Page 19 | To hate the groans and moans

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/12/2024 22:51

Seems to me that the has wanted out for a while but has taken Legal Advice from the Bar.....that is a mate down the pub. "If she chucks you out mate, you will get the kids and loads of money..."

Its not true but its not the first time a man would try to make himself so unattractive that his wife gets rid of him.

But how much are emotionally healthy children worth? How much would you pay, right now, for a sofa to yourself and no fucking burping?

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 17/12/2024 22:53

I have one word to say...

well three words actually :)

Milk of Magnesia !!!

it's vile, buy it in for his indigestion. That should stop the rude burping.

I got the ick reading your first post, by the time I read all of them - you have my sympathy, I wouldn't still be there.

Imbusytodaysorry · 17/12/2024 22:57

Disagreeable · 17/12/2024 22:49

I'm glad I made some of you laugh. Sorry to have turned this into another miserable-my-husband-is-a-prick thread.

Shall I tell you some other gross things he does?

When he cooks a roast, as he sits down to carve the chicken, he will lean across the table and says "I love me a stuffed cavity" and winks at me. Every. Single. Time. For the last 8 years.

I've got more of this stuff. Maybe I should write a book. The 100 reasons I left my husband.

Is this real ? If so wow

Doubledenim305 · 17/12/2024 22:58

Definitely icky. Gross behaviour. Ur absolutely not being unreasonable.

Fannyfiggs · 17/12/2024 23:02

I love me a stuffed cavity

Just when you think it can't get any worse 😱

Isinglass20 · 17/12/2024 23:13

“and the guy opposite ate with his hands” ugh. British society today. I would have had to leave the table to vomit 🤢

Doubledenim305 · 17/12/2024 23:17

Disagreeable · 16/12/2024 15:47

I don't know what it's all about @GoldsolesLugs But he can be a dickhead.

For example I've just been in the garden on my lunchbreak to fix the garden fence. He's not working this week. I came in to tell him I've struggled to fix it properly.

He said:

"Now, another husband might helpfully suggest he would go out to take a look himself but given you're such a strong feminist type, I wouldn't want to patronise you and go out and help"

Cue lots of laughing. He wont go out there so I'll back out there tomorrow.

So the thought he is burping to wind me up isn't unthinkable

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Hes goading you.
Not a nice person. Disgusting is one thing. Nasty, gaslighting and taunting u to see how.bad he can be to you before u call time on him.
He's awful 😔
Fight back and get him to behave or leave.

TessTimoney · 17/12/2024 23:23

Disagreeable · 15/12/2024 23:10

Dh is 45. I'm 37. Dh in the last 18 months is just endless noise. I'm lying in bed right now as he's just groaning to himself. Guttural groans. His sneezes are so loud they make my toddler cry or me jump out of my skin. After dinner he lies on the sofa and then sits up and let's out a series of burps, groans and clearing of his throat for what feels like a good minute or two. He eats so quickly he hiccups during the meal so loudly but keeps eating regardless

This is combined with him never leaving the house and talking to me about prices in Tesco and whether the tyres in the car are safe (he checks them before we drive anywhere), I feel like I'm living with an elderly man. Maybe that's rude about elderly men.

I think I have the ick. I mean the word ick gives me the ick.

I have asked him to stop burping at least and he said he'd stop in frotn of the kids but he hasn't. He said I'm uptight but the constant noises is really extreme. In writing this post he has grooooooannnned about 4 times.

(Yesterday evening he had some snot hanging from his nose and honestly I felt sick).

You poor thing! Unfortunately the Ick is the death knell for any relationship. Get your finances, etc. sorted and make plans for a happier life

FictionalCharacter · 17/12/2024 23:30

Disagreeable · 17/12/2024 11:24

a little rant quickly.....he's off work this week (he does work, just not v much)....i stayed later this morning to help with DC. I got a train into my job at 9.30am (too late really as it's an hour commute into the city i work in so walking in at 10.30am isn't great).

Anyway - i sit down on the train and start working. my boss is on me straight away askign where things are (we have risk of redundancy in the team at the moment and i'm a director so lots of pressure about budgets)

30 mins into train journey i check my phone to 11 missed calls and messages from DH "PICK UP" etc.

