To ask what's the nastiest thing someone's said to you on here?

[Shinings]

Or the internet in general?

I really enjoy (for the most part) using mumsnet and have had some really helpful advice over the years and some good laughs. I know anything goes on here though, especially in AIBU and thats why I rarely post in this section. It's great to get honest advice but what's the difference between honest and cruel I wonder.

Mine was a couple of years ago when I posted on the relationships board about how I was struggling to overcome the fact that my ex partner and close friend ended up in a relationship a few months after we had split. It felt much worse as I had suffered a miscarriage a year before, cue some lovely poster telling me to basically get over it and that many people had suffered miscarriages before and I wasn't anything special - absolutely correct but that didn't make my situation any less sad or painful.

I can laugh about it now (the comment) but it was horrible at the time. I just can't imagine someone saying that to another persons face but people feel more confident behind a keyboard don't they. I'm sure others on here have worse examples. It only crossed my mind because I read a thread earlier and some of the comments were absolutely awful (I mean, really crossing the line and quite hurtful imo)

The most influential artist of my generation 🤣

Bloody hell, are you serious? That’s absolutely abhorrent. I’m so sorry for that and for your loss 💔
I truly hope that MNHQ deleted their comment although I know that’s futile once you’ve had to read that.

I was told to fuck off by some TERFs. I was sympathetic to the initial, nuanced post on the thread. However the discussion quickly disintegrated into simplistic black and white, ‘if you aren’t 1000% with us you’re against us’ thinking, with statistical and factual distortions and insults towards me and the few others objecting.

I remain grateful to the small tribe who tried to stick up for each other, and a few on the other side who said things had gone too far. I should have reported it, and would certainly do so in the future.

Nastiest thing was on a Facebook book page, got into heated discussion about books, then the person got personal, and told me to get plastic surgery, obviously looking at my fb profile, then went a step further and put laughing emoji on a post I put up about my mam passing away, it actually scared me that she went onto my page and yes I've changed my security settings.

@InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom god that is such a shitty thing to do to someone especially with it being about the loss of 2 children. Really hope that someone else was equally nasty to them on a thread giving them a taste of their own medicine. Sorry about your children 💐

Dunno about Mumsnet but on the internet in general I've been told:

'I hope you die of breast cancer'
'You'll soon stop your PC bullshit when you get gang-raped by illegal immigrants'
'Your ex wouldn't have hit you if you didn't deserve it'

I was called a SWERF (Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminist) in a feminism Facebook group because I mentioned that I had been trafficked into prostitution as a young woman.

Another time I was told I work in McDonald's after mentioning (in an ancient history group) that I have a degree in Ancient Greek History.

I wasn't quite sure how to react to either of those.

I've had that quite a bit on there. Perhaps they think I'll get angry or upset. 🙄

I had someone following me around on the boards and commenting on everything I posted becoming more and more nasty as they didn’t agree with anything I said, the way I typed, any of my ideas and sought me out to tell me I had some kind of mental issue and projecting all my disordered mentalness onto everyone else. I wasn’t replying to any of their posts or threads they would just find me. I deleted my whole account and took 6 months off MN and have never been back to the main board they used to hang around at.

Interesting, as it’s you who made a nasty comment to me which I posted earlier on. Now that you’ve had a taste of your own medicine hopefully you can be more mindful of how you speak to others in future and the impact this may have!

I posted some info about Sepsis after my husband ended up in a coma. I had a baby and small child at the time. Someone pretended to be a dr and said that i'd given out incorrect information. He wasn't a dr. He also told me that he wished my husband had died and told me to f off!
On mumsnet I asked for some really tricky legal advice over the situation involving my sibling and father who are both terminally ill. One poster decided that I was a troll so kept hounding me for more details to prove that i wasn't and a couple of others joined in. It was a bizarre situation triggered by me mentioning that my sibling owner their own home and was financially well off which was relevant to the post. They couldn't believe that this could be true given their health condition (addiction related). My sibling had been a high earner for years. It was just bizarre. Why would I invent something so particular to discuss? To be told that I was making it all up was really hurtful when i was dealing with so much at the time.

Subjects like religion and the paranormal, and more recently "drones / aliens" fascinate me. I look forward to a good woo thread - but always there's a contingent of "you're nuts, there's no such thing, don't be ridiculous" that just try to over-ride and shut it all down.

@MistressoftheDarkSide I'm a polytheist and practicing occultist/pagan, so magic, mysticism and the paranormal are all obviously keen interests of mine and I naturally come at them from the 'believer' perspective.

I've been the subject of insults (not on here) but elsewhere online because of what I am, and they have mostly come from those who think the subject matter is all nonsense/not real.

I don't expect everyone to share my views on witchcraft/theism/occultism, but I do expect to be treated with courtesy. Name-called and personal attacks are cruel and unnecessary. One can call the subject matter ridiculous without calling the person themselves stupid, ridiculous and crazy.

That they didn’t believe I had been raped because I didn’t follow their “script” on how a rape victim should behave. That was my first and last venture onto the feminism board.

i remember on a sub Reddit for parents of autistic children I was having a serious mental breakdown over the Christmas holidays due to my sons challenging behaviour and vented on what (I thought) was a safe space however another user told me it was my own fault and “birth defects” are a risk when you have a child and that I was a selfish abusive mother. I cried so much.

That I couldn't be bereaved that my young cousin had died as I've never celebrated their birthday. Cousin lived abroad and we would only be able to visit during school summer holidays. Their birthday was in March!

I am so sorry for those who were bullied over the loss of a child, or over being assaulted. These examples leave everything else in the dust.

Perhaps a moral is that we should report more often.

It wasn't said to me, but when I joined MN about 14 years ago, there was a very prolific poster who had a fan girl following.

The thread was about rape and when someone said her best friend had been raped, and later mentioned her best friend was male, this poster was vile.

She kept repeating in capital letters, "POOR MENZ, POOR MENZ, POOR MENZ".

The most disgusting part was that it took 2 days of reporting before MNHQ actually deleted her comments, and even then they only did it after the thread died.

I do wonder had she been less 'popular' with fewer fan girls, would it have been deleted much sooner and the poster in question banned.

Can you not see that you're obviously one of the nasty people this thread is talking about? Have you ever met a psychopath? It's a fucking spider I'm killing, not a baby. Dial down the outrage it's ridiculous

@HaddyAbrams @teenmumstress24 thanks for sticking up for me 😊 the poster obviously can't see the irony of what they're saying and the thread it's on 😂

Wtf?
So sorry to hear that.
Women can be such arses

@Plastictrees oh give it a rest!! Are you for real? You have been asked repeatedly by me to desist and yet you continue to try to engage with me on an entirely different thread??! Go away, leave me alone. You are absolutely the type of person this thread is referring to.

No worries! Psychopathic for killing spiders out of fear, dear god 😂 whatever next

Oh, and I remember on here a while back when I started a thread because I had been mistaken for a man for the second time - most people were lovely but a few told me that I ought to wear make up and grow my hair long so it didn't happen again!

Not nearly as bad as some of the treatment that some other posters have been subjected to, but changing my own appearance to make me look more 'feminine' just so others didn't have to read my (female) name badge was a bit 'off'.

The most cruel comments have come from MNetters. The one that stands out is when a mum said that the childfree by choice should unalive ourselves as there’s no point to our lives.

From what I've read throughout this thread me being a psycho spider killer is pretty tame in comparison 🤣