Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

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Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

Well we take turns with who is doing the leg work so to speak lol, I don't want mindless thrusting for two hours straight that would be shite.

No we don't necessarily need 2 hours to come, as I said we can do a quickie if time is short but generally take our time. I probably come up to 8 times, though a few occasions have been a couple more. If we do 20 minutes I maybe only come one or two sometimes 3 times. Dh can come more than once, so sometimes he orgasms then we just go on until he can come again, he doesn't lose his erection after coming. But most of the time he just controls when he orgasms, and comes once at the end, whenever that may be. He can hold off or speed things up.

For what it's worth, DH is an endurance runner so doesn't ever really get tired out. I am also extremely athletic. I don't find two hours of sex particularly taxing. When we first met and it was all much more new and exciting, we sometimes used to do all nighters and those were quite exhausting 😳 we were a few years younger then though haha.

You don't know that he didn't. But regardless, he brought up the subject; it's pretty much on her to continue the discussion. Remember, this isn't an attempt to pressure someone in the heat of the moment but an actual sensible adult discussion before having sex.
It feels like you just want to frame him as being awful in some way, when all we really know is that he claims to take a long time to come.

OP didn't mention that he did, so I'm going solely off what she wrote. Pretty sure she'd have mentioned it if he'd reassured her.

It doesn't sound adult to me; it sounds teenage and inexperienced (or selfish..) on his behalf. That's my experience with men like this, and plenty of other women, too.

It's your right to enjoy an hour of excessive PIV if that's what you like every time. OP clearly doesn't!

Plenty of people suggested it might just be delayed ejaculation on this thread. But really, my personal experience is consistent with the Mumsnet swarm and I sincerely believe that statistically it is far less likely to be a genuine medical matter and more likely to be the inevitable side effect of limbic capitalism.

But only the OP knows him, and will know what kind of vibe he was giving off. If it was supposed to impress or if it was was something he was worried about. Maybe it was the word "notoriously" in the OP, I don't want to be intimate with someone who has been 'intimate' with enough other people to have developed notoriety. I might have misunderstood the OP.

Is he seriously claiming that if he retained his semen for, let's a say week - or a fortnight, it would really take an hour of sportfucking to get it out?

Edited to add: female and male sexual organs are very different and orgasms are not directly comparable.

If DH needed to bang away for over an hour I honestly think I'd cry? Luckily, he still gets inordinately excited if I even just take my vest off. We've got it down to a fine art, all fun and done in just over 20 mins, last one back downstairs puts the kettle on <smug>

Why do you need to cum 8 times? Are you sure you're doing it right?

Sounds ideal.

OP - when I was much younger I dumped a bloke for this. Apparently so did his previous girlfriend so I think it was him not me.

My poor vagina could not cope with that long!!!!

My ex husband was like this. Except it wasn't just an hour, it could go on for literally 3-4 hours.
He'd be telling me to 'do this' 'do that' 'turn over'.... you get the idea.
This was going on until gone 3 in the morning when l had to be up at 5 for an early shift. I'd say l was sore, and wasn't he, and he'd say "No, l can't feel anything."
So obviously he wasn't going to get there. I eventually put my foot down and said half an hour at most, then we stop. But he'd carry on, despite me saying no.
So l'd refuse to have sex, the next time he initiated it. Then he got nasty.
We went to Relate. Our counsellor said it was likely retarded ejaculation due to anger issues with him, and that if we split up, he'd be the same with his next partner. I don't know if that was the case, though.
He used to blame me, but I've had relationships since, and they were fine.
I would never put up with that again (I'm single in my 60s, though, and happy to stay that way now) - l just felt like a (sorry) hole for him masturbate into.
He didn't care whether l came or not.
I hope he's treating his current wife better.

I don't want to be having sex for that long?!

So there's your answer. It doesn't matter about the replies on here. It only matters whether you want this kind of sex, and you seem to know that you don't.

Sounds like my idea of hell.

Not far from Liverpool, which is where he has come from. I wish he would go back.

Get rid. You’ve been warned and now he’s expecting you to go along with the full hour just for his pleasure.

It would massively put me off.

Delayed ejaculation is a well known side effect of many ADs. That seems the most likely explanation. Some of the replies on here are wild.

How horrendous and sounds similar to my ex husband. He was the same with his first wife too!

The 2 men I’ve encountered that lasted over an hour did so because they had porn additions and slept around a lot, obviously didn’t tell me this before.

*DeepRoseFish *
It's awful. I was made to feel like there was something wrong with me.
I'm pretty sure there isn't.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that too.

Think of the cystitis!!

gawd how boring - total turn off

far prefer sex you can get done in the ad break

I mean personally I'd have to at least have a test drive before I could make a decision

Why do you need to cum 8 times? Are you sure you're doing it right?

@Digdongdoo To be fair, if she's coming 8 times, rest assured, she's doing it right.

Not buying it. Nobody has 8 good orgasms in them at once.

Not buying it. Nobody has 8 good orgasms in them at once.

@Digdongdoo

Oh they do! Tends to be when either kids arnt born or kids are grown or if you've got good GPs that are willing to supply the childcare but it is possible!

What OPs 'hotshot' has neglected to tell her though, is if his one hour is literally an hour of banging like a Joiner with his Hammer or an hour of properly intense intercourse and they are world apart!

If you say so.

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