Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

Live dangerously, OP....open the other bottle of special drink, crack open the pickled onions and join him!

This. ^ YABU and absolutely ridiculous @KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge 😆

It's Christmas Eve tomorrow. My DH would get a short shrift if he tried to tell me I couldn't eat the Christmas food/drink on Christmas Eve Eve.

And I'd get a short shrift from him!

Get a grip FFS!

Erm…is he me with my cheese post 😂😂It’s hard to resist, I get your point, but honestly, there are such worse things in life

You're absolutely determined that your attitude to food makes you better than him (and many others), aren't you?

ours is always when kids break up

It says many of us are lucky enough to be well off enough to eat nice food more often than on one or two days a year. It says the puritan idea that "enjoying food is sinful" and we should all practise self-denial is no longer widespread. It says the number of people who care about the religious aspect of Christmas has greatly decreased. It says absolutely nothing about moral values.

Food is cheaper and we're more secular as a society

Thats all it says, we can afford to indulge when we want.

😂😂😂 - Imagine!!!

I agree that it’s no longer just the day, but those of us who have heard of Advent know that it means waiting, for the arrival. If you’re going to use a religious term to make a point, at least try to understand it.

DH did the Christmas food shop yesterday and I've already eaten almost a full tub of Pringles 😂 if he dared tell me off I'd be LTB as that is major red flag controlling. He hasn't, incidentally. Because he's not an arse and he understands that he can't dictate to another grown adult who contributes equally to the food bill what they can and can't eat🤷‍♀️

Yes it screams disordered eating to me.

I recall reading something years ago about learning delayed gratification being a key life skill and indicator of success. People who can't do it, who spend now instead of saving for later, have worse outcomes overall.

I mean he ate some cheese and had a drink I hardly think it's going to change the course of his life

Do people have a cheese course after a Christmas lunch?

I agree that there is an argument to be made about eating together and not alone hunched over a block of cheese trying to hide your cheesy misdeeds from your wife. (But that’s just the picture I’m getting from this thread😅)

but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with eating “Christmas-y” food during the entire Christmas season.

we eat Christmas biscuits between the first week of December and until they’re all gone (ranges from the 25th to about the 6th of January, tbh).
We also eat baked goods for St. Nicholas’, different baked goods for epiphany, consume copious amounts of mulled wine and spiced apple cider during the entire advent…

It’s just part of the festive season. Is that so wrong? And why is it okay to munch on Christmas biscuits before the 24th/25th but not on fancy cheese?

Seriously, are we actually talking about food here? Because your posts are reading more like those old M and S food adverts by the minute, they’re just missing that overly sexual music overlay….

If the OP had posted and said her husband was angry and disgusted with her and was making her replace some cheese and a drink she'd eaten, there would be LTB all round. It's so controlling and shaming. Horrible.

That's the vibe I'm getting too. Smug superiority that OP can restrain themselves sufficiently. Imagine that being a part of your personal validation.

It says absolutely nothing about us as a society other than we have different definitions of Christmas. Just because yours starts later doesn't mean others lack self control.

Ah stop! we've had to restock a few small bits & pieces, it's Christmas, relax & to quote John Smith "Eat, drink & merry" &/or stash some things away for "later"

More cheese Gromit?

I am disappointed too!

I can't believe you're going to carry on eating sugary and fatty foods after 1st January, OP.
What did it say about us as a society if we can't reign in our impulses as the new year starts?
Frankly it's disgusting that an adult can't control themselves like this
<shakes head sadly>

I think this is triggering you as a reaction to your own childhood rules around Christmas food

Yes. Allowing or withholding food, to oneself or others, as a control mechanism.

No. He is a grown man capable of deciding what he eats and drinks and when. Assuming he contributes to the household, if he decides he wants to indulge in these things now and then replace them in time for Christmas, you’re not in a position to stop him.