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Will Dh wake up in time

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 22:43

He’s really pissing me off

As usual I’ve done every single thing for Christmas
It’s our normal thing that if we’re at our house on Christmas eve, I go to bed with dd..Christmas stories etc and fall asleep. Dh then brings all the presents downstairs, sets them up, eats the mince pie and carrot, drinks the milk and so on.
Dd fast asleep for ages, I couldn’t hear Dh milling about at all, trying not to nod off as so tired. So i creep downstairs and he’s fast asleep on the sofa. I woke him up to remind him (he sometimes falls asleep on the sofa until the morning and dd goes down)
I reminded him to put them out, because if he doesn’t wake up and she comes down, she’ll obviously be devastated, I also ate half the bloody mince pie, drank the milk etc. He sat up
half asleep and said he would. Ive come back up to bed and still can’t hear any moving about. I cannot relax and fall asleep until I know he’s done it, just cannot rely on him at all, If I go down and wake him up, he’ll probably be angry as in ‘I told you i’d do it’ but what if he doesn’t wake up
Shall I just bloody well do that also?

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 22:45

drspouse · 25/12/2024 04:30

He doesn't bring all of everyone's presents! He brings the stockings. End of.

At ours, he brings all the presents….

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 22:49

Semiramide · 25/12/2024 04:33

@Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea - your daughter is young enough for you to 'need' to co-sleep.

And yet she is getting presents that are too big and heavy for you to carry downstairs?

Are you sure she is not getting too much...

What are you on about…? So many judgemental, nosey people, my god 😅

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 22:58

sanityisamyth · 25/12/2024 07:25

Name change fail?

Eh? This wasn’t me?

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 22:59

BrendaSmall · 25/12/2024 07:34

🤣🤣🤣
can’t be that smart, or she’d know it’s you not Santa who delivers the presents

Nice.

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 23:01

MollyRover · 25/12/2024 08:13

Ya ridiculous. What an absolute drama about nothing. Looking to aggravate the man because she's busy pretending their child can't even sleep without her. Putting all the presents in the "right" places 🙄. Merry Christmas everyone, hope the rest of you aren't worrying about this kind of trivial sh*te and are enjoying your morning!!

Be quiet

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 23:04

sweeneytoddsrazor · 25/12/2024 10:30

You have special places for presents?

Just the stockings, one is the dogs, one is hers, thats all

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 23:09

Anotherfrozenpizzafortea · 25/12/2024 10:47

If she's smart and old enough to have made a special mince pie, or to check the bin, I think it might be time to let her grow up a bit more and cut out the co-sleeping?

Co sleeping doesn’t really have much to do with how grown up a child is. It’s perfectly normal in many other countries, usually only the uk where many kids are put in another room when tiny and where parents go out at night and hire a sitter etc, instead of going out as a family. It’s fine to disagree with my way, but it doesn’t mean yours is right…I disagree with your way

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valentinka31 · 25/12/2024 23:53

It's Christmas. Don't be annoyed. Personally I would just be happy to be at home with my DH and child and excited for Christmas.

I don't mean to sound too serious, but it is actually amazing just to be able to do all that and have Christmas together. It's all about love, and showing it. You might say 'oh well then where is his love for me, when I've been doing everything?!' - we have to carry each other from time to time. I guess there must be something else he does that is useful enough..

saffronspices · 26/12/2024 22:32

My OH fell asleep while waiting for the trifle custard to set - he stayed up all night asleep. Because he didn't come to bed the cats (9) weren't shut in the lounge & therefore had access to the kitchen. Needless to say they helped themselves to what was in the slow cooker - a joint of cooked beef left in it's juices to keep it moist for Xmas day & didn't bother to hide the evidence.

Gingernan · 26/12/2024 22:51

I think we left a soft drink as the children were worried about Santa getting drunk in charge of the sleigh, imagine if every house in the world left him alcohol!

