Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

Oh bloody hell get a grip

Christmas has always been celebrated in the run up. School dances, work parties, pantomime etc. Just because you don’t want to start until 25 December doesn’t mean it’s a societal failing because other people do

You want to control when your DH is allowed to eat cheese?! You sound like a nightmare

Do you have issues with food and control? Is your mum like this? I say this because my cousin & her num are exactly the same as you. Both have an unhealthy relationship with food and a need to control the environment around them.

64% of UK adults are overweight. A similar percentage are disagreeing with the OP’s approach. Go figure 😂

Rage and disgust are strong emotions to feel for this.

It's just more important to you than it is for him.

YABU.

"Sure, cheese I understand - get a grip! - but drink is totally different and you should LTB."

I disagree with OP and I'm a size 10 with a BMI of 22, so definitely not overweight! I still think she's wrong for being so controlling and obsessive about cheese 🤣

We start the treating ourselves much earlier than you.

honestly you sound like a control freak, a killjoy, and a bit of a bully all rolled into one

Christmas started yesterday here and will finish sometime in January. You can’t do everything in one big day.

Actually, a healthy relationship with food, including enjoying portions of things you like, is associated with a healthy weight. Instead of periods of denial followed by gorging on things. Eating a small amount of good quality cheese when you want it, vs "I've waited and waited for this so now I'm going to eat as much as I can".

Stress can also be associated with weight gain. Someone eating a bit of their own food, in their own house, when they want to, isn't really worth stressing about.

I see where you’re coming from and I’d be more annoyed he’d had the cheese and wine by himself when it was purchased to have a treat for you both.is he generally this self absorbed because I think at the base of it, this is the problem.

I think if anything this thread has shown you a range of people have different views and that’s ok. It’s fine for you to feel certain way but it’s also fine for your hubby to feel a certain way. What’s not fine is for you to indict he enjoys the food in the way you enjoy the food. If he wants to start early as long as there is what.you need on the day that’s ok if you want to hold off that’s ok too. You both don’t have to do the same thing but I am guessing this is bigger than that - it’s how you feel about him as disgusted is a strong word to use about your life partner.

Me too. I also can't help wondering if the OP exercises the same level of control over her sex life as she does with the christmas snacks!

Think the reason for that is not down to one week in the year 🙄

As a 71 year old I think this is the loveliest message 😊 I second it, please give your DH a hug, say you're sorry, open that bottle & join him!
Have an amazing Christmas! 🥰

Not read the whole thread, but what I have read is batshit crazy.. this thread was started mid evening on the 23rd! I'd understand if everything had gone 5 days ago, but it was a chunk of cheese and a drink what 36 hours before Christmas Day ... ?

Why are your making such a big issue over some food and drink I couldn’t get this worked up over nothing.

I take your point, OP but it's just cheese. He can go and get more cheese? And whatever the drink was? 'Delayed gratification' starts to sound a bit extreme really.

The important thing is to mark the birth of Cheesus.

And out pops the cloven hoof.

Peas on Earth. ⭐

Very much this. Christmas things were special because they weren't eaten at other times of year/the sort of thing you could afford regularly, in a lot of cases.

Just me and DH and I've seriously relaxed the rules, I don't want to be wasting food that was "saved" and then not used.

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