Husband's cousin has called their son the same name as our son.

[shoulde]

Bit annoying considering they also share the same surname!

I know no one owns a name, but it's pretty annoying.

Aibu?

Not just unreasonable but seems a bit entitled too. Personally, I would be flattered cuz it would basically suggest that "name" is a good name...

OP I get it, and it’s weird and annoying.

Not using real names my situation is as follows…

DS1 is Archie James
DS2 is Robert Adam John

Their cousin is called James Robert Steven

If you look into the history of a family the same names, sometimes Christian name and surname, keep cropping up and it can be very annoying!

So what ? Life does not revolve around your child's name !

I was at Junior school with a girl having exactly the same name as me, totally unrelated, I was always Name Name 2!

My sister was midly miffed when our cousin gave her daughter the same name as one of her (my sister's) daughters. In over 40 years the two "children" have only been in the same room once.

Not an issue.

I'm more bemused by a family member giving their child the same unusual name as a very famous movie star. Which would be fine except they also share the same surname! Like Mr & Mrs Streep calling their daughter Meryl.

Happens in most families, big jon, little jon etc.

A work colleague of mine who was pregnant at the same time as me, came into my office and announced what she was going to call her son which happened to be the same name that I had been saying I was going to call my son. I was a tad pissed off tbf as I believed that she already knew this. As we were due at the same time and in the same maternity group, I decided to change names.

Not the same for you OP - but I do get it as I was annoyed. Still you were first and they say "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" (& they might get some stick for their lack of originality and the confusion they will cause)

How often do you see them? I don't even know what my husband's cousin's kids are called!

When you're choosing a name for your child it's pretty important IMO to choose the name that you love. If that happens to be the name that someone else loved, that shouldn't mean that no one else can use it. It's not first come first served 😂

I have 5 nephews and they have 2 names between them- 3 and 2

Hmmm, I agree it depends on the name and the distance of relatedness, but I can sympathise, as my sister did a very strange thing years ago that I haven’t really processed. She gave her daughter (my niece, obviously) my two first names but out by one letter - think Anne/Anna Louise/Louisa. I still find it weird tbh but never objected….

No - your son will be’ big Freddie’ - their son will be little Freddie as he’s younger etc.

pathetic

yes

You could see it as a compliment but it is a bit weird to have exactly the same name as another family member.

YABU. I always think the fuss about names being stolen is vaguely ridiculous.

My cousin and I had babies around the same time. Hers came first. She used the shortened form of a name we had shortlisted (we never discussed names, on purpose) If we had already decided on the long form, we'd have still used it. It's no big deal.

What a weird thing to get worked about ffs. Are you suggesting it’s your right to use a name and then no one else can… because ??? What difference does it make to you?

My partner and I were together 20 years before we had our son. We knew the name we would give him since we were teenagers. We had fertility struggles, and his cousin ended up having a baby before us and used the name we’d been set on forever. She wasn’t aware of this at the time. It is also my partner’s middle name and the name of his (and his cousin’s) grandfather. We asked her if she would mind if we still used it and she was absolutely fine with it. They have different surnames though.

Laughing at OP ignoring all the questions about how often the DC see each other, I guess it's never and this is a non event since she has replied to several other posts.

Honestly if one of my cousins had chosen a name that I always liked and dreamt of, I actually would not bat an eye at naming my child the same name.

In fact my nephew has the same name as my cousin. They rarely see each other and even if they did, it's no big deal, it's just a name!

You may find it weird, others not so much!

YABU

The children are second cousins, three years apart.

I wouldn't even know my husband's cousins childrens names to compare 😂

But I think uabu

In many family’s it’s common to give your child your parents name. My grandad had the same first name as I think 2 cousins, an uncle and his grandad.

my brother did this to a cousin the difference was spelling of the name and they do have different surnames. That said, our cousin and my brother are not close, don’t keep in touch and only see each other occasionally, their children less often. It really isn’t an issue.

I don’t know my second cousins. I’d be fine if they had my name. I’ve got a fairly common first and second name. If it was something way out there then I probably would wonder about why that happened but again it’s hard to be annoyed about it.

Also in your situation you were first to use the name. I could see it being annoying to have someone in the family use the name first that you’d always wanted and had in mind before they selected it. Then you might worry people would think you were unoriginal and copying. You might even worry people would start threads on mumsnet about you.