Suzuki76 · 26/12/2024 22:56

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 23:09

Co sleeping doesn’t really have much to do with how grown up a child is. It’s perfectly normal in many other countries, usually only the uk where many kids are put in another room when tiny and where parents go out at night and hire a sitter etc, instead of going out as a family. It’s fine to disagree with my way, but it doesn’t mean yours is right…I disagree with your way

You disagree with parents going out at night? Until the child is what age - 18? Am I supposed to drag my (not invited) child to a wedding night do or my best friend's 40th?

CrowleyKitten · 26/12/2024 23:29

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:37

What do you give instead?

in the UK, traditionally it's sherry and a mince pie

MandEmummy · 27/12/2024 00:04

Ahhhhhh Men!!!!! The audacity of it all is infuriating. We make and plan evreything so its extra special and they cant do the simplest tasks. My DH is like this and after the 3rd time waking, I tend to aggressively say 'WAKE THE FUCK UP, I AM TIRED'. He usually gets the message then.

MandEmummy · 27/12/2024 00:05

Suzuki76 · 26/12/2024 22:56

You disagree with parents going out at night? Until the child is what age - 18? Am I supposed to drag my (not invited) child to a wedding night do or my best friend's 40th?

Dont be ridiculous

MandEmummy · 27/12/2024 00:15

OP some of the comments on. This thread are absoloutely awful.

Ignore the bad ones.

Keep bed sharing for however long you want to.
You can really tell the sleep trainers (let their babies cry unnecessarily because they want alone time or a glass of wine to themselves etc) to those that are doing whats best for BOTH mum and baby.

You're doing a fab job. Hope DH knows that and improves x

JFDIYOLO · 27/12/2024 00:35

Please don't tell her the big presents are from Santa.

Tell her the stocking is, if you like, but ensure she knows who's given her what, so she can say thank you.

This is because children can't understand why Santa, the magic one, brought their friend a laptop but only brought them a book.

But they might be able to understand some families don't have as much money in real life.

Cloudtime · 27/12/2024 01:44

Semiramide · 25/12/2024 04:33

@Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea - your daughter is young enough for you to 'need' to co-sleep.

And yet she is getting presents that are too big and heavy for you to carry downstairs?

Are you sure she is not getting too much...

How monumentally judgemental . In any event ? It’s usual the case that the younger the child the larger the toy ….. jumperoos, kitchens, garages, rocking horses vs AirPods , phones , trainers and hoodies !

Cloudtime · 27/12/2024 01:48

pimplebum · 25/12/2024 08:13

I am in a lesbian relationship and this lazy un caring sexist shite is why I am in a happy caring supportive lesbian relationship no pressure for sex also

Exactly why I now have an ex husband and a current girlfriend .

katepilar · 28/12/2024 10:31

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 25/12/2024 23:09

Co sleeping doesn’t really have much to do with how grown up a child is. It’s perfectly normal in many other countries, usually only the uk where many kids are put in another room when tiny and where parents go out at night and hire a sitter etc, instead of going out as a family. It’s fine to disagree with my way, but it doesn’t mean yours is right…I disagree with your way

I think UK is really bad at putting small babies and children into a bedroom of their own and leaving them to be looked after by strangers.

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 28/12/2024 12:41

katepilar · 28/12/2024 10:31

I think UK is really bad at putting small babies and children into a bedroom of their own and leaving them to be looked after by strangers.

Agree

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lilkitten · 04/01/2025 13:17

Hesonlyakidharry · 24/12/2024 23:43

I’m Scottish. It’s whisky here (or sherry!). I thought the English did sherry.
Milk is American. I’m guessing you’ve done milk and cookies because you saw it in American films?

We always used to put out whisky when I was little (we're English). Only recently learned all my friends did milk. Guess it was just because my dad wanted it. My kids have done milk, because they see it in American things but also we don't really drink and DH would rather drink milk. We used to put out a mince pie (for me) but lately it's a homemade decorated cookie as the kids wanted to

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