To be dreading the holiday

[nonotchristmas]

I broke up today. Kids off for two weeks. They go to private day nursery but because of the days they do (Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays) they are in Monday and then that’s it, because Wednesday is of course Christmas Day and nursery is closed for a week so the next day they are in is Friday 3rd January.

And I know I’m going to be roasted like the turkey for this but I’m dreading it. Two weeks where I won’t get a single break from them, in the house they fight and whine and the youngest follows me round crying to be picked up all the time. Feeding them is increasingly expensive and challenging. Entertaining them is a nightmare, I’ve booked a few things but everything is so expensive again with a Christmas premium on it, I know I’ll get told to ‘just take them to the park’ but please don’t: parks are absolutely lethal with a completely fearless preschooler and a cheery but clueless toddler: slippy equipment the slip on and smash their chins open (ask me how I know) so soft play it is, again and again and again.

But it’s the day in day out nature of it. It’s knackering and two full weeks of it is hideous. And expensive. And help me

Now you just sound sarky. What do you want from this thread? A moan is fine but say that's what you want, and don't be rude to people trying to help.

Your husband being crap is a long term problem. He won't magically step up when they start school.

No she doesn't. She is angry and sad about her situation for good reason but that doesn't mean that she has mental health problems.

Is there some weird stigma about seeking help for your mental health going on here? Aren't we past that as a society?

It's probably because you've posted a couple of times in the last few weeks (with name changes of course) about how your second child has ruined your life and won't sit in a high chair (although I'm actually with you on that not being relevant). All that comes across is how desperate you are to not spend time with them and how the world is against you. That's not a normal way to view motherhood.

What?

My second child has ruined my life because she won’t sit in a high chair (she does) - what?

I think that’s a good idea but I don’t think OP is the sort of person that would cope with looking after 4 small children for any length of time even a couple of hours

It's tough when they are that age and can't amuse themselves

No helpful suggestions OP just

What a ridiculous thing to say. There should be no stigma about seeking help for mental health issues if that is what people have.

In OP's situation, I just believe that if her DH miraculously turned into a caring hands-on dad who took on at least half the child caring load, if her children enjoyed the same sort of activities making it easier to make both children happy at the same time and if money was no object to pay for the sort of expensive activites that both children would enjoy, OP would feel differently.

My maternal family has a history of severe mental health problems, including bipolar disorder and a number of family members took their own lives. I take mental health extremely seriously but I just don't think it's as simple as telling OP to visit her GP to seek help for mental health.

Please provide links to these threads and proof that OP is the same poster. Lots of people find it difficult going from 1 child to 2 children and post on Mumsnet about it. It certainly isn't a unique experience that can only apply to OP.

In OP's situation, I just believe that if her DH miraculously turned into a caring hands-on dad who took on at least half the child caring load, if her children enjoyed the same sort of activities making it easier to make both children happy at the same time and if money was no object to pay for the sort of expensive activites that both children would enjoy, OP would feel differently.

This is a ridiculous list. "If only everything was entirely different and if only my children were different people, then I wouldn't be fucking miserable"...or..."I am fucking miserable and have negative thought patterns, which I am blaming my family for rather than sorting myself out".

It Is definitely bothering some of you more than me. I started the thread at 3 am with PMT but still, days later, it carries on, my poor kids, why haven’t you LTB yet

I think I found the other thread. Different colour. Different poster. But if I was that poster, outing a NC is a shitty thing to do.