Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

Lack of ability to delay gratification...my goodness 😭😭😭

He's had a bit of cheese and it's Christmas, stop being a Grinch and treat yourself to a mince pie!

Given the level of anger that comes through from OPs posts, her stringent views on exactly what constitutes Christmas and her determination to paint her husband enjoying a treat as a disgusting failure of character, I doubt very much that he was especially involved in the planning. I think enforcement rather than agreement…

Did you miss the bit where he drank one of his bottles of expensive drink and ate a chunk of cheese. He did NOT "leave the dregs for her".

Jeez there are some joyless people on this thread. I can't really imagine that eating a meal with OP would contain much joy either.

I'm among the first to bemoan Christmas stuff arriving in the shops months in advance, but the week prior to Christmas is part of the season to many of us.

Some of you really need to pull the candy canes out of your arses, have you heard yourselves!

Don't touch the Christmas food? My mum used to hide the treats and we would come across stuff in the back of cupboards in the middle of March - there were 6 of us so she had to - great fun

When it comes to cheese, I don’t believe in deferred gratification. I once got a cheese hamper for Xmas (my husband is amazing), and I remember very fondly me, mum, husband and son falling on it like wolves after a few Xmas eve baileys. In the immortal words of the late great Terry Hall, it’s better to ‘ Enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think’

Me too Op. it’s not that you have it all on Xmas day, it’s that the feasting begins then.
The wait for the big day was a huge part of the anticipation and enjoyment of the whole season.

I do think this thread is a bit of an insight into how a country’s culture can change quite rapidly. I will probably be slated for this but the inability to delay pleasure any more probably has something to do with our obesity problem.

I like spreading the treats out. Especially cheese. We always get a lovely cheese board, which we cannot eat in a day and certainly not on Christmas day. Every year we think we will have some in the evening on Christmas day, but we don't. So we open it the day we finish work for Christmas and make a nice wee platter with celery and chutney and lovely wine. If a but of cheese was snaffled earlier, I would not give a monkey's.

😂🤣😆

The operative word in your anecdote is "we."

OP envisioned a festive joint occasion, which is not unreasonable or uncommon.

Totally agree, @thestudio

So the thread title is not about sex then 😁
Just let the poor man eat have his cheese…that’s what Christmas is all about .

I kind of get OPs annoyance, my mum was like that when I was little…. Christmas treats were for Christmas. But actually at the beginning of this year, I was diagnosed with cancer…which has made me think differently about so much …... And you know what? Honestly ?….. does it really matter?…. It’s only food…OPs husband ate/drunk it, it’s not worth having a massive argument over, And ruining Christmas is it?

If the roles were reversed we would be telling you to LTB for his controlling behaviour and signposting you to a domestic abuse charity.....

He's an adult, he can decide what to eat and when to eat it in his own home.

How much of the agreement had anything to do with the husband?

All of us greedy fat fucks need to sit down, hang our heads in shame and think about how we are collectively dismantling society.

Glad I wasn't the only one thinking the DH was 'peaking' too soon 🤣

Oh for God's sake, he's a grown man. Leave him be.

All of the above.
I had 3 Christmas meals out already.
We are well and truly into Christmas.

So shops start selling Christmas food in September or so it would have ro have a very long use by or best before date if we all were not allowed to touch it till Christmas day

He's an adult. I assume he pays his share of the cost for the food? Why do you get to impose YOUR ideas of when Christmas starts on him?

I don't agree with you. Christmas starts when I finish up work, at a minimum.

Crazy dramatic overreaction to a man eating a bit of cheese. There's actual problems in the world, life must be okay if you have nothing else to worry about that your husband eating some cheese is a disaster for you.

“Disgusted”?wind your neck in.

you sound miserable

I don't really see the argument about delayed gratification, because surely the difference here isn't the lack of anticipation but a disagreement about when the "Christmas season" starts? As in, I'm sure your DH was anticipating enjoying a bit of the cheese just as much in the run-up to today as you are in the run-up to the 25th. The rule in my house is that we don't get any Christmassy food until at least the beginning of December, although we're all anticipating enjoying it as soon as the shops stock the shelves with festive faire in mid-October, but if you buy some nice chocolates or fancy cheese then it's fair game throughout the holiday month!

If he'd decided to do the whole roast or lit up the Christmas pudding for an early slice, I'd see the point a little more. But only because those are the things we have specifically planned for Christmas day, not something we're eating before or after- save the leftovers, of course. Anything else, I'm sure he feels just as much joy and satisfaction from the wait as you do, even if his wait ends a couple of days earlier.

At the end of the day, it's a bit of nice cheese.

A friend of mine lost their fiancé the day before their wedding and right before Xmas last year on their vacation of a life time tour of Australia. Days before they were swimming and happy and well and then poof everything over.

my point is, what if he dies tonight and you know he never got to enjoy his Xmas cheese and wine? Life is so brief. Whatever brings pleasure should be seized and not hoarded away jealously.