To ask what's the nastiest thing someone's said to you on here?

[Shinings]

Or the internet in general?

I really enjoy (for the most part) using mumsnet and have had some really helpful advice over the years and some good laughs. I know anything goes on here though, especially in AIBU and thats why I rarely post in this section. It's great to get honest advice but what's the difference between honest and cruel I wonder.

Mine was a couple of years ago when I posted on the relationships board about how I was struggling to overcome the fact that my ex partner and close friend ended up in a relationship a few months after we had split. It felt much worse as I had suffered a miscarriage a year before, cue some lovely poster telling me to basically get over it and that many people had suffered miscarriages before and I wasn't anything special - absolutely correct but that didn't make my situation any less sad or painful.

I can laugh about it now (the comment) but it was horrible at the time. I just can't imagine someone saying that to another persons face but people feel more confident behind a keyboard don't they. I'm sure others on here have worse examples. It only crossed my mind because I read a thread earlier and some of the comments were absolutely awful (I mean, really crossing the line and quite hurtful imo)

That I was mental and should “get in the bin” because I am still badly affected by being physically, mentally and sexually abused by my ex. Then posted rows of laughing emojis when I said I was leaving the thread due to the nasty comments.

I had one on the step parents board the other day saying I was jealous of a child and I was unhinged and aggressive because I had asked for help on one particular issue.

I was trying to express how sad I felt for DH and DS that MIL wanted no contact since she started a new family with her new DH.

I was laid into because my post was unsympathetic to all the mumnetters whose lives are made miserable by interfering MILs.

Ah, I'm sorry you had that happen - have a big unMumsnetty hug 🫂

I've had a few run ins on here, but the shield of anonymity goes both ways so I've given as good as I've got if it feels appropriate, mostly I roll my eyes and scroll on by.

Worst one was via Facebook - someone on my friends list, but not known to me personally, which is quite large because I used to have a business and DP and I were "active in the local community", took it upon themselves as a good "Christian" from a particular sect, to message me and tell me my late DPs sudden demise from undiagnosed cancer was God's punishment for our Gothic lifestyle and proceeded to tell me that unless I was exorcised and turned to Jesus, I would end up aline, sick and homeless. Oh, and I should hold my loved one's close while I had the chance.

I went completely postal as it wasn't long since the funeral and I was a bit drunk, and named and shamed her publicly. I got a 24 hour ban for bullying and she changed her profile and blocked me.

For that, I cannot forgive nor forget. It's a horrible icy cold feeling when you get an attack like that.

These days my profile is locked down and I barely use Facebook. I do think social media is a real problem in this regard.

Anyway - best wishes to you OP xxxx

what someone thought was nasty, but made me roll my eyes and sigh

"you must be a man!"
That was the worst insult they could think about. I feel sad for them to be honest.

This place is batshit sometimes.

Someone told me I “wasn’t special for being abused as a child”. As well as having an empathy bypass, she clearly lacked reading comprehension because I hadn’t been abused as a child, I worked with children who had been abused and commented on a post inline with my experience of that.

Didn’t bother me, but it could have been very hurtful to those members who had suffered from abuse as a child.

I hope she heals.

That my infertility meant I had an agenda, and I was clearly determined to make sure other women were as miserable as me by convincing them to have an abortion.

On a thread where the OP had decided to terminate for very sensible reasons but was understandably feeling the emotions of the situation (abusive relationship).

I was called sick for using nursery for a baby
When pregnant for the 2nd time, I was asked why I bothered considering my first goes to nursery

That she would hate to have a daughter as awful as me.

That was horrible, OP. Thank heavens that you are so resilient, many people would not be. I am so glad to hear that you are over that nasty nonsense. Going through a miscarriage is dreadful, and anyone who seeks to minimise that experience in any way is just awful.

I was asked if I had been 'hit in the head with a fire extinguisher'.

I can't remember what the argument was about.

I was right though.

Someone accused me of voting Tory 😱

I've witnessed some of the shittiest comments on here several times, I report twats on the regular (and have been told it didn't break rules and I could "challenge" the person! ) I've seen some some very aggressive armchair detectives on here, typing their options as facts.

I think lots of ppl on here spout utter shite they would never say in real life in a million years.
I also think some ppl find themselves amusing and try to say awful things for reactions.

Childhood abuse/trauma always seems to be a contest on here.

I was neglected as a child, lots of abuse of all kinds due to parents ill mental health. I've put huge effort into mending relationships and healing as an adult, but was told I 'must be lying about the abuse for attention, as you'd be NC if it actually happened.' ~ also, the age old MN love of, 'but they didn't MEAN to neglect you - they loved you! It wasn't abuse!'

Oh, these are awful, I'm very sorry and sympathetic to all of you.

I have been accused of being a man and some ridiculous acronyms

I got called a cunt once on Twitter by a Star Wars fanatic

Oh and under a different name two posters hounded me off a thread on here despite multiple apologies because I hadn't read the OP properly and asked a stupid question. It didn't occur to them that whilst I was an idiot they were bullies. I took note of one username and whenever I see her I think "Sanctimonious Bitch"

Someone else told me I'd been rude to someone on another thread, it was my own thread and they were the one being patronising and deserved my rudeness!

You sound really unwell.

My gran had died and one of my (apparently) best friends had humiliated me. Sure, I am unreasonable to be upset right?

That I was unhinged and no wonder a child had been kept away from me. ( missing a nephew ) it hurt .

Someone went batshit on me when I was having problems with my kid's school- bullying reception teacher, and my child had entirely stopped talking coming home with bruises, head teacher completely disinterested.

They laid into me, telling me I was the problem, I'm "that parent", it'll be shit at the new school because I'm a tosser, my kid was the problem, I'm making excuses for bad behaviour, and if there were problems which werent of my making it was my duty to stay and fix it at the expense of my child.

It really, really got me down. I was at the end of my rope.

In any case, I'd love to tell them that we moved school, my kid is now thriving, is supported for the undiagnosed SEN they were struggling with, have caught up, dealt with the trauma, and we've been followed by 2 staff members and at least 10 kids from the old school. The old school lost ~20 kids in one year group as people dropped like flies after we left, to the point OFSTED and the LA got involved.

I've had serious death threats on Twitter. The first time it really shook me.

That my youngest DDs life limiting condition that has seen her in ICU five times plus numerous operations was punishment because I initially planned to terminate the pregnancy when I found out.

Someone told me to go and walk off a pier

That’s awful.

Gosh that's disgusting @ARichtGoodDram I hope they got banned