I’ve lost 4 stone and not one person has noticed

[Lilyflame]

Just that really
aibu to feel a bit miffed.

I'm in agreement with the others.
A huge well done for losing the weight you wanted too, but I would never comment on anyone's weight or appearance generally.
I may say to someone they look well, but I would never mention weight.

Never mind the real world, us on Mumsnet are very proud of you, Congrats!!!!!

Are you sure nobody has said simply, along the lines of 'You're looking well'?
That's the polite way to say you've lost weight and are looking good, without being personal.

@Lilyflame I guess you understand now why people have said nothing from all the responses!!

Weight is 1 sensitive topic that people feel so nervous about broaching but can I just say BLOODY WELL DONE 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 that is one hell of an achievement!!!!!!! I don’t know you but I am so proud of you as that takes some commitment and resilience. I just hope I can lose the same when I start my own weight loss journey in January.

You need to treat yourself!!!!!

Love the new you!!! ❤️

A huge well done OP. 4 stone loss is quite something. Don’t be downhearted!

If it was something you wanted, then that's great! Well done!

However, it's considered impolite to comment on someone's weight, as often a dramatic loss (or gain!) can be for sad reasons.

Case in point, the one time I lost a dramatic and noticeable amount of weight was because my mental health was in tatters.

I lost 3 stone over the past year not a single person noticed

People are saying that people don’t comment on peoples weight but when I hadn’t lost weight people sometimes would say “oh have you lost weight?”

I got Botox a month ago and people are all of a sudden asking if I’ve lost weight - it’s so odd

Well done, that's a brilliant weight loss. People might not comment for lots of different reasons. The main thing is you're doing brilliantly. 🎉

SO well done OP!!! However, I make a point never to comment on anyone's weight. Ever. There have been lots of threads here where people get offended when they lose weight and people tell them they look good because people said it implies they didnt look good before, hence offence is taken.

Therefore, it can be a bit of a minefield and I have found its best never to bring the topic up unless someone else does first, then I will say well done etc

Hi Lilyflame

I lost about 11 stone over a few years and I prefer when people don't mention it. Some just say they are happy to see me looking so well as I was obviously seriously overweight and it was a real worry to everyone. My mum didn't mention it until I had lost about 6-7 stone and told me she was afraid to...

Yesterday someone who had not seen me for a number of years in a work context (a man in his 50s . I am late 40s) mentioned it and I found it very awkward.

Well done and remember that we do it for ourselves.

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Just to be clear, that wasnt aimed at you and I wouldn't SAY that to anyone who complimented me. I would grimace/smile awkwardly, mumble something and change the subject. My internal voice would be screaming though 😅.
I especially hate people asking if you've lost weight as you look great. The implication that you can't look good if you haven't lost weight and that being fat is so awful that suggesting someone has lost weight is the highest compliment you can give which makes me really uncomfortable.
I have had it several times over the years when I haven't lost weight, (but I think it was because I look similar to other family and person in the same group who were heavier and they got us mixed-up) it's been from very casual acquaintances in a work or in passing at a sport activity type thing. If a close family member (who have similar weight issues and attitudes to myself) brought it up in a 1 on 1 private conversation I wouldn't mind as much.

Shouted across a carpark from someone I barely know was really awkward and uncomfortable.

It's a little disingenuous to think that a person loses weight entirely for their own health and appearance (but only the appearance they see in a mirror), in a total bubble and vacuum and without expectation that people might notice and be quietly impressed).

OP - YANBU to feel a bit miffed. But people are likely not commenting for all the reasons others in this thread have articulated very well

Just to ad @Lilyflame, I know people on a weight loss and fitness journey who post about it know their fb feed and talk about it openly. They get commented on and congratulated as it's very obvious they are happy to talk about it. If you don't mention it they are much less likely too.
Bet I'd you stick a 'yay, 4 stone down' on social media you'll get all the comments you could want.
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When I lost about 18 pounds a lady who never speaks on the street shouted over to me and said how much weight I’d lost. Made me feel a proper bloater previously.

I was a bit annoyed that she commented. My parents also comment on weight all the time and that bothers me too.

In a way it's good that they haven't commented. When i lost weight the comments about my new "good looks" were constant. I got fed up of it and wondered if my looks were the only interesting thing about me. I also started to wonder if I had looked so bad before and what would they say if I gained back the weight, which I did - at which point the comments stopped. And I started to think that I must look awful.

So, be thankful for small mercies. You don't want people constantly commenting on your body size. There are so many other ways to complement someone than telling them they've lost weight.

I would be worried they were ill.

The one time I casually commented very positively to someone who had clearly lost weight they bit my head off and snapped that it was due to stress and therefore wasnt a "good kind" of weight loss. I really didnt know what to say as I meant it as a genuine compliment and had no clue they were so stressed out.

I will never mention anyone's weight ever again. It's too much of a touchy subject and I would never want to unintentionally upset anyone. I kinda feel like you cant win here!

Bloody well done OP! People will notice soon enough. Maybe buy yourself a new outfit - it is always rewarding and motivating to go into a shop and try on smaller clothes. This might help people notice

I lost 2 stone once and no-one noticed. When I proudly told a friend, her comment was that I must have carried the extra weight well!

I guess many people just don't see other people.

I’ve lost 4.5 stone and very few people have commented. I think this is for 2 reasons. 1, as others have said, it’s rude to comment on someone’s weight and when people do comment it makes me uncomfortable and like I have to explain somehow. 2 - I was really heavy before but carried it/hid it well. I think honestly some people don’t notice. As long as you notice and feel better in yourself that’s the main thing.

I've lost weight recently and the only people who have commented are the non-English mums at the school gate. And I had to lose a remarkable amount to have it be really noticeable - it wasn't until I got to 3st lost that I even went down a clothing size (everything just got looser but the next size down was too tight).

I think weight (loss or gain) is quite a taboo comment to make in the UK but in other countries it's fair game.

Brilliant, well done !

Well done OP!
I've also lost 4 stone this year and was feeling a bit put out that no one seemed to have noticed.
Then I had my work christmas do last weekend and with a couple of drinks in them and normal boundaries relaxed a little pretty much everyone commented.

I think it's just not socially acceptable to discuss weight the way it once was (which is not a bad thing) and people are careful not to offend (mostly) or don't want to put their foot in it in case it's down to health reasons. My boss even made a comment along the lines of 'yes you're looking well but I didn't want to say, workplace harassment and so on'.

Have a family do this weekend and expecting no such decorum from the aunties I haven't seen in a while!

I think with the rising popularity of weight loss injections, there'll be a lot less 'Congratulations', 'Well done', 'How did you lose it?' etc in the future.

Some people assume you pop the magic needle in your upper arm and that's all there is to it.

Brilliant...but could you give us some small tips on how you did it. 4 stone loss is just so amazing.