Christmas cancelled

[SandSandy]

Feeling very sorry for myself! Had family coming over today for Christmas, I've spent ages preparing food, games, the usual - they've cancelled last minute as they're ill.

It can't be helped and I'm not upset with the family at all, just really disappointed to be spending Christmas alone 😔

Definitely a piss take to cancel then expect you to still cook for them and come collect dinner so they all eat without you.

Maybe I've no xmas spirit, but if they are well enough to eat they are well enough to come over to you.

You're not a caterer!

Another shout of do not cook for them! OP, they are treating you very badly. Can you see this? Handy for them all being together. Truth is that they can’t be arsed coming over to you. I’m very sorry that you’re being shat on like this. Hope you have a good day, whatever you end up doing.

Aw no xx 😘 I would say to come to us but I don’t know where you live xxx 😘
what to do is postpone the usual festivities/ meal .
see what you can freeze or what has a long enough date to be used later this week ?
we are having a quiet one because family are too busy / spread out via the UK / overseas .
just 3 of us plus dog 🐶

This is exactly what the OP should do!

ALL of them are sick? Hmm....
If they have form for this, no way would I cook for them.
Also - headachy? No D&V? Crap excuse

Sorry op but if they are happy enough to collect the food, take it home and eat it together without you.... Then that is taking the royal piss. Surely they could take you with them and eat together? At least give you the option if you want to go and risk catching it.

Sounds like a lovely idea if its possible.

I don’t think I would agree to that. This is starting to feel mean not just unfortunate. If they can eat a big meal they can come and eat it in your home surely? Or at least invite you to join them.

Last year went abroad to see family (we hadn't been since pre-pandemic). My sister, a doctor, said she was going to work the first part in order to have a few days off over the Xmas Eve/day/Boxing, and an old friend who hadn't seen her in years too said she'd fly in and join us for a day.
Then my sister got bad Covid and as my DD is immunocompromised she had to pretty much confine herself to her room. We saw her for four days over the two weeks we were there!

If the food will get wasted then why not put it to good use.

And its a lovely thing to cook for your loved ones who are unwell.

Don't cook for them OP! Save as much as you can, freeze it etc. sounds like they are taking the piss. Or alternatively why can't you go round to theirs?
Personally I would have a nice pamper session and go on a lovely long walk and not answer my door / phone to them. Happy Christmas 🎄

They've just said that BIL is feeling the least worst so he will drive to mine and pick up dinner for them all once I've finished cooking

Cheeky AF. Im all for not wasting food, but expecting you to still cook a large meal so they can collect it, eat it together at theirs while you're on your own is outrageous!

As much as you don't want to get ill, would it be worth joining the cooked dinner and getting a lift to everyone too so you're not alone?

Op I would be very carful seeing bil.
You do not want this bug I promise you, I felt achy and very tired and then went down hill rapidly and was bed bound for several days.

You don't want him to give it to you, have ventilated space, don't get close to him etc have it all ready to go so he doesn't hang around.

Seriously?

So the heartless lot will bravely rally round long enough to rise above their head achey state - and merrily, or otherwise, scoff the food you’ve laboured over - whilst knowing you are on your own - they are choosing to leave you on your own - on Christmas Day?

Sod that! I’m sure their recovery will be better facilitated by having something simple, bland and easy for them to make themselves! They can then continue to rest in their little family group. Tea and toast, anyone - with a bit of jam, as it is Christmas after all!

ALL OF THRM?
I smell crap

Given that this poster seems to be doubting the veracity of the OP I thought that seemed strange too.

This is mean, a couple of years ago my nephew tested positive for covid on Christmas Eve. We were planning Christmas day at mine with xh, my dds, dm, df and dsis and dn. We all decided to go ahead and take the risk, as life is short and who knows when it might be the last Christmas together. We did all get covid, xh and I actually had to postpone a holiday, but no regrets.

They should be collecting you and the food, catching a cold from them won't be the end of the world, but to be alone whilst they're all together is very sad

@SandSandy sorry to hear that you went to so much trouble and you've been disappointed. I do hope you're able to salvage something from your day.

The audacity of them, how unbelievably entitled and cheeky of them. DO NOT cook for them. Treat yourself to a lovely relaxing day x

I do agree with this, it seems a bit off to me. They have headaches and are achey. Well take some paracetamol. You don't let someone down unless you are properly ill on Christmas Day.