Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

[BearDownThere]

Is anyone else fed up of the expectation/strong preference for going completely shave pubic hair? I’m female and have only had male partners, but prepared to believe women have this expectation too if others have experienced it. I mean each to their own, but personally I find it feels child-like. Has anyone managed to find a compromise with their partner on this?

YABU- It’s nice to do things for your partner

YANBU-my hair my choice

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What baffles me is how anyone successfully shaves (as opposed to getting a professional wax) down there to get a completely bald finish! It’s too fiddly. And it must be so itchy growing back,

I always though paedophiles were adults who are sexually attracted to children. Now I find out hair removal is all it takes.

Anything else we should all be avoiding so you don't get the wrong idea and throw disgusting accusations around?

If you want to shave then go ahead. I was talking about men expecting their partners to be all clean shaved like prepubertal girls.

I don't know if this is an age thing, but I'm late 30s and have never felt any pressure to shave down there.

Tried it once in my early 20s and found it so itchy and uncomfortable that I never did it again. I've never had a sexual partner who has commented on it, or stated a preference! Frankly, if they did, then they'd be told to piss off and have sex with someone else.

If you are feeling pressured then I think you need to look at the quality of the men you are dating.

Ahhhhhh, I must've got confused when you said "yes, I would call you a nonce" to a woman who said that she shaves and then doubled down calling her "miss classy paedophile".

My bad.

I couldn’t agree more- I’ve never felt pressure or disgust or anything from porn/a man about my bald fanny, but there sure is a lot of negativity from women about it on this thread!!

I like a landing strip, not a huge fan of hair down below deck. DH isn’t a very hairy man, so doesn’t have much hair generally. He isn’t bothered either way.

When I was about 7 I can recall my aunt having a conversation with DM about finding a lump down below. This lump was there a couple of days . She bathed and had a good tug and lo and behold it was some balled up tissue- I think it’s haunted me. 🤣

We were talking about terminology for men who expected their partners to shave.

It read very differently.

I've always been firm from the offset. Not shaving. I find it slightly disconcerting a man wants a woman to look like a little girl. That's my come back if they insist

Just like I'm never taking nude photos of myself or let others do it. Non negotiable.

Why do you assume I never read those kind of information?
I don't need pubic hair to trap dirt and bacteria because I have daily showers and wear clean underwear. It was very important in caveman era when people didn't shower, didn't wipe clean and had no underwear. I hate traces of pee and menstrual blood getting stuck in hair which are more difficult to wet wipe or shower rather then just skin.
I personally don't feel any unpleasant friction during intercourse and I prefer it shaven for oral sex.
We're all different. We're build differently and have different preferences and ways of doing things. Whatever works for me is best for me, same as the next person.

Goodness, I wasn’t having a go at you, or your personal preferences, it’s just that you said it didn’t serve a purpose when clearly it does. Calm down.

Try to think a bit harder perhaps?

That comment is as stupid as the one proclaiming that they've uncovered the class divide.

Leave women alone in their choices. It is really unsurprising that all of the abuse is towards women who choose to remove their pubic hair from those who don't.

I'm not attracted to hairy men and expect my partner to keep things very tidy (ideally shaved down there) and I do the same. I couldn't be bothered with the faff of making a triangle or landing strip so I just shave it off.
I've even thought about having it all lasered so it's permanent.
I am fair though and my hair is fine so shaving it is very easy and is smooth afterwards - I might feel differently if I had thick dark hair.
Despite the research, I feel that it's more hygienic to be hairless.

This. Bushy or smooth, no complaints. Also used the word 'variety'.

Only thing dh hates is it all took off. He says it just looks wrong.

But many if not most women like their dh shaved/trimmed and men do not look like little boys. I think it's quite sickening that people keep bringing children into this discussion.

Oral sex is more pleasant for all concerned without long, horrible pubes everywhere.

If a partner asked that of me I'd want to know why they had a preference for a woman with pubic area that resembled that of a prepubescent child, then enf the relationship.
Weird to even think about it, even more so to voice those thoughts?

So for women that have been asked, I'm curious, did you suggest that they also removed all pubic hair?

'So for women that have been asked, I'm curious, did you suggest that they also removed all pubic hair?'

Many men trim/shave.

Try to think a bit harder perhaps?
That comment is as stupid as the one proclaiming that they've uncovered the class divide.
Leave women alone in their choices. It is really unsurprising that all of the abuse is towards women who choose to remove their pubic hair from those who don't.

Calm down, I was discussing the broader phenomenon, not specifically attacking your bald fanny.

If a partner asked that of me I'd want to know why they had a preference for a woman with pubic area that resembled that of a prepubescent child, then enf the relationship.

Weird to even think about it, even more so to voice those thoughts?

Your thoughts are way weirder considering no woman with a mature body could ever resemble that of a prepubescent child.

But your not alone on this thread with your obsession with children, sadly.

My partner removes all of it, as do I. I didn't ask him to. I also shave my legs and armpits. I don't look like a child and its very odd (to say the least) that children's vaginas are on your mind like that.

I prefer shaved on men and women and most people I've dated have shaved as well.

I also keep it bald through waxing, shaving, and creams. I also have a crystal I use in between that removes hair.

I'm not a pedophile but I prefer going down on someone showered and bald, especially when it comes to women. I'm currently in a same sex relationship who prefers the same. It's not a deal breaker, but we both prefer hairless.

I think Vulvas are gorgeous and I've yet to see a grown woman with a vulva like a child's. Labia grows during puberty. I have large labia minora and look nothing like a child.

I have dated one man who preferred hair. Not my cup of tea but I did grow it out for him.

I didn't see it as a huge issue since he was the one spending time down there. It didn't seem like an issue to do what he preferred.

He shaved for me, I didn't shave for him. It worked. Lol

I know people tend to see this as a feminist issue but I don't. If someone is spending an hour down there I'll happily take their preferences into consideration.

Also for the younger generation of teens/20 year olds my niece and her friends don't shave their arm pits or legs but still shave their pubic hair. Make of that what you will.

Also I have never thought of my son's penis in connection to a shaved man. That's so gross. The last thing I'm thinking of when looking at a naked adult is children.

For me a much bigger feminist issue during sex is lazy men who expect oral but never give it. Or lazy men who think putting their dick in me would automatically make me orgasm.

Men feeling entitled to orgasms without reciprocation? That's an issue to me.