Will Dh wake up in time

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He’s really pissing me off

As usual I’ve done every single thing for Christmas
It’s our normal thing that if we’re at our house on Christmas eve, I go to bed with dd..Christmas stories etc and fall asleep. Dh then brings all the presents downstairs, sets them up, eats the mince pie and carrot, drinks the milk and so on.
Dd fast asleep for ages, I couldn’t hear Dh milling about at all, trying not to nod off as so tired. So i creep downstairs and he’s fast asleep on the sofa. I woke him up to remind him (he sometimes falls asleep on the sofa until the morning and dd goes down)
I reminded him to put them out, because if he doesn’t wake up and she comes down, she’ll obviously be devastated, I also ate half the bloody mince pie, drank the milk etc. He sat up
half asleep and said he would. Ive come back up to bed and still can’t hear any moving about. I cannot relax and fall asleep until I know he’s done it, just cannot rely on him at all, If I go down and wake him up, he’ll probably be angry as in ‘I told you i’d do it’ but what if he doesn’t wake up
Shall I just bloody well do that also?

Baffled
Your awake why not just put the presents out?

You know you don't actually have to eat the mince pie, carrot or drink the milk. Put the milk back in the bottle, mince pie back in the box/tin, and cut the top off the carrot and nibble it.

He is still an idiot.

I would do the presents myself if I knew he was doing that tbh course he should help though

Because we co sleep with dd and if i’m
not there she may wake. Also, the cupboard is right next to the bedroom, the bags are heavy and basically ive done every other thing!!!

She’s smart, she made a special mince pie and would see it was back in the fridge or bin, I threw the milk down the sink as can’t drink milk like that

Still lay downstairs asleep and I can’t move as Dd very restless and will wake

Ugh men

This. Just do it. Have grace for all and enjoy Christmas.

This would trigger me so badly OP, you have my full sympathy

Text him and say DO THE PRESENTS NOW then ring his phone for a few rings, enough to wake him, and put it down. He should then see the message.

Literally just done this twice to his phone 🙈

It’s giving me rage! I’m so tired but so worried he won’t wake and we’ll head down in the morning and nothing done, how would we explain that?! Ffs

I enjoy it, enjoy it all, this is one thing, just one little thing. If I attempt to do it now, I risk waking her with the noise/me not being here, she might come to look for me and I’m downstairs putting all the presents out, he’s snoring on the sofa

How do others do it in your homes?

We wait til ds is asleep and take pressies down together. But if that's your routine that's what he should do. I'd be tempted to pull bags onto landing so he can't just stumble upstairs into bed.

All by myself. I can't rely on anyone else to do it.

Sometimes he falls asleep on the sofa and can easily sleep there all night, this is my worry. If he does and doesn’t wake, the presents won’t have been done

Jesus, it was one job, just one job

If be furious and upset and not able to sleep anyway.

Im slightly worried that you don’t feel you can go down and wake him again without him getting angry though. He's a dick and he should be apologising not getting pissed at you .

If she’s so young that she still needs you in her bed for her to sleep then she is young enough that you can lie about the time and say it isn’t morning yet and she needs to stay in bed. Make it fun. Then you can check if he has done it.

Or just get up and do it yourself. All this drama over having to eat a mince pie. Does your child dig through the bin? And the drama over the presents. Just go and do it. You can deal with your husband later.

Just take the presents down and then you can relax. Surely it will only take a couple of minutes?

We put all presents out under the tree days before whenever they arrive. Apart from stockings which are just the little bits and take 5 minutes to set up.

None of this faffing about with piles of presents up to the last minute.

How long will it take you to put a few bits out that you can't risk DD waking up in that time frame?

Get up. Go downstairs and shake him
Awake. The. Right back to bed.

Don't let him ruin it. He will make it your fault.

I can’t sleep/won’t be able to
I just cba with having any issues over Christmas
I hear coughing so hopefully he’s getting up!

Our gifts are already under the tree as they’re family ones. Stocking ones are done at about midnight (dh and I do it together usually but he’s working so I’ll do it). Need teens to stop getting up and about though 🙄

Eh? You said in your original post you drank it. What a waste.