Christmas cancelled

[SandSandy]

Feeling very sorry for myself! Had family coming over today for Christmas, I've spent ages preparing food, games, the usual - they've cancelled last minute as they're ill.

It can't be helped and I'm not upset with the family at all, just really disappointed to be spending Christmas alone 😔

Fuck that shit, you’re not bloody meals on wheels 😤
they’re not coming because they’re ‘headachey’?
Don’t spend your day slaving over cooking for them op.
I’m gutted for you that you don’t have anyone local to spend the day with, over the years we’ve welcomed many an unexpected guest or two at Christmas and wouldn’t think twice about offering a very last minute invite if someone was going to be on their own and wasn’t planning on it.
Go for a lovely walk, some pubs will be open if you want to nip in for a cuppa/beer/whatever.
i think your family have been quite rude tbh. Cancelling because of illness I can sort of understand (although who cancels because of a headache?!) but expecting you to still
provide the meal is royally taking the piss.

It'd a bit rude for them to expect you to cook and hand the food over to them so that they can all eat together, while you stay home alone. Unless it's something life threatening, can't you wear a mask and go to them?

Sorry OP, I think they're taking the piss. You cook all day for them and they celebrate together, whilst you're on your own? I would tell them you're not bothering to cook, you're postponing until they're feeling better.

No way would I be cooking for them to collect it. Sorry, I think you need to stand up for yourself here and say you won’t be cooking a large meal to eat alone, they’ll have to make other last minute arrangements, as they’re expecting you to do. This is spectacularly rude of them.

They probably didn’t want to expose you, so if you’re ok to catch a bug, then let them know you and BIL will bring the food and you will eat with them.

Merry Christmas!

I would agree with the majority that this is a whole new level of rude. Freeze what you can have a drink get cosy and get an Indian takeaway (if you like Indian) but don't spend the day cooking for people that are so inconsiderate.

Anyone who’s on their own, check and see if your local parkrun is taking place. You don’t have to run the 5km and you’ll be welcomed. Lots of friendly people, you don’t even need to register if you just feel like turning up.

So they’re well enough to enjoy a Christmas lunch and BIL is well enough to drive (so he could drive all of them, couldn’t he)??

they should have either come to you. Or invited you to come to them.

expecting you to still cook and sending BIL to „pick up the food“ is incredibly mean. Don’t play along, OP! You will feel so much worse afterwards.

I’d be telling them to piss right off. If they’re that unwell they can’t possibly eat a Christmas dinner. To me, it sounds like they can’t be arsed to come more than anything else. Cheeky fuckers,

That's really shitty OP. They're a bit achey? I'd have checked you were ok with us still coming and then just dosed myself up!
If they had D&V then fair enough but not a bloody headache!
I wouldn't be cooking for them. I'd freeze it and postpone.
I hope you'll have a peaceful day regardless

Do they have form for leaving you out OP?
How convenient that they are all gathered in one place but just happen to get a 'headache' severe enough that they can't travel but doesn't affect them eating.
No bloody way would I be spending today cooking for them, I would salvage as much food as possible and freeze it and the rest (veg etc) I would chop up and take to the woods on my walk and let the birds/mice/squirrels have it!

I’m not being funny OP but ‘head achey and achey’ is not a reasonable excuse to cancel Christmas! They are not going to be bed ridden especially with small children in the mix so they are just deciding to have Christmas (albeit probably a paracetamol sponsored one) at your parents house and exclude you! On top of that they’ve decided to graciously use you as a take out service.

I wonder what they’d say if you said you felt a bit achey too and would just come over to them and spend the day there with them!

Tell them you've cancelled the dinner and they'll be collecting cold turkey sandwiches. So they cancel a few hours before and leave you to spend the day alone but still want their bloody dinner?!

Ooft, OP, please do not cook for them. Make a few nice bits for yourself today and spend the rest of the day relaxing. I wouldn't be entertaining their cheeky fuckery. Shocking behaviour from them.

Any of the parkruns that are on today will have volunteer parkwalkers whose job it is to stroll round the course with anyone who wants some company. No need to run at all. You'd be made welcome.

https://www.parkrun.org.uk/events/events/#geo=7.17/52.668/-1.94

If you still cook for them then you're a mug OP, sorry, but you are.

I'd be telling them that you're not going to the effort of cooking a big meal when nobody is there to enjoy it.

Are you seriously gonna cook for them to pick up? They are treating you like a fool!

I am finding it hard to believe that you are going to be cooking for six people who won’t even be there and notr have you been invited there??
come on now! Put it in the freezer and tell BIL to get a takeaway.

Aah sorry OP, I hope you manage to have a lovely day anyway.

FWIW I think it's a bit shit of your family given you were prepared to risk it. If they had norovirus or similar fair enough they'd all feel to rough to move or have company but just a bit achey and headachey surely they could take a couple of ibuprofen and tough it out for the meal at least. L

Can you not go to theirs?

I get that they're ill, but they're apparently not too ill to come over and pick up a Christmas dinner to eat.

If I were them the least I'd do is ask you to come over with the food so you weren't on your own.

They are shockingly rude. Can’t be arsed to come to you but still demanding dinner, refusing to allow you to go to them.

I’d be freezing the food and telling them you have decided not to cook , and just have a day of eating cheese and crackers, mince pies and panettone.