What do you think of a proposal with no ring?

[Brainded]

Just this really. Wanting to get opinions. What would you think of a proposal with knowing and in fact nothing special going, just the question “will you marry me?”

I don’t want this to turn into a debate about weather proposal is the right way to go. I just want to know how you would feel if you were proposed to with not even a dummy ring. Would it bother you?
so
YABU- it would bother you
YANBU- it wouldn’t bother you

I’d want to choose the ring either myself or with him, so would not be happy about a proposal with a ring he chose on his own. Christ only knows what hideous piece of kit he would pick, lol - if I’m putting it on my finger I’m choosing it!

DH proposed without the ring, took me shopping the next day to buy one. I was very happy.

He planned a beautiful proposal though. I think if it was just a “will you marry me” whilst sat on a bus I would have been pretty disappointed.

Life is not Instagram. Absolutely. The most romantic proposal with the most amazing ring is worth nothing if the partnership isn't lacking.

My husband proposed, then we went to choose my ring together. (Well, I chose it, but he came along) I'd hate to be presented with a ring I hadn't had any say in-it's very few people who'd know exactly what I'd like.

It really depends on your personality type. Some people are in the moment and practical. Some need special moments and memories.

I'm the latter. I'd rather have a very basic car and second hand clothes for a few years but have the memories of a gorgeous wedding with fibe details thought through. So that's what we did.

The ring specifically- well DH consulted me before and ran options by me but he chose and chose well. Perfect for us.
However there's no point in practical people telling those who value the symbolic more that they are stupid for not being disappointed in an opportunity lost for a special moment. There's nothing wrong with being disappointed if you don't care about having an SUV or kitchen island but you do care about having a nice proposal that's a bit thoughtful.
One is not morally superior to the other.

I would find it a bit sad, as i like that our engagement was an "event". I do understand what people are saying about wanting a say in the ring choice, but for me personally I was never planning on wearing my engagement ring after we were married. In my head, it was for wearing when we were engaged and now we're not engaged, why would I wear it? So having no say in it really didn't matter - although luckily my now DH chose something I liked (although wouldn't have chosen myself necessarily)...

I preferred it. He booked a beautiful venue for afternoon tea and wrote the proposal in my birthday card. I wasn’t expecting it at all and it was perfect. We designed our own rings.
I have a friend who has politely worn a ring she doesn’t like for years because he chose it.

DH did it this way and it was great - we went ring shopping together a few weeks later.

I've been married nearly 40 years. DH proposed in bed 6 weeks after we met. The ring came months later and was very much an afterthought for both of us.

Wouldn't bother me. I'd take it as a compliment that they loved me so much they didn't want to wait to sort ring etc, plus i wanted to choose my own ring.
I bought my ring 13 months before i actually got engaged, and i brought it up to him that i wanted to take that step. When he was ready he told me we should look at rings, told him i had mine already
We picked his out together, waited for it to arrive and arranged a date to make it "official" and put eachothers rings on.

My first proposal was a sun set on a beach. We bought a diamond together when home from holiday. Relationship didn't last.

With my current DH over 20 years, married 18. Proposal was in pub car park and a shall we get married rather than will you marry me.

Still don't have a ring. It's not a priority for us.

Wouldn't bother me at all. I'd much rather choose my own ring.

I've been proposed to five times. I should have married the one who casually asked me when he, I and his friend were playing pool and not the one who proposed three times with a ring and while on one knee.

I didn't get my engagement ring until our 2nd wedding anniversary 😂😂

We did everything very low key though, including the wedding

This is how my husband proposed to me and I was delighted!

I very much wanted to choose my own ring. Nothing traditional/conventional appeals to me and I was so glad he knew this and let me choose what I wanted!

DH proposed to me while we were having a moonlight walk along a beach on holiday. No ring,but we chose one together when we returned home. Been married over 35years.

Husband proposed with a CD that said ‘Will you marry me?’ on the front and a haribo ring. He didn’t want to buy a ring that I might not liked. Sooooo pleased he did that. Had a lovely weekend in London choosing a ring. Couldn’t have asked for a better proposal. X

I was proposed to with DH offering to pop the ring pull from a coke can on my finger 😂

Definitely didn’t bother me.

We never had a ring, neither engagement nor wedding ring. Everyone is different but for me this was about an agreement, a joint decision to marry. Jewellery was irrelevant. But I know I'm in the minority.

Waiting for a Chinese takeaway, my boyfriend asked how my week had been. Pretty shit tbh. Then he said "Oh God, I hope this will cheer you up. Will you marry me?"
Was not expecting it AT ALL, but I said yes, and the following weekend we went ring shopping, and earlier this year we celebrated 40 years of very happy marriage.
So forget all the so-called romantic rubbish. If you were thrilled and excited to be asked isn't that all that matters? And if you weren't and are more concerned with petty baubles and performance then say no.

Dh asked without a ring. I don't think he'd planned to ask. It was spontaneous and just because he had a moment of clarity about our relationship and we talked about it properly. We had a lovely day shopping together for the ring. There's no way I'd have wanted him to be planning something elaborate or "getting up the courage". I'd have been mortified and he would have felt so silly with a performance.

Everyone is different but for me this was about an agreement, a joint decision to marry.

I'm similar @sinckersnack
No performative proposal or grand gesture here. Just a "let's get married".

While I do have a wedding ring - a plain gold band that cost the grand sum of £30 43 years ago, I never wanted an engagement ring. I'm just not a ring person.

We didn't have much money at the time and I remember saying to DH "don't waste money on a ring. I would rather have a new cooker".

My DH proposed without a ring.
He did have a paint brush in his hand. Does that count?

. (we chose a ring together a week later)

So - however the proposal was I hope, OP, that you'll have a lovely, happy marriage - ring or no ring!

My partner proposed Christmas Day, I'd just recovered from viral infection and we'd taken a walk to the beach. Raining a bit we stopped for flask of tea and chocolate hobnobs sat overlooking the sea. He was pacing about and I thought what's he up too...
He bought the ring down there...I'd have been gutted not to have had one.