Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

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Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

Yes, was thinking the same.
Not something really to brag about either.

Nah it's full of pervy men who ask for some sexy time via PM with willing people who say they're women.

I'm baffled by the fact some people think he's lying! Y'all having 5 minutes shags? What on earth is going on lol.

Me and do can go for a couple of hours at a time but it doesn't feel like it, we often look at the clock when finished and are like woahh that was longer than expected but you haven't really noticed because, well, times flies eh. We are both very athletic though 😂.

Did he say he needs it to be an hour? We have the occasional quickie at around 20 minutes when in a rush/on our way out somewhere.

Oddly, it seems a waste of his erm, potential, if you date him and don't like it. I suppose lots of women would be pleased that it wasn't all over in a few minutes.

I would hate an hour of PIV sex. Apart from getting sore and bored, I’d wonder why he wasn’t turned on enough to finish after that long. If there’s a medical cause he needs to do something about it rather than just thrust and thrust 3000 times!

Absolutely the fuck not. He can finish himself off manually if you're done and he's not!

What’s wrong with an hour? I’m not having sex for 5 minutes and being done 🤣

If they are giving you clear obvious signs of sexual incompatibility then it makes sense to seriously consider ending it before it gets to that stage rather than wait until you've had sex.

A good way to catch thrush.

Is he telling you this because he thinks it's a good thing or a bad?

e.g. he think's he's a super stud and can just keep going, or he has erectile issues and can't ejaculate.

An hour of PIV - no thanks. I'd get bored.

Can you agree that you can nap in the middle?

Don’t have to agree, but no need to be rude either. You claim not to judge but your last post reeked of it. It’s perfectly possible to love sex without wanting it to go on for hours and hours.

In my case, I’m hyperorgasmic and climax very easily. I have to hold my orgasm off for as long as I can to match my DH. Once I’ve orgasmed, I feel warm and contented and do lose interest in sex at that point, preferring to cuddle - at least for a while. It’s the same mechanism that causes men to usually need a rest after ejaculation before going again. Hence DH and I usually work together to ensure we climax at the same time, which after 20 years together we are very good at.

On a functional level, I would certainly be sore after an hour plus PIV. We also have young children so lying in bed all day would be impossible. And we are very active and outdoorsy so it would feel lazy and unproductive to us.

I guess we’re all different huh?

I wouldn't end it, I'd see what the craic was (and tell him not to have a w**k for a day or two before the occasion...! )

I've dated a guy who bragged about tantric sex and didn't last beyond foreplay, and also one who claimed DE was down to his AD's and it was actually down the silly amounts of porn he watched. Once the porn stopped, sex became far more interesting with him.

Basically if chemistry is good elsewhere, I'd suck it and see so to speak. However be prepared if you get into a relationship with him, you may need to have some honest conversations so make sure you're comfortable with that with him, that's more important imho!

Good luck!

Not sure if this has been said but I find men who last that long usually have a porn addiction. I haven't come across (pun intended) anyone who lasts that long but isnt a porn addict, so make of that what you will.

No it's not 😆

I was with someone like this. He took an hour through masturbation as well. Half the time he didn't even finish. Needless to say the sex wasn't enjoyable for me.

Ironically.

I had a boyfriend like this many, many years ago. I ended the relationship very quickly. Sex for that long was boring, made me sore and his slowness (and often failure) to orgasm made me feel undesirable.

I'd say on average start to finish with foreplay DH and I go an hour. I don't personally think it's too long unless it's literally PIV for an hour but everyone's different.

I have had two men say this to me before meeting them. One is my DH and one was an ex long term partner. It didn’t put me off because I just took it as a challenge, and the challenge was passed with flying colours hence, in part, them becoming long term partners.

If you’re good in bed they’ll soon find they don’t last that long.

You think a quickie is 20 mins?! Is it because you or your DH need that long in order to orgasm? All the men I have been with that take hours have been pretty rubbish in bed. Even an extremely fit pro athlete would be unable to keep up the level of performance and passion that I want for 2+ hours. But horses for courses, I guess its good that we all enjoy different things.

It sounds like the kind of thing a really childish and annoying man would say thinking he's making himself sound impressive. Like my next door neighbour who spends all day bragging on the phone; "All the birds wanna shag me mate, yeh lad, but then when they see it they're like, (high pitched voice) "Nah man, I can't, that's too big, it will hurt!" so I never get any cos it's so big lad!" in between various threats/ promises about kicking people's heads in.

I'd drop him and tell him why- because frankly, mate, you sound dead boring in bed innit lad and I got better things to do with an hour of my life.

This. Jesus who could be arsed

If I had the time, then every time would be an hour or more. If I was with a man and it was just foreplay and then 10 minutes I'd be unimpressed. I love a quickie as much as anyone but foreplay and 10 minutes? No ta! I want to thrown all over and given the old 'good seeing to'! Foreplay and 10 minutes would give me one orgasm. I can do that with a quickie, it wouldn't be worth taking your clothes off!

Give him a go OP, you might be surprised and if it's shit, throw him back!

Just to say that some men with heart conditions do take that long, its not prowess, its to do with the blood flow and pump rate form the heart.

Um not for me, I be bored.