Anyone else hate the expectation to shave down there?

[BearDownThere]

Is anyone else fed up of the expectation/strong preference for going completely shave pubic hair? I’m female and have only had male partners, but prepared to believe women have this expectation too if others have experienced it. I mean each to their own, but personally I find it feels child-like. Has anyone managed to find a compromise with their partner on this?

YABU- It’s nice to do things for your partner

YANBU-my hair my choice

I expect some of them still are. I also expect that the vast majority of people who became sexually active in the 70s regularly had/have oral sex.

why does anyone care what anyone else thinks about this subject? No one else's opinion matters at all.

I'm in my 50s and I've never had a man express a preference. I've worn many styles over the years but prefer completely bare now. I find the 'pre pubescent' worries pretty daft tbh, there's absolutely no way that my post kids body resembles a child, any more than shaving your legs would.

I've never felt any pressure to keep my pubes a particular way. Mumsnet is the only place that seems to care, and who refuses to believe that my choice is my choice. Funny old world.

I find the attitudes of women far more oppressive than the views of men after reading this thread.

I had laser hair removal - the whole lot is gone.

I love it (not just being hairless but the convenience of not having to ‘tidy up’ or deal with ingrown hairs, shaving rashes etc.)

Exactly.

And I'm pretty sure a lot of these people would be all over any other thread saying "Her body, her choice" if the subject was different.

Yet when it comes to her body hair, her choices appear to mean she wants to look like a pre pubescent child because there couldn't possibly be any other reason 🙄

Shameful.

Thats very much a you problem, and i probably wouldnt be advertising that i think people who prefer shaven must be peadophiles that are going to abuse children. Very much a you problem.

As a woman in my mid 30’s who has had a vaginal birth, I’m very confident that hairless though my vulva is, it doesn’t in any way look pre-pubescent.

Judging by other posters similar opinions on the subject I wouldn't say this is a me problem.

I go for a monthly wax down there but not for my DP's benefit - it's purely for my own comfort and preference. I've never even asked him what he prefers and I don't think he would pressure me to look a certain way. Is this pressure your feeling from partners or is it self pressure based on media images etc?

As if proof were needed that this is definitely not a class divide.

I’ve never felt any pressure to shave. Sometimes I don’t do anything, sometimes I tidy it up. I never shave it completely. I’ve never had a partner express a preference either way.

I hate shaved pubes on men.

I swing back and forth between full bush or completely bald. Only because when I try and trim it I always get carried away and don’t know where/when to stop and so end up just getting rid of it all. 😂

dh doesn’t mind either way.

I see that it is 93% saying personal choice. Wish it was 100% though, but 93% was higher than I expected.

The use of the term nonce is quite democratic but ofcourse wouldn't be said in public by anyone with a bush. I'm not English so your class system obsession is quite ridiculous to me.

It isn’t. It’s a word used by someone with zero class.

I am English and I find it ridiculous too.

However, it does kind of prove that the PP who tried to turn it into a class divide, was very very wrong.

Surely this is more about your choice of partner than anything?

I shave most of it- not for anyone's benefit, but because I'm prone to itching and rashes down there if I don't. For me, too much hair is definitely a health hazard.

Agreed.

It’s funny that apparently the pressure is from men / porn but the only people I find who refuse to respect women’s choices are other women - specifically those who have an issue with a woman’s choice to remove her body hair.

Just do what you prefer op.

This

OK, miss Classy; paedophiiiile with stiff upper lip 🍵 cheerz