I’ve lost 4 stone and not one person has noticed

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Just that really
aibu to feel a bit miffed.

Fantastic, well done!!!
If you initiate the conversation then you're giving people permission to comment. I think you'll find the compliments will come rushing in!

This

Suppose it depends on the weight you were. If you were very very overweight there might not be a great deal of visible difference.

I lost weight a few years ago and loved at first that everyone commented but it got a bit exhausting because it started a conversation about food and exercise and always ended up with me listening to the other person's exercise regime or food intolerance, which is fine once in a while but it was constant. I managed to put it all back on and it's really added to my shame that everyone is now also noticing and deciding not to comment while quietly judging me for screwing up so badly. If i lost again I'd rather no one said anything.

Yes, people are different, but compliments causing problems more than just slight embarrassment is indicative of having issues.

Congratulations on your weight loss. I hope you are feeling good about it, it’s a great achievement.

Just echoing what other posters have said - I wouldn’t say anything directly about your weight either, unless perhaps, you mentioned it to me first.

I learnt the hard way not to comment on weight - a girl I was at uni with lost about 2 or 3 stone over the summer, when I next saw her in the new term, I reacted without thinking and said something like “oh, wow, did you lose some weight? You look fab”
She said thanks, but looked a bit crestfallen by the comment, so I apologised, she waved it off and said everyone’s been so nice, saying how great she looks and how she looks really different since she’s lost weight but it made her feel a bit shit, as in, did she look bad before? Etc.
She told me she had only lost weight as had been diagnosed with Celiac disease. It had made her very poorly and she had to cut out loads of food, hence the weight loss.

Then those people are utterly ignorant and don’t understand the drugs.

Omg, but fabulous that you look young enough to be pregnant!
I would have hugged them!

I would absolutely never comment on weight loss unless the person brought it up. My mum lost 4 stone once and everyone told her how amazing she looked, she had cancer

I think this thread just goes to show, a lot of people have very signficant and complex issues surrounding weight, be it theirs or someone else’s, and how that some ones reflects on them. An underlying tone of resentment also that the op has managed to lose, with some just wanting her to say it was injections, so they can say that’s why, it doesn’t count.

Congrats but you are being unbelievably unreasonable to expect people to comment on it when it’s such a minefield to do so.

No, it shows that people get offended by the smallest things which is why no one wants to comment on weight. ( Plus illness)

Exactly.

But I think it'll take a long time before anyone understands that it's not a simple fix.

So there will be a lot less congratulating and a lot less interest I think.

That'll suit some slimmers but not others.

I don’t think it’s true it’s no one, we always comment when someone we know is losing weight and was unhappy with their weight to start. Pay a compliment.

im also mot sure I agree the truth of this is people are offended by everting, although some are, I think it’s more complex and it’s easier to say I’m offended rather than to say I’m envious you’ve lost it, and feel it magnifies my failure to do so.

I once bumped into a colleague I hadn't seen for a while who had lost a great deal of weight. At first I couldn't work out what was different about her. I just thought she looked quite radiant and healthy, but honestly didn't attribute it to weight loss. Which, when I think about it, is so weird because she lost masses. I think it's that when you are friends with someone or like them you don't really think of them in terms of their weight, so when they lose it you don't notice it so much because it was never much of an issue.

I lost the guts of 9 stones and my MIL never mentioned it! I had WLS so I was pretty glad not to have to navigate that conversation.

She's the type that comments when people gain weight, so it wasn't out of politeness!

I lost four stone a few years ago. I was training for a half marathon - I only needed to lose two stone but I went a bit far. Apparently everyone thought I had cancer, so nobody commented AT ALL. It was only after I'd done the run and started to put a bit of weight back on that everyone told me that they'd thought I was ill.

Its the older people equivalent of being asked for ID when buying gin/wine & you are 30+. The delight of it!! Maybe checkout operators do it when they think a woman needs a boost 😁😁

I suppose if you need or care about other people being imprisoned by you. I don’t. Quite the opposite.

Congratulations.
I don't comment on this. Same as I wouldn't if someone gained weight.

This is partly due to a friend who lost weight and banged on about it constantly saying how much she'd changed as a person. It was pretty boring tbh. Don't let it define you.

I don't see any resentment on this thread, nor anything special about jabs? I really don't think people care if or how people lose weight but you're right that it is a complex issue and complimenting people (women) on weightloss is fraught with potential to offend. So if you're (general) not sure that it will be appreciated - best not to.

Saying nothing won't cause offence - if someone wants to be congratulated, they'll let you know and then you can let rip.

Nah. They've noticed, but know it's poor etiquette to say anything. My colleague has lost a TON of weight. She's gone from being massively overweight to really thin (size 6 or 8 at most). She's wearing gorgeous clothes now and looks absolutely incredible. I am so impressed. But I haven't said a word. It would be rude to comment on her weight or body shape.

Oh my goodness, I don't see this at all. I see loads of enjoyment of other people's success, and a desire to comment if and only if that would make the person feel happy.
It seems particularly weird to drag attitudes to the weight loss jab into this. It is really strange how the online talk around these jabs seems so often to reference imagined ideas of hostility, resentment, jealousy, etc towards anyone who is significantly overweight or who has lost a lot of weight or who is using injections to support their weight loss. It feels like a whole internet genre now.

Everything on MN always boils down to " You are jealous". 🙄
OP hasnt returned though.

No sorry she has updated!