Christmas cancelled

[SandSandy]

Feeling very sorry for myself! Had family coming over today for Christmas, I've spent ages preparing food, games, the usual - they've cancelled last minute as they're ill.

It can't be helped and I'm not upset with the family at all, just really disappointed to be spending Christmas alone 😔

I’m really sorry OP but this wouldn’t sit well with me at all - I agree with everyone else, don’t spend your day cooking for them.

I’d understand if they’d want you to cook at home and then pick you up with all the food to have the meal at theirs instead, but just picking up the food? No way.

Plus, not being paranoid, but everyone feeling sick simultaneously? Not one person feeling well enough to spend Christmas with you? Hmmmm…. 🤔

Oh come on. Overnight they suddenly all feel ill and they were fine yesterday?

I hope you have a nice day OP.

Do they have form for leaving you out? It doesn't sit comfortably the thought of them telling you they are too unwell to want to see you (even though you are willing to) whilst all sitting around the table eating Christmas dinner together. I'd echo other posters in not doing a meals on wheels for them. Freeze it and invite them around another day when they're well enough.

Exactly this. I feel a bit under the weather because I’ve had a crap nights sleep, I’ve got a headache & a sore throat. I’ve taken a cold & flu tablet and will be cracking on with Christmas! They need to take some paracetamol and go back to bed for an hour, not leave you to cook for them then have your own Christmas dinner alone. Whatever happens, I hope you do have a happy Christmas OP xxx

Freeze what you can of the food, pour yourself a drink and have a lovely lazy day, OP. Maybe take a walk and enjoy the peace xx

So they want you to spend hours cooking then eat alone.? That's crap. I'd say no I'm going to freeze it until you feel better and can come and share it.

Er I hope you said no to this actually

I'd freeze it and invite friends around, people that have shown OP respect over the year.

If it were me OP, I would be telling them you are now starting to feel ‘achy and headachy’ too and are too unwell to cook for them!

So they're happy to let you do all the work and collect the fruits of your labours but they're not actually going to eat with you. Bloody hell that's the cherry on top that is

No way would I cook for them today. If they’re unwell they don’t need a full Christmas Day meal. simple!

suggest that as they won’t enjoy it anyway that you’ll reschedule so that you can all have it together when they’re better

Its ok to be sad and dissapointed. The build up is huge and then it all goes down like a baloon.

Once you feel a fraction better, see what can be done. Can you all meet up once they feel better? Can you take food to them so it gets eaten and they dont have to worry about food /assuming its something they could eat while ill/. Have a peaceful day by yourself or whatever you can think of.

So they've basically just cut OP out of the dinner, apart from her food and labour??

This is too weird. No way do they all feel too ill to do Christmas with you yet they're well enough to take your food and do Christmas without you. Sorry, you sound much nicer and possibly more of a pushover than me, but I'd be steaming and insist on joining them one way or another, or they don't get the catering.

I wouldn't be cooking for them.

If I was nearby I'd be offering for four of us to come over.

Guess what we forgot to get out of the freezer yesterday😂

Being totally honest yes I would prefer Christmas just my dh and kids but if I knew my friend was alone I would rather they told me and I would invite them. Knowing they were alone would not be worth my ”perfect family Christmas “

Is that not bit cheeky of them as you might not choose to cook much now? It sounds worse cooking a load of stuff and still being on your own!

If they are anything like my "headachy & achy", driving & eating a Christmas lunch would be a no.

Nah, fuck that shit. They don’t get to leave you out and get you to do all the work. There is no way they are all ill. And if they are they won’t need dinner. I’d message them and say I’m so sorry, I must be coming down with what you have as am suddenly headachy and achy. I’m not up to cooking dinner so let’s reschedule for when we are all well again.

then have a lovely relaxing day.

Bizarre that they would assume OP would still be cooking as per the original plan once they cancelled.

I would offer to bring the food to them. Then you and BIL can eat together and wait on the sickies.
I would rather get sick than spend Christmas day alone.
Wear your mask and partially open one window near where you sit.

• the illness going around is sudden.

I was feeling off and within an hour I was literally bed bound.

Hope you end up having a lovely satisfying one anyone op, as others say make sure you keep the loveliest bits for yourself and hope you get to watch some lovely tv and read something lovely x

I must have missed that part in the OP, where she states that she has not been invited to share the dinner with them, where they are staying. Has she said that there is a reason why she cannot go with the Bil when he comes for the food?

Honestly I'm a bit speechless at how they have behaved. They know how much food you must have paid for to feed that many people and the effort you have gone to to plan it and shop for it . I would have to be at deaths door to cancel on someone after that. Particularly as that someone ( who has said they are happy to risk the germs)will now be alone for Christmas day when they have each other. And now they want you to go to the effort to cook all that food and have it ready to be collected. That's taking cheeky fuckery to a whole new level.