Should she replace it?

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My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

I have now and apologise if I got it wrong. Sorry. I’m just disgusted that her friend ‘misplaced’ or lost a very expensive piece of hair kit on loan.

what a cheeky thieving bitch. I would say that you don’t believe her story and are filing a police report unless she returns it tomorrow. Fuck her using it for another night for NY - so obvious!

I would also say you want her to Amazon prime you one to arrive tomorrow by 10pm or whenever earliest and if the original turns up she can return. And she can pay for a blow dry too!

I am LOVING the magical camouflaging air wrap box defence. Brilliant. 😂

She should source one similar to what you had - so new or almost new. It's not your fault if she goes into debt. She should look after things she borrows, particularly when it's something so expensive.

Your friend is a piss-taker; make it clear she pays for a new one. I think either way friendship is done.

When this saga got going, I didn't know what an AirWrap was. Now I know it's a hairstyling kit, it costs £500 (like other things made by Dyson, it's not cheap) and if you borrow one, you treat it like a newborn kitten. It's not difficult. Unless you're the sort of selfish idiot who can afford to lose friends of course.

Fuming for you OP!

Say that by chance your husband/dog sitter/cousin once removed is passing the area of the hotel themselves tomorrow and they are dropped in to ask about it.

she clearly wants it for herself - have you seen honeymoon/mini moon pics of fabulous hair? There will be fabulous hair on NYE and then I think it will be miraculously back with you.

Cut ties when this is done!! This woman is no friend. Xx

Have you not been able to read the updates?

ETA Ah. You have now.

See my apology on updates!

Thanks. I'm sorry if I was a bit harsh with you.

Definitely kept for herself. Why is she waiting until the 2nd?

No doubt her NYE hair will be fab.

Thank you, I was just supporting the op and didn’t mean any disrespect.

She's a leeching tick, a parasite, a tapeworm feeding off you and your hard work.
Believe me, I know someone like this, and they are shocking.
ALWAYS on the take. {not from me I might add}

Cut this parasite out of your life, AFTER she has given you back what she owes.

Who is the 1% voting YABU?! Must be the friend 😄

Yes, the parasitic friend has entered the chat!

Or have. One last hurrah and use it for NYE

Get the money back, or the new model and then ditch the grifter completely.

On your behalf, I feel rage towards this woman because I can imagine just the type of person she is. She just thinks what’s yours, is hers. The lack of transferring your money after going out, scrounging lifts, now stealing your belongings. She didn’t even bother to invite you to her wedding.

Personally I would start creating a paper trail if you haven’t already. Send her a text message clearly outlining that she borrowed your £500 Dyson air wrap, it’s overdue to be returned and she has X days to return it to you in the same condition. This will act as evidence if you escalate this to court.

I think this irritates me so much because I may have the same model - the complete long edition in blue/copper purchased last Christmas?

It’s weird how a Dyson air wrap can bring out the worst in friends who can’t afford one. I had a friend who wanted to sleepover at mine for the purpose of trying to get me to wash and style her hair with it, regardless of the massive faff to me. She acted really put out when I declined.

Meanwhile whilst it’s a great item, I personally don’t see the value in it to justify ruining a friendship. I can get similar results using a standard hairdryer! I just think some people who don’t have one, think it’s a miracle item but it’s not.

Wouldn’t be surprised if the room carpets weren’t even blue! Have you checked the photographs on the hotel’s website?

Clearly she was so impressed by the Airwrap’s that she couldn’t pass on up the opportunity to get one for free, by stealing yours! (Surprising because I’d thought it took most people a while to get the knack of them. She must have nimble fingers, as well as light ones.)

If you were to bring a court claim against the friend for the loss of your Dyson Airwrap, the court wouldn't award you the full cost of replacement, as the legal position is that wear and tear would be taken into account. i.e. you don't get new for old.

That said, if your Airwrap was only, say, a year old, and likely to last another 9 years before dying, then the discounted replacement value would be 10% less than new.

So, I would accept slightly less than the cost of a new replacement, to be fair.

This is a perfect reply.

Of course she should replace it with the same model.

Those suggesting the £150 second hand one are mad!!

She was careless because she doesn’t care.

There is no way you could work out any of this.

The OP shouldn’t be out of pocket at all. Her friend should not be making her feel bad for her carelessness.

Oh my days - she DOES have it!!

No way would anyone do a trip that big to check in person if they'd already been told it wasn't there on the phone.

She hasn't rung and she has your hairdryer!

What a CF!!!

I think this might have to be friendship over, for me.