Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

[BearDownThere]

Is anyone else fed up of the expectation/strong preference for going completely shave pubic hair? I’m female and have only had male partners, but prepared to believe women have this expectation too if others have experienced it. I mean each to their own, but personally I find it feels child-like. Has anyone managed to find a compromise with their partner on this?

YABU- It’s nice to do things for your partner

YANBU-my hair my choice

I personally prefer to shave .. I’ve not been pressured either way by any partners.

I am however currently embracing not shaving and it’s kind of liberating, but I wouldn’t keep it if I decided to start dating later on, as it’s my personal preference not to have any.

I find it hypocritical that some posters on here are attempting to belittle those that want to shave.

It’s personal preference, if you want people to be liberated then they are entitled to whatever their choices are.

Anyone tried to pressure me would be laughed at and I'd plait the hair to make a point.

Shaved poons look like raw chickens.

I think they look better with their clothes on.

I am celibate so there’s no consideration of others, but I personally dislike my hairy arse crack, God made a mistake putting it there. Also I have exceptionally hairy legs, my bikini line extends into full on man hair on my inner thighs. Plus my pubes are really long.

I feel I do have to get rid of a lot of it to be able to swim. But I rarely swim and have bought a modesty costume.

Shaving it all takes several hours, leaves me with minor cuts at the follicles as the hairs are so thick, looks good only for one day, then is sharp and itchy for a good week. Oh and you can still see the dark roots below the skin.

@CandyCane457 it wasn’t aimed at you specifically. Lots of posters have said it. Sorry that you were hurt by my comment.

Never had anyone remark on it ever. I've only once had a bikini wax and decided never again.

Why would it be a treat?

And anyone who thinks a grown woman who has chosen to be hairless looks anything like a child. That is ridiculous. Absurd !

I thought everyone below 40 removed most of it..

I'm mid thirties and shagged around extensively from 16-21 and from 29-31 (been in long term relationships otherwise). Prime age group for supposed preferences for baldy fannies.

Never had an issue. I keep my pubes trimmed fairly short and sometimes shave the bikini line when I shave my legs but have never waxed or shaved the mons pubis or labia majora. No man has ever batted an eye or made a comment. Never felt pressured to do anything different. My long term partners both never expressed a wish for me to wax and would only occasionally mention it was getting in the way (for oral) if I had left it a few weeks without trimming and it had got a bit wild.

I would not tolerate a sexual partner who couldn't cope with pubes. I would also dislike (but not make a fuss about) a partner who waxed but don't care either way if they trim.

I've a feeling it's a bit of a 'learned MN response' that some people just slap out without actually thinking.

I’m not sure why anyone would want you to look like a pre pubescent child.

I’d seriously reevaluate your relationship

I’m not sure that I’m “hurt” I just felt it was unnecessary, and it followed one of my posts where I used that phrase so I don’t think it was too wild to think it was directed my way! But don’t worry, I’m not hurt!

I'm late 40s and it was never an expectation for me or my friends. I think people in their 30s now (millennials) were the generation where it really seemed to be expected to take it all off. Younger women seem to be pushing back against it again. I have a teen daughter and removing body hair doesn't seem to be such a thing.

My husband does not know what hair I grow where. LOL. As long I am here

I have straight pubes, and if I don't trim they get pretty unhygenic when it's the time of the month as they just hang down.

No pressure here - I have no intention of shaving! Did a couple of times in my 20s: hated the look (and the itching). DP doesn’t seem to care - he quite likes a bush.

I’m bi and I don’t like a shaved look on women either - thankfully none of my female partners ever did!

Yes - I teach university students and the young women often go about proudly displaying underarm and leg hair - good for them!

im a hairy mofo and i like to swim and honestly if i leave it to grow out it quickly coats my thighs - i shave that and trim the rest as in use cross stitching clips and clip it

It’s up to you what you do with it. The correct response to anyone pressurising you to have it one way or another that you prefer not to do is, “think yourself lucky you get to see it at all, matey”.

My question for you OP is: what type of alteration to his body and appearance does your partner make to fit in with your likes and dislikes? What would you expect him to do? If not, why not?

I’ve never shaved for anyone and I’ve had no complaints. I trim and keep it tidy for hygeine reasons. No way am I scheduling pubic hair removal into my already crammed schedule, only to then deal with the BS of itchy regrowth and ingrown hairs. Anyone taking issue with it can wax their balls.

Every single partner I have been with doesn’t care - my husband now also doesn’t mind - it’s whatever I feel like depending on my laziness I guess - I usually leave a strip 😂

But I don’t feel better. I look better when I’ve just had my hair cut but I don’t feel any different. Unlike when I had my public hair waxed and hated the feeling.