Husband's cousin has called their son the same name as our son.

[shoulde]

Bit annoying considering they also share the same surname!

I know no one owns a name, but it's pretty annoying.

Aibu?

Is it a family name?

It’s really not long since it was incredibly common for cousins to have the same family names.

It's never been an issue at all ever, she's a few years older and we are very different looks and personality wise. Never felt it was weird. So no in my opinion it's not, in yours it is

They're first cousins once removed

No, first cousin once removed from my husband, second cousins to each other. Sorry.

How often does he see them/ how close are the cousins? If they see each other weekly, weird. If it's once a year at a family party, then not strange at all, and just as likely to get the same name in school.
There were 3 non related girls with exactly the same name in my secondary school year group, 2 of which were born on boxing day, so shared the same birthday and probably place of birth.

I don’t see an issue, I’m afraid!

This seems like a non issue.

Are you a particularly close family? Is your DS going to have any kind of significant relationship with his second cousin? Once he’s an adult, will they even know the other exists? Sharing the same name with a distant relative you barely see really isn’t going to be any problem at all.

YABU. It’s traditional in families for people to share names. No big deal

There’s cousins and cousins. If they’re super close like best friends and see each other every weekend cousins, then it’s a bit odd having two children with the same name in that set up. If it’s a cousin he sees once a year then not so much.

I would find it hard to get worked up over second cousins sharing the same name(s). They will likely also share the same forename and surname with others too, given the planetary population of circa 8 billion.

If it was his brother I could understand the annoyance but couldn't get worked up about a cousin using the same name.

Unless you live in the same street or they'll be in the same school year, it's not likely they'll be confused for the other. Also depends on the name - if it's very out there or super unusual, you could have more of a point.

Don’t be ridiculous

How much will you see them?

YANBU. I think it's weird. It would be weirder if your son's first cousin was called the exact same name, but I still think it's odd that two children very close in age from the same family have the same name. That means someone has great grandchildren with the same name.

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
(yabu).

Op, if the cousin had been born first, would you have chosen a different name? Just curious. It sounds like you maybe would have, so maybe you weren't particularly set on the name?

Many people know what they want to call their children years before they plan to have them. There can be loads of reasons why. I don't think my child having a second cousin with that name would be enough to change my mind in that circumstance.

No one has our surname. It's not at all common

Nobody owns a name. YABU.

It wildly depends on the name. If it’s Horatio Ogilvy-Smitherington or something similarly distinctive and that wasn’t the name of an ancestor or anything then it’s a bit odd.

if it’s Jack Smith, not so much!

For all you know though, they could have had their dream name picked out before you and your DH even had your DS.

Sorry but this is a weird preoccupation,
why do you care ? Change your child’s name if it bothers you.
Lots of families have many people with the same name in their family tree. It’s hardly like you’re close if it’s husbands cousins child?
I’d love to have so little going on in my world that this bothered me.

Do you all see each other often? Will they be at the same school? Similar ages?

Do you see them much? First cousin once removed isn't that close a tie, so maybe they didn't think they'd be in the same place very often? It could be a name they've loved for years. It's a bit awkward if they're together a lot but, otherwise, I wouldn't worry.

I doubt it’s imitation. They perhaps always liked the name and weren’t going to let a distant relative get in the way.

YABU. If it was your sibling it would be weird as too close a relation, but not your cousin.
My cousin told me a couple of years ago that I’d ’taken’ the name he wanted for his son (said jokingly) and so he’d have to choose another. I really didn’t understand this and made it very clear he should use the name he wanted, it didn’t matter if both our sons had the same name. We don’t see each other or speak often at all and the older we get the further we drift apart (naturally I think), so it would never be an issue.