Should she replace it?

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My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

Is there any proof OP that she actually got married?

Seems odd your such a good friend of hers yet she didn't invite anyone. You don't really need a reception if you can't afford it. I'm even doubting she got married now

Colleen needs to get on this asap

I dunno, someone from a hotel nicked my unopened pack of pants once. I thought I must have forgotten them but, upon getting the photos developed, the pants were in the background of a photo.

Slightly off topic there 🤣

Firstly I wouldn’t dream of borrowing an item like this, secondly if I did I would take care of it like a diamond- she clearly couldn’t give a toss. Thirdly if I had lost it I would be utterly mortified, apologise profusely and immediately replace no matter if it meant credit card etc. her attitude utterly stinks. Deffo call hotel and moral of the story don’t lend to her again. I’m sorry I’m gonna sound so mean but I don’t lend anything- if you are genuinely in financial difficulties I will help you out, buy you clothes etc but I don’t loan, too many time my stuff if trashed through lack of care

I also thought thought she has kept it for herself if the hotel are saying it's not there. Could you turn up unannounced at her house then say you're going to the toilet and go look in her room. Yes it's a bit cheeky but so is she! Then if you find it just take it back without mentioning anything to her then when you get home I'd block her on everything and cut her off. She will know why when she finds it gone.

Why bother with all that hassle? Just make her cough up for a new one.

At the end of the day, she would have been better off forking out for a hairdresser - don't think one would have cost her £500

In the Guy de Maupassant story the lost necklace was replaced with one worth far more. Op is only asking like for like, and is having to work hard to get even that.
Of course the "friend" should replace it. Does op really need "friends" like this?

I'm also team #StoleIt. Absolutely outrageous behaviour from your so-called friend and honestly, if it were me, it would be enough to end the friendship.

Isn’t it funny how the one time you give your friend your expensive property she happens to lose it? She sounds like a twat. Either:

1. she didn’t care enough to look after someone else’s property that has kindly been lent to her or,
2. She hasn’t lost it at all and has kept it for herself.

Neither option puts her in a good light. I’d say it’s more than likely the latter option, myself. Tell her you will take her to small claims if she doesn’t return it. They are over £500 to buy.

OY, 1 percent club! give op her dyson back or pay for it!!!

Nah tough if it puts her into debt.

You let her borrow something that she promised to return. She didn't. So she has to replace it. In the same condition it was given in.

We lose things. Shit happens but we have to replace them.

End of.

An alternative might be for her to replace your Air Wrap with a Shark Multi-Styler but again, that would have to be brand new so that you could avail of the guarantee and warranty that comes with the new product.

Surely somewhere will sell a new one via Klarna? Regardless, she needs to replace it

She doesn't need Klarna, she has a credit card.

She just doesn't want to use the credit card to replace something that she lost on the OP

OP, bin this cheeky fucker off now, you don't need 'friends' like this.

She’s trying to make you feel guilty for her carelessness! the cheek of it. She can get you a new one!

Small Claims Court: no-brainer. Doesn't matter that she used to be your friend. Friends don't treat each other like that. I don't believe for a moment that she left a £500 hair dryer at the hotel.

The shark multi styler is about £200 cheaper and although it’s a good styler, the Dyson is more expensive so OP should get like for like. You can’t lose an expensive item of someone else’s property then offer a cheaper product. Might as well rob £200 from OP.

A hotel would normally be able to supply a hairdryer. Why did she need to borrow yours?

What everyone else has said and definitely end this friendship.

People use them for styling, like a blow dry, not like a dry dry.

Very possibly, but since it turns out she has form and it seems OP's rolled over before, she might just have appreciated the opportunity to save some money and get an expensive piece of kit too

If OP does insist she replaces it then of course that'll be spoiled, but as said I don't rate the chances of OP getting anything back

Why should OP have her Dyson replaced with something different?

Look - if you go back and read all of the posts that I have on this thread so far, I'm 100% behind the OP getting a replacement Dyson. I was just suggesting it as an alternative if the friend is playing silly beggars (rather than buying a reconditioned one or second hand one). At least it would be new.

But you can use a hotel hairdryer for a blow dry.