To completely go against DH beccause I think his opinion is ridiculous

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DH has a very strong opinion about one particular hobby, football. He HATES it and the culture around it, in his words.He has a very very strong opinion on it. He has family that are football obsessed and hated it growing up, the drinking and shouting and getting so riled up by the score.

He cannot stand it when he feels like it's someone's whole life, the only topic they talk about, when people go out to the pub and are screaming and shouting or getting angry because of the score and so on.

Basically you get the gist, he fucking HATES football. I'm not into football so it doesn't really come up much in our house although he does know that I think his opinion is too strong / silly.

Our son went to a party recently. He is typically very shy (he's 4) and never usually joins in things however he recently went to a football party (a toddler footy session) and he loved it and hasn't stopped going on about it.

The guy who runs it does a toddler / young kids football session on a Saturday morning, I want to see if DS would like to go but in the past DH has made it clear that he absolutely doesn't want any DC doing football as a hobby, anything else but that.

Wibu to go completely against his opinion because I think it's ridiculous and take DS anyway if he wants to go.

Team sports are good for SOME children’s development.

I agree with your husband! We are a rugby family, much nicer.

its a shame your DH has had such a bad experience of football and football fans. As with everything there’s a huge range of people involved in, and ways of enjoying, football.

In 30 odd years of actively following football I’ve experienced the poor behaviour your DH hates barely a handful of times. But thousands of example of fun and kindness. My DH and son both play, and love the sport. Again, there are people we’re not keen on involved, but loads of fantastic, enthusiastic and generous people too.

Is your DH always so blinkered and stubborn? I’d challenge him on that, and take your son to some sessions, it’s a great sport to make friends, have fun and learn team spirit. It’s easy to avoids the less pleasant elements, especially at 4yo!

My husband is Rangers through and through. Imagine his disgust when he was reconnected with his long lost dad’s family to find out his uncle was a famous Celtic player 🤣

Unfortunately though, it’s not just the Scottish teams. In the 80s, football hooliganism was awful in England. That’s why Hillsborough was blamed on the Liverpool fans.

Honestly I wouldn't take him. Football even for toddlers is a toxic environment - and I say this as a juniors football referee. It's rarely the players I'm giving warnings to but every match it's parents and not for the abuse they give me I'm a big girl I can take it. It's for the horrible abuse they give the kids! And I'm yet to meet a coach who will say that what the parents are doing is wrong!

It's our job as parents to encourage things sour children like. Not parent them to things we like. (Unless they show interest)

My very shy son has taken an interest and is loving club he's become so much more confident, not much of a reader a d now is reading veresciosly all things football.

They like what they like?

My ex hated football too. Banned from our shared house etc etc and now I get so much satisfaction (that without any input) my little man has self selected football.

Beware, kids football parents are everything your husband hates!

Maybe your husband hates it so much cos he was shit at it?
Don’t stop your child from doing something he enjoys because of your husbands bizarre hatred

Your husband needs to go to therapy it's ok to not like something it's absolutely not OK to forbid your children from liking it , he doesn't get to dictate what others like and enjoy

I think you have to let your son try . Let’s days chances are he won’t stick it. .
You and your dh are all football thug behaviour so you can teach your son about the game and skill and ping him away from the nonsense that goes with it .

In our house we love football. We have season tickets (me and DH support different teams DS1 supports same team as him DS2 same as me) and both our boys play. But we also hate football. Kids football can be toxic. Parents thinking their kids in the next messi and then it causes trouble. And yes the football results can make or break a weekend!! Especially when our teams play each other. But you child needs to make his own decision whether he wants to play or not.