As someone whose family is from a developing nation where there probably is what some would call a “village”, I really agree there’s also a lot of misogyny there (in some countries) which leads to the men not pulling their weight and other women stepping in to fill the gaps to everyone’s detriment apart from the men.
And many of these women work outside the home too btw.
It translates really badly when they come over to the west with their families, because the wives may not have that same network of women , but the men still expect to be hands-off.
My cousin is a doctor and gets frustrated when he sees the lack of support so many (married) women from certain cultures have. Eg, they are more likely to turn up at the hospital when pregnant and unwell without their partner as the husband has left them to it.
This is not the same for all non-western countries btw, some of the men are very attentive but there is an issue in some cultures about expecting women to do all the work.
It can be across any cultures really, I had a childhood friend who is English and would complain about her mum and sister not babysitting and giving her a night off but as I’ve said - why does her partner not take the kids for a night??!
She’s had the kids herself plenty of times and let him go out. In fact until her kids were at school I never once saw her without them.
Why is she expecting more from her mum than the children’s father? There’s been times shes even demanded more from me as well - and I’ve pointedly said she should ask her partner for more help instead.