I call back and he's shouting at me for not picking up my phone. "Your son is crying for you. Your son needs you. Why don't you pick up the phone" and puts my 3 year old on video call (he's upset about something minor) and then preceeds to be "you were on a train, too busy and important to pick up the phone" etc etc.

I messaged him telling him he's unacceptable and to not talk to me like that. He hasn't replied.

USELESS MANCHILD.

You're in a dreadful marriage with a dreadful man, yet in later posts you're still making light of it all. I think the seriousness of it hasn't sunk in yet.
This was never just about noises and you know that. You've now laid the truth bare on this thread - now you have to decide whether you're worth more.
A lot of women justify staying with "but he's a good dad'. They are usually clearly no such thing and your H certainly isn't.

yipyipyop · 17/12/2024 23:33

Disagreeable · 17/12/2024 22:49

I'm glad I made some of you laugh. Sorry to have turned this into another miserable-my-husband-is-a-prick thread.

Shall I tell you some other gross things he does?

When he cooks a roast, as he sits down to carve the chicken, he will lean across the table and says "I love me a stuffed cavity" and winks at me. Every. Single. Time. For the last 8 years.

I've got more of this stuff. Maybe I should write a book. The 100 reasons I left my husband.

In front of your kids?

Dash0Cal · 17/12/2024 23:36

You’re very funny, op, but your situation isn’t. I can’t believe this is what you want for yourself or your children.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 17/12/2024 23:36

Disagreeable · 17/12/2024 22:49

I'm glad I made some of you laugh. Sorry to have turned this into another miserable-my-husband-is-a-prick thread.

Shall I tell you some other gross things he does?

When he cooks a roast, as he sits down to carve the chicken, he will lean across the table and says "I love me a stuffed cavity" and winks at me. Every. Single. Time. For the last 8 years.

I've got more of this stuff. Maybe I should write a book. The 100 reasons I left my husband.

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Hmm that reminds me. Must get chipolatas for the pigs in blankets

SALaw · 17/12/2024 23:46

That's not "useless manchild" territory. That's abusive and uncaring. Useless manchild is like doesn't know where you keep the calpol or something.

Snakebite61 · 17/12/2024 23:53

Disagreeable · 15/12/2024 23:10

Dh is 45. I'm 37. Dh in the last 18 months is just endless noise. I'm lying in bed right now as he's just groaning to himself. Guttural groans. His sneezes are so loud they make my toddler cry or me jump out of my skin. After dinner he lies on the sofa and then sits up and let's out a series of burps, groans and clearing of his throat for what feels like a good minute or two. He eats so quickly he hiccups during the meal so loudly but keeps eating regardless

This is combined with him never leaving the house and talking to me about prices in Tesco and whether the tyres in the car are safe (he checks them before we drive anywhere), I feel like I'm living with an elderly man. Maybe that's rude about elderly men.

I think I have the ick. I mean the word ick gives me the ick.

I have asked him to stop burping at least and he said he'd stop in frotn of the kids but he hasn't. He said I'm uptight but the constant noises is really extreme. In writing this post he has grooooooannnned about 4 times.

(Yesterday evening he had some snot hanging from his nose and honestly I felt sick).

🤣🤣🤣 move out, or better still, move him out.

Icouldusetherapy · 17/12/2024 23:58

Omg, you just made me laugh so much! 🤣 Not sure why though. Im in bed with a literal steam train puffing away next to me.

Yankadoodledoo · 18/12/2024 00:00

Check your finances op and make sure he’s not robbing you in anticipation of a divorce.

Peanutssuck · 18/12/2024 00:11

I need to read this entire thread, it sounds like my ex DP. Was overweight, did exactly the same thing, burping, farting, groaning. Ate his food so fast he practically inhaled it. And yet if he'd slowed down, none of the above would have existed. Moaned constantly about everything, constantly negative. Split up 2 months ago - It is SO peaceful in my house, I love it!

