Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

[BearDownThere]

Is anyone else fed up of the expectation/strong preference for going completely shave pubic hair? I’m female and have only had male partners, but prepared to believe women have this expectation too if others have experienced it. I mean each to their own, but personally I find it feels child-like. Has anyone managed to find a compromise with their partner on this?

YABU- It’s nice to do things for your partner

YANBU-my hair my choice

It's bound to go out of fashion eventually. It's not healthy to shave there. The overall hairless ness concept is revolting. Occasionally there are ads about facial shaving and removing 'peach fuzz' like that's even hair, it's just down. Back in the 70s people shaved legs, arm pits (in summer) and bikini line. That was it.

Trim the hair and shave the sides.

I don't do it.
I did it once but went too far and ended up taking off the lot!
I looked like a weird fat baby woman

I don’t think there’s as much expectation as there used to be. Or maybe I just consume different media these days.

Anyway, I have trimmed a little on occasion but never fully, never regularly. Never had a negative comment.

Yeah I agree. I don't shave and had a few partners state a preference for no hair. I think it's child like and that repulses me so it stays as it is. They get over it. I wont go near someone bald, I'm ok with stubble don't have to be massive bush just adult

No pressure here. DH doesn't care if I do or don't, but I personally prefer to keep it trim myself. I feel cleaner and more groomed but that's for me, not for a man.

I'm a woman in a same sex relationship, neither us care about what the other does with thier pubic hair.
My ex make partner, always wanted me to shave, l hated it, so bloody itchy when it grew back, will never do it again...

Considering the range is from full bush to bald, that sounds bang on average.

It's a weird fashion... I am quite sad that my teenage daughters think it's the thing they "have" to do (despite me saying otherwise)

Never felt any expectation, been with DH for 22 years. It’s been a range of bush, trimmed, shaved depending on my preference, not his.

Same here. But younger women are pressured

What expectation? I never have and never will.
But I did find a few really loooong hairs recently so I trimmed those and then a few more. Then it felt weird and different. I wont again in future.

I wouldnt date anyone who thinks women should look like little girls or mega groomed 'down there'. Too weird and totally unnecessary.

Seems like a spin-off from porn/fantasy stuff - total elimination of pubes to achieve a pre-pubescent look. No thanks.

Well, I once had a partner who expressed his preference for a bush. I did give it a fair go but it wasn't for me. Ditched both the bush and the partner at the end.
I like what I like which is no hair at all. Whoever thinks it's disgusting is under no obligation to have sex with me.

I shaved between 20-26 because the guys I was with expected it. Then I realised fuck it why am I doing this and I stopped. I’m married and my husband sometimes requests it but he’s wise enough to mainly complement me on my downstairs with hair

im in the minority - early 30s and lots of friends have been shaving it all off for over a decade as they’ve felt they have no choice. One friend even had it all lazered off at 24 because she said she would never want hair down there which I think is sad and rather permanent

I think the whole “YABU- it’s nice to do things for your partner” is a shame.

Im completely bald down there and have been all my adult life. And that’s because that’s what I want. And it’s my preference for my body. Each to their own obviously but I don’t like the feeling of any hair down there, I never have. But it’s not because any partner has asked for it/wanted it.

I’ve been with my boyfriend a few years and he says it wouldn’t bother him either way, and obviously there’s times where we are intimate during my couple of days regrowth stage and he isn’t arsed at all. Doesn’t even notice.

“For hygiene reasons”

this always comes up on these threads. Pubic hair is hygienic. Removing, trimming, whatever is not more hygienic.

I used to shave most of it when I was in my early 20s, but haven't for a good 10 years now. I cycle quite a lot and found I was often getting ingrown hairs. Above all I just couldn't be bothered anymore, happy to leave it as it is.

I gave up on that at about 20, when I matured enough to realised it wasn’t necessary. Why are you as a from woman still shaving if you don’t want to??

Never had pressure in real life. I’ll trim for practical reasons occasionally, but rarely

I don't shave because I don't buy into society makes me and I can't think for myself

I lost all mine due to chemo, quite liked it at the time. But happier with a full bush now!

I agree the cultural pressure is significant and anti-woman no matter how many like to insist it it personal choice.

I short circuited it by not shaving anything (I’m talking legs, underarms, bikini) and the first time DH saw me naked he said bloody hell maybe a Gillette next time and I said nah I don’t think I will, and left it up to him to decide if he was so disgusted by my natural clean adult body that he would decline any further dates. He didn’t; so that was that sorted. But that is really flying in the face of social conditioning and I would not have been self assured enough to do it in my 20s (I was 31).

I KEEP my pubic hair for hygiene reasons but trim it short otherwise I get discharge stuck in it! If I remove too much, I find I'm too sweaty and smelly. The pubic hair seems to reduce this. Anyone else?? TMI...!

I generally speaking, shave all mine off. However, I’ve never had a sexual partner male or female, express it as a preference. Not that I’ve ever asked for an opinion on the matter.