To ask what's the nastiest thing someone's said to you on here?

[Shinings]

Or the internet in general?

I really enjoy (for the most part) using mumsnet and have had some really helpful advice over the years and some good laughs. I know anything goes on here though, especially in AIBU and thats why I rarely post in this section. It's great to get honest advice but what's the difference between honest and cruel I wonder.

Mine was a couple of years ago when I posted on the relationships board about how I was struggling to overcome the fact that my ex partner and close friend ended up in a relationship a few months after we had split. It felt much worse as I had suffered a miscarriage a year before, cue some lovely poster telling me to basically get over it and that many people had suffered miscarriages before and I wasn't anything special - absolutely correct but that didn't make my situation any less sad or painful.

I can laugh about it now (the comment) but it was horrible at the time. I just can't imagine someone saying that to another persons face but people feel more confident behind a keyboard don't they. I'm sure others on here have worse examples. It only crossed my mind because I read a thread earlier and some of the comments were absolutely awful (I mean, really crossing the line and quite hurtful imo)

I was called a slut and told I'd 'handed myself over on a plate' after I stared a thread asking for support after being sexually assaulted at work.
I only started the thread as I had no one else to turn to at the time. Looking back I was also having a breakdown and I nearly ended up in hospital.
Some posters were lovely. But in hindsight I shouldn't have worded the thread title in the way I did, I think it attracted a load of journos.

I get that this is the internet but it did remind me of being back at school and dealing with bullies.

I do think that MN is a supportive place, overall.

I would welcome anyone to read the original thread for themselves for the accurate version. This poster hounded me repeatedly on there despite me asking them to desist many times (as did other posters who also pointed out their disturbing behaviour). They refused to leave it, and have now taken to commenting on my posts on other threads as well, despite repeated request to be left alone by this individual.

That she hoped my baby died because I believe in a woman's right to formula feed for any reason.

@BonfireToffee
That's fucking revolting. What is wrong with people😞

The worst of it was that she was a La Leche League campaigner.

A poster was asking if it was normal for both sides of an extended family to celebrate Christmas together (ie both spouses’ parents, siblings, siblings’ partners etc). I said we personally didn’t do that, and some lunatic followed me around the thread saying I must hate my husband 🤷‍♀️

It wasn’t shockingly rude, just weirdly, needlessly aggressive based on a totally innocuous comment.

Not actually ON here but a MN adjacent site.

One poster said they couldn't stand me (fair enough) and another asked:

"Aren't they a man?"

TOO FUCKING FAR.
😠😮😡😮😤😮

Can you link the thread or tell us the title. I'm on the app so not easy to search

2017 I’d been raped, told know one. Made an account on here ( old account) I was struggling and was ready to take my own life. Had someone tell me to get a grip and bigger problems in the world.

I also had an inbox message on here years ago asking if I wanted to be fuck buddys

This one's from real life and I should say upfront that even my awful mother never went so low. My Ds1's g/f left me a voicemail message telling me that I "had my baby taken off me because I couldn't keep my legs shut". When I was 16 I discovered I was pregnant 8 days before I gave birth. She was adopted. I married her father and we went on to have 3 sons. We're not allowed to have contact with our DS or their little daughter for 3 years now. . What did we do? We have no idea. She's called us 'untrustworthy strangers', hasn't allowed us a single moment alone with our granddaughter, berated me for sending a personalised 1st Christmas card and asking if it arrived ok, said that we obviously don't want to make efforts to see them after I said that making the long drive every time is very difficult for me as I have MS, said we didn't lift a finger to help when we bought the cot, car seat etc. There's a lot and i will absolutely believe anyone who chooses estrangement after being estranged from my mother for 20+ years. But we're still blindsided by all this.

Just to add, our daughter found us 37 years later and we discovered that we had grandchildren too. And now a great granddaughter.

(Apologies for offloading a bit too much. I think about DS1 in those moments inbetween other thoughts and we all miss him terribly)

I think it's the minimum number of nights one.

Thanks I'll have a look😁

That I should be reported to social services for debating whether to discreetly follow my young DC from a distance on their first independent trip into town with friends because that makes me stalker of other children 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Devilsmommy I don't know how to link on the app, it's under my username though. I posted when I was feeling very low and upset about a situation with my daughter (I explained how low I was feeling a few times as well), and some of the posters were saying things like, "I can see why she stays away", "I feel sorry for her", "better luck with your second family" etc. The poster on this thread was asked several times to desist and leave me alone, not just by me but other posters too, and refused to do so. I mean, you can read it for yourself. Yes I was highly upset and emotional when I posted, but I did not deserve the absolute hounding from that poster, nor their latest snide insinuations that I have a cluster B personally disorder. Disgraceful.

@teenmumstress24 was it the one where your DD only stays over a few nights a fortnight? I did start that thread but didn't get that far into it. Some people really need to get a life instead of hounding people who are having a shit time and looking for advice. Sorry you had to deal with that crap 💐

You'll also note I asked that poster numerous times to leave me alone on that thread, they continued thereafter to make comments any time I came back to own thread to update or reply to other posters. I asked them again to stop. They have now once again tried to engage with me on an entirely different thread, completely unprovoked by me. And are making out that I'm the issue, when that is how they conduct themselves. Bizarre.

Yes, that's the one. Thank you, it was highly unpleasant, and I totally agree with you!

I fairly routinely get called a man, a rape apologist, misogynist or failed woman.

FWIW I’m none of those things, I just happen to not share certain points of view, which is against the rules!

Thank you ❤️ I’m much, much better now and absolutely adore being a parent to my very beloved son. I hope you’re in a good place too.

And there that person is once again, with their nastiness - at least that's visible for all to see. There have been around 3-4 requests now for them to leave me alone. And yet, they continue, throwing at more insults about being hysterical.

It's nothing short of bullying behaviour at this point and I am requesting, for the 5th or so time now, that you leave me alone @Plastictrees

@teenmumstress24 You have been reported. Stop trying to take over the thread and writing repeat paragraphs to garner attention. Stop writing posts directed at me, quoting me and encouraging other posters to ‘pile on’ me which is your MO.