Boomerma1969 · 18/12/2024 00:19

My ex husband was very similar. A good man in the main, but the endless moaning about his back pain, a permanently bunged up nose that he never blew, but picked all the time, clearing his throat of mucus, but the worst thing was the constant farting that stank coz he drank protein shakes with added things like Spirulina. He found the farting most amusing and wd waft a fart my way whilst saying 'smell my joy' 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️. tried on many occasions to get him to do all these things in another room or outside, but he ignored me or was ratty at what he considered being nagged at. The reality sadly is the person disrespects you when behaving this way, they are ignoring your wants, they don't care. First the sex and intimacy went, I was no longer interested, then the connection went, we were passing ships and eventually we got divorced. 5 years down the line I have never been so happy to be away from blokey, laddish behaviour. I am so sorry u are going thru this. Please try and have a serious talk with yr hubby as it won't stop otherwise. I do hope he listens. All the best to you.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 18/12/2024 00:25

Disagreeable · 15/12/2024 23:47

The burps are unacceptable aren't they? Groans are one thing but he eats dinner, gets up from the table (while everyone else is still eating) to lie on the sofa (near table) and then will lean forward towards the floor to let out burps. He tells me he is "relaxing".

Oh god, I actually guffawed at this! 😅😂

Peanutssuck · 18/12/2024 00:32

Boomerma1969 · 18/12/2024 00:19

My ex husband was very similar. A good man in the main, but the endless moaning about his back pain, a permanently bunged up nose that he never blew, but picked all the time, clearing his throat of mucus, but the worst thing was the constant farting that stank coz he drank protein shakes with added things like Spirulina. He found the farting most amusing and wd waft a fart my way whilst saying 'smell my joy' 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️. tried on many occasions to get him to do all these things in another room or outside, but he ignored me or was ratty at what he considered being nagged at. The reality sadly is the person disrespects you when behaving this way, they are ignoring your wants, they don't care. First the sex and intimacy went, I was no longer interested, then the connection went, we were passing ships and eventually we got divorced. 5 years down the line I have never been so happy to be away from blokey, laddish behaviour. I am so sorry u are going thru this. Please try and have a serious talk with yr hubby as it won't stop otherwise. I do hope he listens. All the best to you.

It's the immaturity behind it all....my ex did exactly the same thing, "wafting" it in my direction. I'm not 12 ffs...and neither was he...44 ....I'm sensing a theme 🤣🤣🤣

Single50something · 18/12/2024 00:52

Neveranynamesleft · 15/12/2024 23:20

I got the ick just reading that. Next time he starts groaning do it back to him and see how he likes it.

We can hear our neighbour making annoying groaning/yawning noises through the wall!! I sometimes do it back as its so blimmin annoying!

Petlover9 · 18/12/2024 01:36

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 15/12/2024 23:22

Oh God he sounds horrific. Sorry @Disagreeable You have my deepest pity. If he isn't stopping these dreadful ways, I would be getting my ducks in a row tbh. I couldn't stay married to him. Not helpful sorry!

Got to agree with this ^^OP. Why isn't he at work? If you can't leave because of children, get him some night shifts (7nights a week if possible)! Has he always lacked manners or is it a new thing? You have my sympathy💐

ForQuirkyFawn · 18/12/2024 01:40

Haha love the comments....it isn't only men who make weird noises, my ex used to grunt and groan in her sleep and fart loudly. I had to sleep on the couch sometimes and on occasion she would fart so loud she woke herself up, and then blamed me for doing it...

Petlover9 · 18/12/2024 02:33

TessTimoney · 17/12/2024 23:23

You poor thing! Unfortunately the Ick is the death knell for any relationship. Get your finances, etc. sorted and make plans for a happier life

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Yes @TessTimothy I agree and would suggest the OP begins a savings a/c using her parents address (or other trusted relative). She deserves so much better than that ignoramus and his crude uncouth behaviour.

MelodyFinch · 18/12/2024 04:27

Maybe he should be given the once over by the the doctor to ensure there is nothing medical going on. It does sound deliberately antisocial. He needs to know that it is adversely affecting your life. I have my grandsons to stay, the have bad colds. I have a box of tissues in each room. I pass one, without a word, every time it’s needed. They have improved vastly. Don’t stand for it. He will deteriorate. I wonder about dementia. My mother behave in an anti- social manner before dementia became obvious. It was frontal lobe dementia.