Should she replace it?

[Langarg]

My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

Absolutely don’t go with them , I like @Supperlite idea
My Dd ( 27. , );bought her air wrap in Covid with the payout from isolating
DDIL bought hers with a Christmas bonus , so even though they’re eye wateringly expensive , a lot of young women have them
So called friend is a CF of the highest order ( or a thief )

What a dumb, mean and churlish thing to say! Shame on you.

I know. Me too.

"I asked her if she definitely stayed at (insert name of hotel), as I’d contacted them and they had heard nothing of the airwrap having been left."

The whole story just doesn't stand up - it's a fiction. What a ridiculous "friend" to have.

I wouldn’t give them till the 2nd. I’d be getting the shitters on them. About her needing to replace it now or needing to file a police report for a staff member stealing it for insurance.

I would definitely mention to her that you’ll be reporting the theft to the police (if it’s not ‘found’ at the hotel) @Langarg she will be shook!

Do you still have the invoice? Could she claim from her house insurance?

Yes! As a Dyson owner how dare you have to ring in the new year without your air wrap!!!

Not sure why some posters don’t take 2 seconds google what a Dyson airwrap actually is before commenting that their 15 quid hairdryer from 2001 is fine and you’ve wasted your money. It’s not even close to being a regular hairdryer ffs!! Not denying it’s extremely expensive though.

No way I'd accept some crappy one off FB for £150. Ridiculous

It does the job, for you and your hair.

DH got me one but I returned it, as it was not for me. The hair dryer and straightener however I love.

She should replace the one she "lost" with the same model or one of equivalent value.

And stop lending her anything.

@RosesAndHellebores what comes up for you here, because that’s not a kind way to be, and it seems like something is going on for you here.
People are allowed to treat themselves if they want to.

Good idea. Tell her that if the hotel don’t “magically find it” you’ll be reporting the matter to the police as it’s clearly theft on the part of hotel staff. My money’s on it magically reaappearing… (it was never lost). She just didn’t think you’d chase for it back, she was probably hoping you’d lend it out and let her keep it.

Message her and say you’ll be needing a crime number if it doesn’t turn up ant the hotel and ask her has she reported it stolen. I’d make it clear to her you are taking this seriously and won’t let the matter drop.

It’s going to turn up after she’s used it for new years 🤣

Could it be magic 🪄

I agree with this. £500 was the cost of my first car so I absolutely wouldnt let this go.

OP, your update is amazing. That they had no idea what you were talking about, and your 'friend' went on about GDPR!! 😅 Please do let us know how it all turns out and best of luck... really hope you get it back.

Your friend could be the ultimate CF. I really hope she sees this thread.

The bigger the lie the more details.

Reminds me a bit of the cream tea CF if anyone remembers that thread... just outlandish entitlement and lies in both cases!

Tbh I think she kept it. The Hotel would absolutely return it. Have you seen her hair recently? 😜
i would absolutely insist on a new model and consider this friendship over.

It’s not a “hairdryer”. I have a very good hairdryer but could never blow dry my hair to the style I wanted. I saved up and treated myself to a Dyson Airwrap under the “no quibble returns” policy offered by Dyson. I now look salon styled every day 😊 and I love it. Yes it’s a LOT of money but no one has gone without anything for me to afford it and I look great. If I needed to replace it I would have to save up for the best part of a year again…..

You should tell her you are reporting it to the police - and then after a day or two (just in case it turns up) you need to really tell the police. Then, check if there is any way of claiming for it through yours or her insurance and, if not, tell her to transfer £500 to your account so you can replace it. If she insists on buying the replacement herself on her credit card then you need to see the receipt.