as before it went missing

Indeed. An appliance for which she’s been the only owner.

I don't think she left it behind. I think she's congratulating herself on getting a £500 hair styler for nothing.

It does sound like she’s nicked it. I hope there is a follow up

She borrowed it so her responsibility to replace it with the same model. That said she sounds like a CF and has no intention of either. YANBU

So OP's friend needs to find a year old, exact same model, Dyson AirWrap, of which only OP has been the user.

Where could she find one of those I wonder? 🤔

Exactly. It's called betterment. Look it up GOD!

/Sarcasm

and you are quite the charmer ! FFS as if she'll be able to find a 'like for like' offer. Anyway the attitude of the borrower adds weight to a better than 'like for like' replacement. Do you work in insurance? Certainly sound like the type