To ask what's the nastiest thing someone's said to you on here?

[Shinings]

Or the internet in general?

I really enjoy (for the most part) using mumsnet and have had some really helpful advice over the years and some good laughs. I know anything goes on here though, especially in AIBU and thats why I rarely post in this section. It's great to get honest advice but what's the difference between honest and cruel I wonder.

Mine was a couple of years ago when I posted on the relationships board about how I was struggling to overcome the fact that my ex partner and close friend ended up in a relationship a few months after we had split. It felt much worse as I had suffered a miscarriage a year before, cue some lovely poster telling me to basically get over it and that many people had suffered miscarriages before and I wasn't anything special - absolutely correct but that didn't make my situation any less sad or painful.

I can laugh about it now (the comment) but it was horrible at the time. I just can't imagine someone saying that to another persons face but people feel more confident behind a keyboard don't they. I'm sure others on here have worse examples. It only crossed my mind because I read a thread earlier and some of the comments were absolutely awful (I mean, really crossing the line and quite hurtful imo)

Ive another but not really the nastiest on here, telling a man to fuck off after being nice when he wouldn’t take my no as no and got the usual, well I got the pile on it was like being back at school in the playground. Thread was deleted. One went as far to say I deserved it.

I've never had anything really nasty on here. Or nothing that made me react in anyway beyond, "Well, you're an unpleasant little twat aren't you?" and scroll on.

Twitter as was, is far nastier. I'm a supply teacher, and mentioned in a reply to someone on a thread about poor behaviour, how a 7yo had recently called me a "Down Syndrome spa$tic" and threatened to punch me. Then some complete random went off on me for how dare I call that child out? etc etc. Called me all sorts of nasty names. It was quite shocking.

The most bizarre vitriol I ever had on here was on a thread about unpopular opinions.

I said that I thought the beatles were over rated and it kicked off, I was called uneducated, thick, lower class, I should keep my stupid opinions to myself... on and on it went (the majority of which was by the same person, but then I used an emoji and another poster said that was proof of my lack of education).

Very odd. And I still think they are over rated.

I had almost exactly the same years ago here on a discussion about overated artists and I said Paul McCartney. The abuse I got for an opinion! It was hilarious. I didn't even come on and say I thought he was shite or anything, just overrated.

" I feel sorry for your children." Trotted out on here. No doubt utteted by a perfect mum.
Ouch!

Uttered.
Can't remember whst I did that was wrong. Being single I guess.

It’s striking how wound up people get on here about differences of opinion. I do like The Beatles but reading your post doesn’t send me into a vitriolic rage. Often people cannot accept nuance and differences of opinion, they have to be objectively right. They must be exhausting in real life!

There is a current Christmas thread which is a great example of this, the discussion is now polarised with one side stating that those who open presents in the morning are greedy consumerists. The only side stating that those who open presents in the afternoon are miserable and abusing their children by making them wait. Ridiculous!

I got absolutely piled on by some parents of SEN children when I admitted I’d terminated for medical reasons a few years back. The irony being I had a child with special needs too, hence thinking two might not be a great idea. It was brutal, left me shaken and I avoided the site for several months after. I did get some nice dms from others who were on the thread though.

I got off lightly. I was described as toxic towards my niece, which was very far from the truth. I was particularly vulnerable at the time and I've never asked anything on this board since. I'd naively thought it was a safe space. That learned me.

This resonates with me because that's what I kept telling myself when I was terribly ill after second DC. I needed people around me to counteract my horrible thoughts, nor reinforce them. I hope you found your way through the darkness.

The worst was quite recently actually and it's stayed with me it was particularly nasty. I was told: "hopefully you'll do a better job next time around raising your second family", or words to that effect, when I posted about a challenging and stressful situation with my teenage daughter. I'd already highlighted that I was in floods of tears and struggling, and that's what I was told. Some people are disgraceful and really should consider that there's an actual real human being at the other end of their online words.

In the first days of covid lockdown, I asked why my neighbour might still be taking their child to nursery when she wasn't a key worker. I was told I was a Nazi and that I would've given Anne Frank up.

I made friends with the neighbour, who told me why, and I even shared the thread highlights with her. She found it funny at the time, though it made me feel truly awful and really anxious.

Yes I also had this, "I feel sorry for your daughter, no wonder she's never at home". Just a whole different level of unpleasant really. No need.

That I like one of my DC more than the other because I have one in private school and one in state school.

That my children's disabilities are my karma for me not stopping other children from bullying a child with those same disabilities when I was in infant/junior school.

I sought advice while I was in a physically abusive relationship, and was told to post elsewhere because I don't have children.

Mine was because at the time my user name was a novel which happened to be a male name.
I said something was ironic and the pp pointed out it wasn't irony, fair enough, but because she and other pp's thought i was a man they absolutely went to town belittling my intelligence.
It was vitriolic.
I realise now just what a man hating place mumsnet is.

It made me laugh when I read it but was nasty all the same. Got called a raging psychopath because I hoover up spiders🤨 never mind that I'm severely arachnophobic 😅

I had lots of 'I hope you die' and 'I hope your family dies'.

My crime? I had said on a local newspaper Facebook group back in the earlyish days of Covid that I thought it might be nice if all frontline workers were prioritised for Covid jabs. I had no skin in the game because I was over 60 so got an early jab anyway, but lots of people waded in to hope that I got Covid and died, and then extended that to my family. I still have no idea why!

. Got called a raging psychopath because I hoover up spiders🤨 never mind that I'm severely arachnophobic 😅

That one is deserved. Plenty of people with spider phobias don’t feel the need to destroy harmless and indeed beneficial creatures.

Hardly makes someone a psychopath though!

@ClaraThePigeon
Hoovering up spiders out of fear absolutely does not fit the definition of a psychopath; not even close.

I asked a question on the dog thread. Never again. I got some helpful replies but a few really nasty ones. I was a new dog owner hence my question which probably was a bit clueless but someone told me they hope my dog runs away and finds a better owner. Others said I don't deserve my dog etc. It actually really upset me.

Another one was when a poster misinterpreted my post which probably was phrased a bit clumsy. They called me cruel and callous. It really bothered me cos I hadn't meant what she thought at all, and the OPs post was quite sad and upsetting. I tried to clarify but there was a pile on, you know when one person tags you and rephrases it 'are you really saying X!' so everyone reads that version of your post not your actual words. I just hate that a vulnerable person felt someone was so mean at their lowest time.

This is outing.
My worst was fb.
I used the f word in a conversation with a good friend and my bil used his dw's fb page to comment on my post telling me I had degraded the family name and was humiliating myself and the family with my disgusting language.
My dd said 'is that all, I thought you must have at least used the c word.'
Never have, never will.

God knows what my fb friends thought about my bil sticking his oar in.
I didn't reply but I've been low contact for 4 years, no regrets.

We have a family joke now that when someone does something really bad we say 'Well at least they didn't say fuck.'

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