Christmas cancelled

[SandSandy]

Feeling very sorry for myself! Had family coming over today for Christmas, I've spent ages preparing food, games, the usual - they've cancelled last minute as they're ill.

It can't be helped and I'm not upset with the family at all, just really disappointed to be spending Christmas alone 😔

OP I’m so sorry. Maybe I’m just grouchy because I’m working right now but this is so unbelievably mean :( They’re all together at your parents’ but are happy to leave you alone on Christmas Day? Look after yourself today, have a nice breakfast and go on a long walk💐

Oh that’s crap, I’m sorry OP.
Hope you have a good day, lots of food and telly.
Merry Christmas x

This is so rude OP, don't be so soft. If they can't make the effort to come on Christmas Day because they're so ill, then there is no way on this earth I'd be cooking dinner for them to collect later or allowing them to come and pick up food as though I was a free supermarket. Stand up for yourself and have some boundaries.

I’d tell them you have decided that you won’t be cooking today. Bloody rude! Do they think you run a takeaway service???

I’d either be cooking and taking the food over, then staying. There’s no way all six of them will be in bed, especially the children. Or say bugger that, you’re all ill, better off having soup and toast for their dinner.

Then you can enjoy a lazy day of telly and chocolate, after your long walk.

Are they having a laugh?? If they’re not well enough to come over and have lunch, wtf are they picking up food??!!!

This is a good point, OP.

Why are you still cooking?

Could you freeze some of it and delay Christmas Day until they’re a bit better?

They want you to cook dinner for them all but not be with them to eat it.....???? No chance!

I also think that’s really mean of them. My mum would be coming anyway but if really not able to travel she would at least tell me to come to her rather than be alone.

Bugger cooking for them, do yourself a lovely meal, have a nice walk and eat all your favourite chocolates while watching Christmas films💐

Please don't cook for them, what a cheek.

Slightly horrified at the designs on your food OP. Assuming you're ok with seeing them if they're poorly, I'd say BIL either picks up you AND the food / Christmas stuff or he picks up neither.

I think that is really mean of them too.

A bit headachey = have a paracetamol and crack on.

Also exactly what @Sketchy said. Whatever they've said they have sounds wonderfully non specific...

I'm so sorry your Christmas has been changed at the last minute, I bet it was going to be wonderful with all of your preperation and planning. You sound like a very lovely relative & friend.

Now is the time to turn some of that thoughtfulness back into yourself and put effort into having a really lovely day for you!

There’s no way I would be cooking for them all to enjoy just because they feel a bit headachey. Cheeky bastards!

Are the normally like this, or are you normally close ?, if a close loving family I would go along with it.

but there’s a big part of my the questions - headaches and feel ill is what my mum would have called “ morning i tus “ get up and get on with day and you will be fine, anything needing buckets is cancel plans.

I would be very tempted to tell them you’re going to have a quiet Christmas today and cook tomorrow when hopefully they will be up to attending.

I would put money on the kids have been over excited and up early and all they need is a after dinner nap

Well that’s rude. Can’t come because they’re all ill, but be over later to pick up dinner. Bloody cheek.

Agreed if you're that ill eating a full on Christmas lunch would be the last thing you'd want.
Absolute piss taking the piss op.
I'd be telling them not happening I'm not a fucking take away.

I'd be really annoyed that they were going to pick up the food but not eat it with me.

Make sure you keep plenty for yourself!

Yes think is right actually.

They’re clearly not that unwell if they can manage a Christmas dinner. When I have a bad cold the only thing I want is simple food, like chicken broth.

OP, tell them you’ve got other plans now so won’t be cooking.

Wow, are they for real? They must think you're a mug OP.

A bit achy? Wtf

Don’t cook for them. You are being had. They sound very rude and entitled. Do they have form for this sort of behaviour?

Why aren't they picking up the OP with her food; she has already said she would take the chance hosting them when they're feeling ill. If they really can't leave the house - let Mohammed go to the mountain!

Exactly!