Should she replace it?

[Langarg]

My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

What on earth???? Op has been back plenty of times.

What are you on about? OP has posted 10 times, last at 21:39.

Ask her to file a police report, maybe that will make her think on

OP is she likely going out for New Year? If yes then no doubt she is keeping it for then and will block you from seeing any social media posts so you don’t see her hairstyle

I would take a peek at any of her social media via somebody else’s profile. Even get them to make a “your hair looks great” comment

She isn't going back on the 2nd. She's just fobbing you off. On the 2nd she will have a different excuse.

This is CRAZY! What a cow! If I were you I’d be telling ‘friend’ you’re going to file a police report and have them check the hotels CCTV as one of the staff has clearly stolen it CF friend has stolen it and you’d prefer not to wait til the 2nd! I bet you’ll have it back by tomorrow!

Wtf??? Rtft!!

She's kept it, hoping you'll just let it go...

You won't, so now she's trying to keep it until after NYE so she can use it before she goes out.

Tell her it's ok, you're going past there/your aunties friends dog is going past there... tomorrow so they can pop in and get it... or would she like to double check and see if in fact it did get packed up after all..

Because at least then she will know for sure if her friend is a theif and not just careless

Are you friends with her husband?! Could you casually mention to him without her present what it looks like and if he's seen her using it since the wedding as it's yours and she keeps " forgetting " to return it?!

I’m in team camp that she loved it and wanted to keep it, thinking you’d let it go. Well done for sticking to your guns. Fair play to the CF for a great game play of keeping it over new year though. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

My initial thought is, she has stolen it!

"No l'm sorry, I can't wait until 2nd January as the longer it's missing the more chance there is that it will be sold on if its stolen and every moment counts. I've done everything I can on my side so I'll be logging it as theft with the police in the morning. If you'd prefer to chase the hotel and log any necessary police reports yourself for insurance claims, feel free to handle it as you see fit once you've ordered the new one, otherwise i need to start the process of getting a new replacement airwrap tomorrow. Sorry, I know this puts you in a tough spot but I can't risk a second hand one and not knowing the history if it and at this point I'm worried that even if I got my original back that i don't know what it's been through while it's been lost. Have one last really good look around the house in the morning and let me know if it turns up 🤞🤞 you never know, stranger things have happened!"

I'm sorry, but this is hilarious.
Her DP can't see things that are the same colour as other things?
If she'd sat on the white sheets in her wedding dress would he have assumed she'd disappeared? 😂

an airwrap box isn't exactly small and unnoticeable, they're chunky things!

It’s not at all tricky. The friend lost an expensive hair dryer. A second hand older model is not a reasonable replacement.

The friend needs to replace the hair dryer like for like.

CF !!!!!..

Tell her you need it for New Year’s Eve and she’ll have to buy you a new one if she can’t get to the hotel to “find” it before then. If she’s sniffy tell her she should have been there already. Tell her she can always sell it if she then finds it afterwards. Give her a sob story back about how skint you are. And ditch her as a friend after this is resolved!

Tell her she has 24 hours to either return them or buy you new ones or you'll report her to the police for theft.

Ugh. I'm slow to anger, but I'd get so annoyed at someone treating me like a fool. I'd go with: 'Just stop. I want my hairdryer by tomorrow. If you return it in the condition it was in when I was kind enough to lend it to you, I'll leave it at that. No more of the BS, please.'

And then cease the 'friendship.'

are you her CF friend by any chance?

Yeah, she’s blatantly pinched it and was hoping you’d think it was stolen by the hotel after she left it there, thus leaving her blame-free.

@Langarg You could mention to the friend that, due to the cost, you are considering filiing a report with the police. Might prompt a spontaneous reappearance.

She has kept it and is now gutted she's been rumbled. She's no friend by any means. Get your air wrap back and cut her off

She needs to buy you an exact replacement, not trying to make you feel bad about HER carelessness!
Some friend

The Dyson case is massive! You can’t miss it!

Look on the hotel website for pictures of the blue carpet, or ask them if the carpet is blue in whichever room they had. That’s the best way to catch her in an outright lie.