Husband's cousin has called their son the same name as our son.

[shoulde]

Bit annoying considering they also share the same surname!

I know no one owns a name, but it's pretty annoying.

Aibu?

We unwittingly called our daughter the same name as my husbands cousin’s daughter. We weren’t in touch at the time and thankfully don’t live anywhere near each other. Same surname too.

You are being ridiculously unreasonable. There is no issue here.

Yes yabu

Yes YABU. Amazed at yet another name issue. What’s the big deal? There are likely to be thousands of people - if not more - with the same name. Why do people care so much about these tiny things!

I don’t get it. My son has my Dad’s name - because I like it. It is the same name as my cousin and my second cousin. What is the problem? You don’t own the name and yes there are millions of names but if they like that name they can use it as well. It doesn’t belong to you.

So ???

I don't see the issue. It doesn't take anything away from your son. Perhaps it's a name they love more than any other. And it's not as though they are very close family. But even if they were giving someone a name someone else in the family has is very common traditionally

Why is it weird?

No one has our surname. It's not at all common

@shoulde well your DHs cousin does, possibly their partner does, and now the new baby definitely does - so that's not "no one".

We named our daughter after my husbands grandmother (mainly because it was a named we loved but also liked the family connection). My husbands cousin had already used the name for her daughter.

We barely ever see that side of the family though so didn’t give it a second thought.

If you see them regularly and your children are similar ages I can see that it might be a bit annoying.

I live in the real world as well as existing on MN, and have two separate sets of cousins who share a name. It's really not unusual. My family is Irish, if that helps.

My BIL and SIL used one of my son's middle names as the first name for their son. To be honest, I think they'd forgotten it was my son's second middle name!! I remember them telling my husband and I, their son's name and I said 'Ooh that's one of X's middle names', and they looked taken back, and just looked at each other!! I appreciate it's slightly different, as they used one of my son's middle names, rather than his first name. I just shrugged it off, it didn't bother me.

All part of life's rich tapestry I'm afraid.
When I was in senior school over 50 years ago I discovered that there was a girl with the same Christian name, middle name and surname as me but we did have different birthdays. Over 20 years later at a school reunion we both found that we had husbands with the same forenames.
It made no difference to us in life as we lived different lives with just name as a common thread.

I had two cousins with the same name as me, first and surname. Two of us are married so only one left! Absolutely no problem. It’s a non issue, YABU.

I think that’s cute!

I have 4 cousins with the same first name (second ones differ).

Nobody in our family cares.

Why should you?

YABU.

I dunno I think I would find that a bit weird. I’m sure in a few days you’ll be completely over it though

Do you live near each other?

DH is Irish. I think he has five cousins with the same name and three with the same first and second name which are usually used together. Is this crap all people have to worry about.

I have the same name as my first cousin ( my mum and her brother both named their children Natasha ) I don’t find it weird at all, I like it. We’re only a year apart too.

Never understood the bother on this one, pick the same name, buy the same dress, dye your hair the same colour- meh, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

YABU

Husbands brother fair enough to be annoyed. Husbands cousin no big deal

I have 3 cousins (close in age) with the name Sarah, all with the same surname. Fortunately, they have different middle names so we say "Sarah P" or "Sarah E". Never thought it was weird growing up.

Second cousins having the same name is utterly unremarkable, sorry. It’s far less of a faff than having classmates of the same name.

My DH shares a first name with his father, two nephews and 3 grand nephews. I helpfully married someone with the same name. It’s not an issue.

@GravyBoatWars , not if they both have the same unusual surname. 2 John Smiths is unremarkable, but 2 Freddie Pargetters would be.