To ask what's the nastiest thing someone's said to you on here?

[Shinings]

Or the internet in general?

I really enjoy (for the most part) using mumsnet and have had some really helpful advice over the years and some good laughs. I know anything goes on here though, especially in AIBU and thats why I rarely post in this section. It's great to get honest advice but what's the difference between honest and cruel I wonder.

Mine was a couple of years ago when I posted on the relationships board about how I was struggling to overcome the fact that my ex partner and close friend ended up in a relationship a few months after we had split. It felt much worse as I had suffered a miscarriage a year before, cue some lovely poster telling me to basically get over it and that many people had suffered miscarriages before and I wasn't anything special - absolutely correct but that didn't make my situation any less sad or painful.

I can laugh about it now (the comment) but it was horrible at the time. I just can't imagine someone saying that to another persons face but people feel more confident behind a keyboard don't they. I'm sure others on here have worse examples. It only crossed my mind because I read a thread earlier and some of the comments were absolutely awful (I mean, really crossing the line and quite hurtful imo)

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someone (not on MN on another site) told me I should leave my husband because I’m infertile & depriving him of a family

I've been told I'm 'ageist' when I mentioned some of the benefits elderly people might be entitled to. Was total fucking pile on. So much for trying to give helpful advice.

Thing is, there's usually plenty of reasonable people to ballance out those who really seem to want to pick a fight or be offended by the smell of their own farts then blame someone else. 🤣

Reported? For what, exactly? Having an opinion. May I remind you that it was YOU who has REPEATEDLY engaged me on this and another thread, despite at least 5 (now 6!) requests to just leave me alone. Unbelievable. You engaged with me on this thread by commenting on my post?! And now you're reporting me?! Get a life. And go away.

@Plastictrees you are now harassing someone which in real life would get a warning by the police do you know that of course you do being a psychologist after all

@Sevenwondersofthewoo thank you. It was bloody relentless on the other thread and now they are repeatedly laying into me on here and then reporting me when I defend myself from comments like "the cluster b traits are strong in that one"?! Utterly deranged behaviour.

@teenmumstress24 perhaps change your username. I got stalked round this site by a school mum who recognised something I wrote. I name change and slightly changed facts about myself.

@Bornnotbourne I do have a few different usernames that I use, I only used this particular one to comment here because the thread I was referring to was made using this username. But yes, name changing is a good tactic to keep in mind to avoid this in future.

The police and possibly the HCPC as well.

I got a temp ban for saying that - the person involved had some "interesting" and very strong views on non white people.
Probably shouldn't have said it but I can't be sorry I did

@Theeyeballsinthesky How bloody awful and narrow minded. I'm so sorry you had to read that.

@HocusFord 😮

Solidarity btw, been there with post natal depression (& almost PN psychosis)

You're a better person than that idiot and stronger with it. Probably some bored teenager missing being a playground bully

I once called two users 'fish wives' for the gossiping ( I know in real life the family of the person that were incorrectly referring to) because mumsnet refused to removed their incorrect and legally very iffy comments and told me I could challenge them in regards to their repeated nonsense. I then got a temp ban if I remember correctly. I would have said the exact thing and more to their faces.

I think the most upsetting thing to happen to me on MN was a perm ban for "racism"
I had posted something sarky on a Tommy Robinson thread which to me was obviously sarcastic - I spelt his name "Ar Tommeh" and everything.
The fact that I am posting shows MN apologised and let me back but while I was waiting I was really upset that anyone could think I held such awful views.
I now tend to write (sarcasm) after such posts

Was the temp ban for the sexism or personal attack, or didn't they say?

If it was the former, there's a disgusting amount of sexist remarks about men that never get deleted.

Personal attack! @ShortyShorts
The conversation involved their opinion on someone being murdered ( legally they are not dead) and who had murdered them.
I said "@ "person a" & "person b" you sound like gossiping fish wives spouting utter nonsense" I had already reported their comments but mumsnet left them on.
Same thread another person 'outed' who had killed someone ( legally could not be discussed as person was under 18) and the comment was left on for hours so i had been back and forth to mumsnet and was told to either 'challenge' or "hide the thread" !

That I was causing the mental health problems my small child was experiencing during lockdown. I’ve never forgotten it (or the person’s username).

You never forget them, sadly, they probably move on within the week 😥

A lot of these are absolutely horrific. People can be so cruel.

I have got off fairly lightly compared to this: never had anything on this scale. I have however had a lot of comments from these cretinous people who say things like: “Why did you bother having children if you don’t want to care for them?” when you talk about working or childcare. They make me genuinely angry because anyone who is too thick to understand that some people have to work to support their children has no business passing judgement on how others raise theirs.

Beeathtakingly stupid and offensive at the same time.

Tp be fair you’ve directed way more posts to and about her on this thread than she has to you (really unpleasant ones too). I haven’t seen the original thread so can’t comment on the context, but maybe just leave each other alone.

@Lostcat
That poster has repeatedly engaged me, on my other thread and this one, despite me asking them to stop. They were the one who once again started an interaction with me on this thread, as you'll note. And they are also the only one of the two of us who's been deleted on this thread for breaking talk guidelines. Make of that what you will.

And if we want to talk about "really unpleasant" comments, proclaiming to be a psychologist and then insinuating that someone has a cluster B personality disorder, is in my book about as unpleasant as it gets. If that person has such a view of me, they are free to choose to not engage with me at all. On this thread and the previous one, other posters also picked up on their relentlessness towards me. It's essentially harassment when you've asked someone repeatedly to stop.

I got perma banned for calling someone a cunt rather than reporting their really nasty comments. TBF I did also say "no doubt I'll get deleted for this and I don't care!" But I meant that comment, not my entire account
It took some grovelling and apologising to MN!

Not on here but twitter. During Lockdown Mario Falcone from TOWIE posted asking if he should go abroad for a work opportunity. I replied something along the lines of don't be that person on a beach in Dubai when I haven't even been able to have a proper funeral for my my Dad. He replied fuck off you fat cunt and then blocked me. Charming.

I just came off twitter after that.

Oh my goodness. This is quite simply the worst thing I've ever read.

I'm so, so sorry OP, how horrendous to lose two children. Then to read that nonsense. 🤍

Wait what she or he dx you by your thread no one and I mean no one can do that from written words unless in front of them and it’ll take months into the bargain