Red Hair

[Motherland2624]

Hi 👋 i was wondering if i could get some help from you wise ladies
im 46 and have bright red hair its long well maintained and in great condition Ive had it for 10 years now i do sometimes mix it up with different shades but mostly stick to this colour
Ive recently met someone nice guy (I think ) high up corporate job nice lifestyle very casual which is ideal for me at this time in my life
He recently mentioned that my hair prevent would him from progressing to anything more serious in the future because the colour doesn’t fit in his world,I was a taken a back I’m a confident person or maybe naive I never imagined my hair colour would be a problem to anyone so AIBU should I go back to my natural colour I’ve put in a pic of my hair happy to take criticism

It brings to mind torches, pitchforks, and three-eyed villagers 😂

This message is perfect in its succinctness 😂

Your hair is lovely, and you shouldn't compromise for anyone.
Having said that, and been married for 20 years to a partner working in a conservative corporate job, I do think, yes, sadly you, or he would get judged for this.

Well at least he’s being honest saying it wouldn’t fit into his world. Obviously don’t change yourself for him.

Keep your hair colour and move on.

I'd tell him his attitude would prevent me from progressing the relationship at all. And then just pop him in the discard pile.

Don't change how you look for any person.

Op i dont like it I LOVE IT It looks great.
I have red wine hair i like different why blend in when you can stand out.

I am conservative when it comes to looks, not opinions and I would not have been attracted to anyone who wishes to stick out in the first place. He is attracted to you so he's just afraid if other people's opinions about you. Sounds like he's got some growing up to do.

My god your hair is beautiful. Keep the hair ditch the guy

My hair is a very bright unnatural colour. And it will stay that colour. Or any other colour I want it to be.
I'm not changing it for anyone. Especially not to 'fit in'

I hope you ditched his sorry ass!

This ^^

And ask him if he'd say the same to Professor Alice Roberts.

Nothing worse than a neck tattoo🤢..

He recently mentioned that my hair prevent would him from progressing to anything more serious in the future because the colour doesn’t fit in his world

Dump him now. He's a controlling cunt and he doesn't deserve you.

Seriously, stop worrying about your red hair and start worrying about the massive red flag this man's waving at you. Christ alive.

Nobody is 'prevented from progressing' by the colour of their girlfriend's hair. He's just saying it to make you feel shit.

I couldn't be with somebody so weak minded that they cared what other think enough for it to be an issue.

Also love neck tattoos to all the posters ragging on them lol, I'm considering having one that goes up my neck.

Sure, but the the OP isn't the one working in that world and seeking promotion. Her boyfriend is. He thinks her hair will harm HIS chances of promotion (and that it would embarrass him in the small village he lives in).

Do you seriously work for a company that a) somehow knows what everyone's partner looks like and b) keeps that info on file and blocks promotions on that basis? Because that would be really fucking weird and possibly not legal.

I didn't read anywhere that he's asked her to change her hair colour - he's just said it doesn't work for him. Why the pile on?

Yeah, put him in the bin and buy a lipstick to match that hair...

Ur hair is cool.
Side note. I'm a brunette who has tried every single colour known to man in reds/oranges/auburns/.
Lifetime wannabe ginger. Best colour of hair ever.

Oh sorry, meant to add, get rid of this lying freak now. Tell
Him it's 2025.
Or is he married?

I've just gone that colour from an auburn red as I was tired with the auburn colour.

Don't listen to this man. He doesn't know what he's talking about!

Blimey trial by sherry for corporate jobs went out with the ark. What nonsense. Bin him off immediately. He doesn't deserve such gorgeous hair in his life.

Great comment! Exactly this. Don't change.

Do not change your hair colour for him!!

He's being ridiculous.
I live in a small village and my hair colour can be blonde one day and pink/lilac another. I get nothing but compliments.
I also have a very serious job.

I’ve recently met someone nice guy (I think ) high up corporate job nice lifestyle very casual which is ideal for me at this time in my life

I have a “high up corporate job” and bright purple hair. 🤷🏻‍♀️