His answer was that he loved the earrings for me so brought them for his Dd and if his mum wore earrings he’d have got her a pair too. He said he loves us both and we are both special to him. Hes not getting my point though his actions were innocent and sweet. It’s just not the way I feel about it, that’s all You’re asking him to attach a lot of meaning to a nice gift. You want a grand romantic gesture that made you feel special and individual, he just wanted to get you a nice gift. There’s nothing wrong with the way you feel, but there’s nothing wrong with his gift, either. It’s just different ways of looking at it. You just need to decide if it’s something you can live with or if you’re just too different to be happy together.
He also told me to throw the earrings away Well, yes, because neither of you will ever be able to see them again without being reminded of this whole argument. I wouldn’t bin them because that would be a shocking waste, but I might be inclined to give them to his DD. You’ll certainly get no pleasure from wearing them now, and he’ll get no pleasure from seeing you enjoy them.
i was in two minds to broach this but I don’t want the same thing to happen again unless it’s matching socks or pjs, not my main bloody present. I don’t want to be grateful for crumbs in this relationship Unless there’s a back story, this sounds bloody awful. Crumbs? Exactly how badly does he treat you during the year for a lovely pair of earrings to be considered crumbs?
pissed off he couldn’t buy one special thing for me to show is appreciation for all I do for him in the year. Money isn’t the issue, it’s the laziness! I wouldn’t have given 2 hoots if he got dd the same brand but a different pair Ahh, so was it a special gift you wanted? Or was it a thank you? Do you feel resentful of what you do for him? Is he not grateful enough? Do you feel like there’s inequality in your relationship?
And yes also there is recurring theme this year that I have to explain basic things that should come natural to dp for me and the way he is in our relationship. So whether justified or not I feel shit as he’s called me ungrateful and selfish You sound very resentful of him. So either it’s justified and he’s taking the piss all year, and you’re giving him the opportunity to make up for it all by choosing a special and thoughtful gift, or he’s actually a lovely, decent fella who treats you kindly and with respect but who just doesn’t have it in him to make the romantic grand gestures that you would like. If it’s the first one, 30 seconds of thoughtfulness doesn’t make up for twelve months of piss taking. That really would be crumbs. If it’s the latter, are you compatible? Or would you say goodbye to all of those good qualities for someone who is all style and very little substance?